An expensive meal out

[bonkersman]

I'm a bloke but I'd be interested in the opinions on here. I'll tell it from my point of view

Lets say you'd been invited (insistently) to your wife's sisters for a couple of days - said sister often inviting herself to yours for several days (3,4 or 5) with her less than delightful children, but fortunately without her charmless husband.

And lets say when they did invite themselves over your wife bent over backwards to entertain them with the sort of cooking she doesn't usually have time to do.

After an extended journey you arrive at in-laws with your wife and children only to be informed that you'll be eating out, reason unknown and by the way you're paying for your own meal. After having to pay ( a lot) for my own families "tea" when visiting relatives I don't have a great deal of time for am I allowed to feel cheesed off?

By the way this is just the tip of an iceberg but lets start here.

[Hissy]

Oh I'm staying for the batty mil stories...

Give!

[bonkersman]

Ok, I'll put an MIL story on later, I'm a bit tied up just now..

Meanwhile if you've not experienced an over entitled relative who rings up to say "We'll be visiting soandso, can we stay on the way back?" then arrives and immediately asks to stay an extra two nights "so they can see xyz" it can get a bit wearing after a few years.

Funny how our guest room is "unavailable" so often, with all the DIY we do..

[Trifleorbust]

There is a difference between inviting someone out for a meal (usual for them to pay for themselves) and inviting someone to your home and then telling them they are going out. Sounds like this was the latter. YANBU.

[Pukepukepuke]

YANBU. They should tell you first.

[MaisyPops]

YANBU.
If theyd invited you out for a reasonably rpiced meal and you expected them to pay, THAT would be entitled.

But, They've insisted you go over there and then have decided they can't be arsed to host you. So their solution is to force everyone out to a fancy place and expect you to foot the bill. That's not what you agreed to.
Poor hosting on their part and they seem quick to take from everyone else. Id be withdrawing how much i offer them in future kf i were you