To ask you all how you met your DP/DHs - and what you love about them?

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Just broken up with wanker exP. I reallllly really hate being single so it was hard but I'm going to be strong this time! I just want a nice normal life snuggled up on the sofa every night with someone watching Netflix

Anyway, I love these threads and it will help me keep my resolve when I get the inevitable begging for one last chance messages - so can everyone tell me how you met your OH and what you love about them?

Basically tell me about your healthy, happy relationships so I'm less tempted to enter back into my toxic previous one!

Met online
He is the kindest and most gentle man I have ever met.
He has lots of friends, a good hobby, and he works bloody hard to take care of me and DD.
Even though DD was a massive surprise and we hadn't been together very long he is an amazing dad.
Good sense of humour and he makes me feel cosy and like I'm at home inside if that makes sense?
He's bloody gorgeous too!
We get married next year.

Met on an internet dating site 10 years ago. We only exchanged about two messages before arranging to meet. I was totally swayed by his picture - he looked EXACTLY my type. And he was! We went out in the west end, had loads of cocktails and ended up back at his. Slept together that first night and have never looked back. Within days we both knew we wanted to marry each other. He was mid-30s but I was mid-20s and prior to meeting him had no interest in marriage! But I just knew really strongly I was going to be with him.

As for the things I love about him, some things have changed over the 10 years while other things have stayed constant. For instance, I used to love him quite a bit for the amazing sex, now a thing of the past now, alas! But above all I loved - and still do love - him for his kindness, patience, silly sense of humour, his gorgeous face, and that he never tried to control me in any way. He lets me be me. I feel a security with him I never felt with anyone ever before.

We met through both being massively into rock climbing. I had just moved down south for work, started going to the nearest big climbing wall to train and got to know a few people. Somehow we managed to never be there at the same time for the first 4 or 5 months but then one night he was there and it turned out a couple of the people I'd met were friends of his too so we were introduced. I thought he was lovely - funny, good looking, friendly, everyone seemed to like him - and kept thinking about him randomly afterwards. I found out later that he felt it too and made a few enquiries with the mutual friends. A week or so later we met at the wall again, got talking over a particularly tricky bouldering problem and the rest is history - I also found out later that he'd been going there every night waiting for me to turn up so he could 'bump into me' again

What do I love about him? He's just a really, really good person. He's kind, generous to a fault, thoughtful, loyal, responsible, honest, hardworking, friendly, respectful, just a really fundamentally decent human being. He's also funny, interesting, clever, strong, practical, capable, good looking, fit, outdoorsy and sporty - he's an incredible climber, skier and mountain biker. He utterly adores my dogs and is beyond good with and to them, which is massively important to me, they're really 'our' dogs now. He is not gushy or soppy or sentimental but he thinks I'm gorgeous and funny and clever and he would do anything for me (within reason, he's not a doormat). He makes me feel safe and strong and looked after and capable all at the same time. I have no idea why he was single when we met* but I will be forever glad he was!

*could have been because he snores, has a strange inability to throw away old t-shirts no matter how manky and full of holes they get, can't seem to see dirt in the bathroom and sometimes gets grouchy when he's really tired, but I can live with that

We met at a wedding. He was 27 and best man. I was 16 and in the choir.

I spotted him and that was it. I sought him out after (I knew the couple getting married too) and spoke to him. He was lovely, very sweet, let me borrow his jacket because it was cold. But refused to date me due to my age.

We met up again when I was 18, dated for two years and I truly loved him but he was still dealing with the after effects of being at war and his head wasn't in the right place.

Then we met up again 5 years ago aged 54 and 43. I moved 450 miles to be with him, we are engaged and living together.

Why do I love him? I have no idea, I just do. He drives me to distraction at times but he is genuinely a lovely man, looks after me and my dc, loves me to bits and is basically the man I want to be with forever.

Beast - that old chestnut eh? A tricky bouldering problem. I think we've all used that one :o

Over 22 years ago. It's been far from perfect,BUT... he's my best mate and life with him is WAAAY better than life without. Wishing you well

I got him off the Internet

I love him because he's kind, because he never messed me around and has never given me cause to doubt him, because we have felt like a team from day one, because it just feels so easy and 'right'.

Met my dp at a party, he offered me a better place to sleep than my friends spare room. i accepted. We've been together 15 years, got 2 DC.
He drives me crazy, but he's my kind of crazy and I like to think I'm his.
We've dealt with all sorts of crap over the years, and he's the only one I tell everything to. I just love him.

Haha Mycat I know: 'can you just spot me on this bit? yep, just put your hands right there on my, er, lower back' nudge nudge wink wink

I needed a room to rent. He advertised his room. At first I thought he was very odd. Before long I realised he was a very good man, traditional. Just like me. Didn't pay rent, payment in kind! 15 years of marriage and 2 ds's I still think he is truely lovely.

His band were supporting my all time favourite band and he accidentally groped my tit as he stumbled up some stairs. He was so embarrassed he couldn't speak to me. Few months later we ended up having a wee kiss when we bumped into each other in the pub. It's our 9 year anniversary today and we're expecting our second child in June. He's the loveliest guy who puts up with my quirks and oddities.

I technically met my DH at school though we didn't know each other, he is 3 years older than me, but my best friends brother was my DHs best friend. He came back from uni at 21 and i was 18 and we saw each other in a local pub and the rest is history, i just 'knew'. Fast forward 13 years and i cant really think of anything we haven't been through, he is my rock and my everything. I cant imagine loving or admiring anyone more, he is the most wonderful father to our 2 DD's and my very best friend.

A mutual friend introduced us.
Been together 10 years, married. DD and I'm 12weeks pregnant.

He is so calm and easy to be around. I had a mind fuck of an abusive relationship before him and I was attracted to the fact that what you see is what you get.
We are so different but between us we can do anything.
We have been through some really bad times but I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else.

Met doing children's summer camps way back as teenagers. What do I love about him some 35 years later?
He is kind, generous, truly compassionate.
We share a sense of humour.
He loves me unconditionally, as he does the children.
He would undoubtedly lay down his life for us.
He is quite romantic and thoughtful.
He is strong and courageous,
He does the yucky jobs - bins, pest control, dead birds the cat brings in, blocked drains, spooky noises outside.
He is honest and has more integrity than any person I know (myself included).

We met aged 9, lost touch till we were at college age 17. Spent a bit of time together, started dating aged 19, now aged 23, have a house and two dogs. He's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without him

Don't like mine but he earns too much for me to leave him - he would be vengeful, wouldn't pay school fees, would make us move etc.
I know - it's shit but for now it is what it is.

A mutual friend set us up. He's a wonderful, funny, thoughtful, kind person who'd go out of his way to help anyone. He's phenomenally hard working and motivated. He makes me feel so special, every single day.

Met through work, didn't actually know who he was until a "girl" who reported into me saw us talking on a fag break, literally first time we spoke! (she fancied him and they had a bit of a one night drunken stand) and from then on she invented we was in a relationship together.

In our rumoured relationship, we did loads of nice things together. We went on holiday with mutual friends (we didn't have any), he went for two weeks, I went for one apparently, but he missed me so much he bought a flight home early just so he could take me on a date to the classy establishment that is Frankie and bennys..

About two months after the rumours started, I was getting a bit fed up, saw him again (on a fag break) and said "apparently we know each other really well, I think we are getting married next week or something.. fancy a drink?"

We have DS now and for years, still never been to Frankie and bennys

Oh and we love that we are so different yet the same. The biggest thing is we share the same morals, and completely agree how to raise our son, we have agruments and disagree about so much! But respect each other and listen to each other's point of view.

I trust him completely, he goes out with his mates. That's his time, he doesn't need to check in with me, and the same applies for me when I go out. We both work full time and share every responsibility around the house evenly, he is a dab hand at vacuuming!

Trust and respect is what make me and Mr bob tick. Oh and lots of shits and giggles. We both find each other highly amusing!

Met DH at work - I was transferred to the office where he worked, and we ended up in the same department. I tried not to fall for him because he had a GF at the time, but after a while they broke up, and we got together after a work night out. That was 22 years ago!

He's a good person, no-one has a bad word to say about him. He's very funny and makes me laugh. I knew from the moment I met him that he'd be an amazing father, and he is.

Met when we both went to a meet-up with a mutual acquaintance. Hit it off and became very good friends. I think that's one of the main reasons why we have such a great relationship: that solid foundation of friendship on which our romantic relationship was then built.

He is such a good person: thoughtful, calm, intelligent, respectful, sweet, unassuming, wholly without ego. He is also an absolutely wonderful father. I think what I most appreciate about him is that he doesn't buy into the notion of "wifework" in the slightest. He completely believes in equality in all ways and practices every bit of what he preaches.

Met in a shop. Instant flirting.

He understands my hormones and lets me be grumpy
Buys my favourite chocolate when I feel poo
Does housework because he lives here too
Takes care of our children and never calls it 'helping' me
Works hard
Loves Netflix and always lets me choose what to watch
Makes me laugh
Never ever let me feel unsexy when I put on weight
Never critisises me
Is my best friend
Would be lost without him

❤️

Met online, slept together the first night we met after a few months of getting to know each other virtually, it just felt right and that was the beginning. I got very ill a short time later and tried to cut him loose, he never left my side and spent his weekends ( he lived in another city) visiting me in hospital and playing scrabble online with me during the week. His determination to be with me and support me despite everything that was going on took my breath away. I had clearly been dating man-children before, I was amazed at his resilience and commitment.

9 years later we are still smitten, he is my best friend and knows me like no one else. We've grown together and I feel so calm and at peace, I love who he is, strong, conscientious and achingly funny. He accepts all my quirks and loves me like no one else ever has. ( he's also very attractive and just as filthy as I am )

We met when we were both in our late 20s, both had previously had our hearts broken, shared a similar outlook on life and just clicked. I grew up in a household with a violent and controlling alcoholic father, It definitely left its mark on me but I feel like being with someone who is the polar opposite has slowly healed all the old scars. I like who I am now, feel so much stronger. My only wish now is that my mum could meet someone to help her trust again.

DP and I married 2 and a bit years ago, I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant and happy as a clam!

It took me longer than I thought to meet the person who was right for me, but it was absolutely worth the wait. Good luck OP. Xx

Met on Match. First date August 2013, moved in July 2014, engaged December 2014, Married May 2015, returned from honeymoon pregnant and now have 1 year old DD and ttc a sibling.

He's very thoughtful and does little things that he knows will make me happy. I love how we don't bicker, we're both good at not picking at each other about things that are unimportant. He's a fantastic dad to our girl.

Met DH through online dating nearly 5 years ago. Was a free site so didn't even have to pay to meet him (and we were both each other's first date).

He's kind, always does what he says he will do, talks a lot (mostly about interesting things), just gets on with things and I feel I can be me with him. And he's 6 foot 2 and does useful things in the house . I love him.