To be asked to ring in work each day when you are off sick..

[curlysmum]

I have been off work for almost two weeks with this sickness bug then it developed into flu and I am off this week my second week. In my first week I rang I think 3 times to state I was ill then finally saw the doctor last Friday who took one look at me and said you need to rest and I 'm signing you off for 1 more week.
I rang my boss on Monday to tell him this put the Certificate in the post and now today he calls me at home , sounding a bit on the sarcastic side 'how are you' etc I explained all of it again he says , 'so when will you be back ' I told him next Monday and he sounded not impressed so I told him well I have sent in my Doctors certificate etc, he says well I still want you to call in each day WTF! am I a child or a 38 year old women, my dd father said I shd ring the Human Resources lady and give her a piece of my mind. By the way this is a very big American City Company who treat most women like idiots anyway, any view on this??

Ah, don't worry DC, I did realise you were different people - although at one point I thought you may be brother and sister, or worse still married to each other - lol

Your post is very reasonable though DC, for a change !?! Yes, HR has lots of little spies, be very careful if you want to keep your job, I think I said that too to curly much further down. Good advice

Xenia, if an employee is messing an employer around, the employer is well within his/her rights to take them 'down the route'.

You speak like it is the majority of part-time working mothers that do this. It really isnt the case at all.

In fact, in my experience of HR work, interviewing and recruiting staff, and managing them - I found that working parents - full OR part-time - who had bills and rent/mortgage to pay were far less likely to muck their employer around, because they had so much more to lose than just their job. The women - particularly part time also knew that they felt they had to work That Bit Harder to be noticed and taken seriously for promotion prospects.

There were 2 working mothers who mucked the company around somewhat IIRC, and at least 20 who were young folk, living with their parents.

Worst of all were Managers, who felt that they had earned their right to fiddle expenses, mileage, "working from home", private work, days off sick, simply because they were managers, adn they knew they had a very dedicated team beneath them vying for their position.

VVV, that's true. When people say how did I manage working and with 5 children I've often said the children are teh reason you have to work hard as they're so expensive to keep. If I didn't have any I could mess around and not work very hard at all.

working with five children must be hard yes, especially when you have a housekeeper, nanny and a cleaner.

yes

responding to the op

whole thing screams f distrust to me

and/or he is projecting what he does when wfh hence doesnt trust/believe you are ill

he sounds pathetic and threatened ...

knobhead

adding to your stress will only create more problems

you should treat employees as you would your best customers for they are your most valuable resource

register his innappropriate behaviour calmly and clearly with hr and get back to doing a good job ... let him cock up for himself

he will

ps

male/female

scottish/seastern (seems we have a new country in the british isles)

part/full time

cleaner/MD

whatever ... it is about trust and respect

or the lack of

whadda you mean cod? was that to me? or were you being sarcastic. (never sure with you!)

I think your boss sounds as though he doesn't have enough to do. If I had notified my boss that I was going to be off sick until day X, he would be a bit bemused,and possibly rather annoyed, if I still kept phoning him every day to say, "Hi, its me, just to say, I'm still ill, cough, cough".

I've seen this from the management side of things a couple of times. It's messy. Some managers don't want to be involved, others think the employee is malingering, and everyone tries to compensate for their lack of accurate knowledge of employment law by using golf and/or soccer analogies.
Confusion implies wekaness, but as we all know that weak people are more dangerous. They stick to stupid paths regardless of things they see along the way, then suddenly flip to another for a trivial reason.
That's why HR people are often seen as so nasty. They are trying to put a corporate face on a mess, and they are getting grief from more senior people who confuse obeying employment laws and rational staff management with weakness, but who aren't prepared to do the dirty work themselves.