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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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That on Monday a Mum brought her sick child who was off, to school whilst...............

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 11:13

she picked up the older sister? But..........

I know she had to bring the younger one as she couldn't leave her at home on her own. She is in my DD's class. But, instead of standing at the gate and waiting to pick up her older Daughter, she came and stood with us outside yr 1's classroom whilst we waited for our children to come out

Then the little girl told us she had been sick lots and the mum said " and shes onto her 4th pair of trousers"!!!!!!!!

Then the little girl (6) went up to my friends 20month old in her pram! My friend asked politely if she could maybe just kept away

I am so puzzled. The child is still off today. So why on earth come and stand with us and our little ones when she could have waited at the gate away from everyone????

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pepsi · 28/02/2007 12:11

I have to say that it wouldnt have occured to me to stand anywhere in particular if one of my children hadnt been in school and I was picking up the other. My ds6 was off recently with a sick bug and stayed right by my side and didnt speak to anyone when I picked up dd from reception.

Enid · 28/02/2007 12:12

god it is true that other mums are weird

hercules1 · 28/02/2007 12:12

Yes, you are being unreasonable.

tinkerbellie · 28/02/2007 12:13

this is quite hard isn't it if you have two kids

i was wondering when chickenpox was going round if my 16 month old dd caught it how would i take her brother into school (he'd in reception) you have to take them right into the class

i would hope i wouldn;t get bitched about as i couldn't leave her outside although i have to say that i wouldn;'t let her run around with the other children

derlor · 28/02/2007 12:15

not sure i would be so concerned about chld being at school for a few minutes but i would have kept her right beside me away from other kids. My neighbour recently sent her 7 yr old who had been off school all week with d&v, to help out at a 2 yr old childrens party on the sunday (which my daughter was at) not only that but 7 yr old was then kept off school for next 3 days after the party as he was still ill!!! (stupid irresponsible mother) he returned to school for 1 day on the Thurs(in my son's class) to attend school trip!!!! then was off again on friday as he was again ill

mylittlestar · 28/02/2007 12:15

anniebear i think you're getting a hard time too.

we can all catch anything at anytime from people we come into contact with everyday. (without knowing.... that's the point!)

but to knowingly let your sick child lean into a baby's pram and play with other children just needlesly risks passing the bug on.

plastic suits and sterilising footpaths - not quite what anniebear was suggesting i don't think!
but whilst she obviously needed to bring the child with her, a bit of common sense in keeping a sick child away from 'close' contact with others - is a fair enough request imho!

Polgara2 · 28/02/2007 12:16

I'm with you Anniebear.

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:18

I just stood a bit further away when I had to collect one daughter and the other was ill, obviously you have to take your little one with you. Or My friend has brought her out to me

It is hard to explain

at school we all stand outside the classrooms that our children are in, we are no where near the other classrooms (or the Junior part)

Her Daughter is in the junior part of school, which is no where near yr 1 classroom

so why not walk round to her older daughters classroom instead of standing at yr 1, letting her child play with the 1 and 2 year olds whilst telling everyone she has been sick?

I don't get it

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:21

I am so careful what I post on here!! See to many people post and be given a hard time for no reason

Usually stay in the special needs section lol lol

But venture out now and again!!!!

I will run back now

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draig · 28/02/2007 12:21

So she should have stood the sick child at the school gate where everyone has to walk past her?? How is that better exactly?

Enid · 28/02/2007 12:21

I think I lost that part of my brain that even considers things liek this when I had dd3

draig · 28/02/2007 12:22

You did ask if you were being unreasonable Surely you didn't expect everyone to say you weren't... this is mumsnet after all

hercules1 · 28/02/2007 12:23

But anniebear, you asked if you were being unreasonable. You cant expect some people not to disagree with you and give their reasons for this.

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:25

Of course I did

should have known better lol

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:27

its better coz thats the best she could have done, she had to bring her to school

at least her daughter wouldn't have been going up to toddlers in prams and playing with them

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kslatts · 28/02/2007 12:27

I think you are being unreasonable.

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:28

so you really all honestly if you had your 20month old in her buggy and a child with sickness bug comes right over, leans in to talk to her

you really wouldn't be bothered?

I must be very strange lol cause I would be

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tinkerbellie · 28/02/2007 12:31

i would def be bothered by that, i think that obv she couldn't leave her alone at home, and it's a bit muh to expect her to stand at the gate, but she should have a bit more sense about allowing her to go up to the other kids and should have kept her at a distance

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:35

Thats all I was saying lol

Thats it

wasnt expecting everyone to agree,

and wasn't expecting another thread to be started having a go at me

right, think I better head off now !!!!!!

I suppose after 5 years of being on here, always being careful what I said, always feeling sorry for people that got a hard time

pretty much getting on with anyone on here...my time has come lol lol

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LieselVentouse · 28/02/2007 12:37

They get bugs thats what happens

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:38

and wouldnt life be boring if we all thought the same!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Blu · 28/02/2007 12:38

I wouldn't have been wild about the leaning over the buggy, but standing in a group in the open air wouldn't have worried me much.

I Hope you all stay germ-free!

clumsymum · 28/02/2007 12:41

Actually, I think there is something else we have missed here.

Isn't it sad that the mum couldn't have rung a neighbour or friend to either collect the older child for her, or sit with the younger one for a while so the mum could collect on her own.

Maybe our wonderful 'school gate society' should consider that for future reference.

Jimjams2 · 28/02/2007 12:45

anniebear- I would have told one of my sick ones leaning over a buggy not to as well. It's not rocket science. Not sure why everyone's over-reacted to what you said, think some people must have thought you were saying she shouldn't have brought her.

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anniebear · 28/02/2007 12:46

I know, I said I was off!!!! lol

I would have no problem taking ehr older Daughetr home for her if I didnt have to get home asap as my other daughter gets dropped off by bus from her SN School]

And there are other Mums that would have also done that for her

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