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To not cut my daughter's hair

54 replies

Uhohmummy · 12/02/2017 14:27

Dd is 4 and has shoulder length hair. She has never liked having her hair washed or brushed and even though I try to tie it back out of her face any style last minutes before she's pulled it out and her hair is all over the place. Recently she's been asking to have it cut short "like daddy" or "like a boy". I wouldn't mind her having short hair if she likes it but I'm worried she'll get it cut then not like it and it's not so easy to go back.
Does anyone have any experience of this?

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ThaliaLuxurySpa · 12/02/2017 15:39

Endo,

You might not have liked your haircut, but you had a very cute face (if somewhat serious expression in that pic!). Lovely eyes.

OP,

Ewe's suggestion of trying out virtual hairstyles online with her is a good one. Take it from there. Hope she enjoys whatever she finally chooses.

Allthebestnamesareused · 12/02/2017 16:42

Have it cut into a little bob so that if she does want to grow it long again she doesn't have to grow layers out.

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abbsisspartacus · 12/02/2017 16:46

Ive got the opposite problem ds wants long hair we are growing it at the moment it looks a mess my 16 year old has just had hers all chopped off too Confused

gamerchick · 12/02/2017 16:51

It's her hair. Take her to the hairdressers.

My 10 yr sons after a man bun so we've kept the top long, put some streaks in and every week we tie it to see how long his tuft is. They get so little control in life when young, let them have their hair the way they choose.

paddypants13 · 12/02/2017 16:55

Dd had hair just below her shoulders until June last year when she had it cut into a long bob with a side fringe. She hated having it brushed, washed or tied up so I discussed it with her and decided to go for it.

She asks for it short like her dad's every time we go to the hairdressers so we have been gradually been getting shorter. It's now cut into a graduated bob. Short at the back and longer at the front. She loves it and gets loads of compliments. It has also reduced my morning and bathtime stress levels.

I've attached a pic of the back. It's not great because I have ds asleep on me!

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ExPatchwork · 12/02/2017 17:10

DD (4) has a pixie cut. She loves it! Gets loads of compliments for it too.

yikesanotherbooboo · 12/02/2017 17:24

I'm with the majority... cut it.. who is it benefitting long? That's the great thing about hair it grows again. Personally I'm not keen on long hair on young children . it's a fuss that they don't need and usually looks messy. I remember having my hair brushed/ washed when I was a child and it always seemed to hurt. I think short/ bobbed hair looks sweet and is practical.

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Uhohmummy · 12/02/2017 19:52

Ok IABU! Will definitely be cutting it now. I hadn't thought of going for a bob first and then shorter if she still wants to but will try that - thanks for the advice.

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dailymaillazyjournos · 12/02/2017 19:58

I think cut it if it's becoming a whole thing to have to look after her current long hair.

A bob is a great idea as it's likely to look ok in the morning and need little attention. Depending on hair type/texture, a pixie can end up being stood up on end come the morning and stick out at odd angles all over the place.

Paddypants DD's pic is cute, still feminine if that's important and easy to deal with i imagine.

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Uhohmummy · 12/02/2017 20:27

Yes thanks for the photo Paddypants! That's exactly the length we'll go for to begin with and see how it goes.

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ShelteredLifeMe · 12/02/2017 22:15

Good point by unlucky my dd was worried it would hurt, so I had mine cut with her. Dh on standby. By having a bob instead if a pixie, it took less time. But next time we'll be going pixie!

ShelteredLifeMe · 12/02/2017 22:17

You son sounds fab gamer my dh had dreads at aged 10. I keep telling 7yr old ds this incase he wants to try it!

TheSconeOfStone · 12/02/2017 22:21

Another recommendation for a bob. My aspie 9 year old hates having hair brushed and tied up. She has a chin length bob and it looks gorgeous. Much easier to manage and can still pin up st the front if necessary. She usually tucks her hair behind her ears. I'm trying to persuade her 6 year old sister to do the same as her hair is fine and straggly.

amysmummy12345 · 12/02/2017 22:25

This is my three year old DD's hair, she refuses to have it cut even though we have tantrums most bath times and combing times Confused

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Nomorechickens · 12/02/2017 22:31

DD had chin length bob and fringe as she hated having her hair brushed. It looked great.
If she gets nits you will be glad she had it cut! Less to comb (sorry)

MiaowTheCat · 12/02/2017 22:36

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SaltySalt · 12/02/2017 22:42

And I don't blame her daisy's her hair is gorgeous!

SaltySalt · 12/02/2017 22:42

So sorry annies

SaltySalt · 12/02/2017 22:43

Oh my god amys going to bed now before I embarrass myself further Blush

underneaththeash · 12/02/2017 22:46

DD was the same, took her, had it cut, she liked it and then it grew and she liked it longer. I also thought it would be an issue and it wasn't.

ThaliaLuxurySpa · 13/02/2017 00:15

Wow, amys, such pretty hair your DD has! Can imagine the upkeep involved, though. Best of luck...

AlexanderBerry · 13/02/2017 07:49

My dd's have got below shoulder length curly hair which is a bugger to look after. Many's the time I've suggested they have a bob as it would be easier. They are not having it though. I'd jump at the chance if they were asking.

NattyBatty · 13/02/2017 08:08

Let her have her hair short. I'm fully in favour of children choosing their own haircuts once they can express their opinions (assuming it won't get them sent home from school for violating school policy - and don't get me started on what I think of school policies!).

My 3yo ds had a lizard Mohawk shaved onto his head a couple of weeks ago. He loves it to bits.

Basically we went online and looked at boys haircuts, he chose the one he wanted. I explained that it would take a long time (by 3yo standards) to grow out so if he didn't like it after he would still be stuck with it. Then each day or two for a week or so I said "ok, your haircut is going to be in X days. Do you still want the lizard one, or would you like to choose something different?"

Each time I asked he would firmly answer "the lizard one" so that's what happened. If he'd hated it once it had been done then he would have had a lesson in longish term consequences, because it would take a good few months for his hair to grow back on the shaved bits.

SuperBeagle · 13/02/2017 08:11

My DD has a bob. I part it at the side and pin it off her face with a clip with a little bow on it. Very feminine and cute, but most importantly easy. I'm not dealing with mid-back length ratty hair that takes hours to dry and is hot in summer, and a pain in the butt in general. When she can take care of her hair herself, she can grow it out, but until then, I keep it short.

She likes it, she thinks she looks like Madeline.

LosingDory · 13/02/2017 08:16

amys I don't blame her if I had hair like that I would never ever cut it!