To start a thread where we can share frustrated ambitions?

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I'd love to go back to uni and retrain to be a radiographer but can't afford to.

Id also love to earn more money.

Please share yourz.

Leaving...your job supermum?
I'm sorry that was shit :( was your dh in rhe house?
I work in a place where it's perfectly acceptable to break off in a team meeting and come back to say you were wiping a child's bottom or putting Peppa pig on but even so there are limits!

I've written a book, I published it as an ebook over a year ago, I've had extremely positive reviews.... but I have never dared take the next step to see if anyone would like to make it a 'real' book, and that's my big dream.

Have lovely dc but no proper career - planning to make a plan in around 8 months when youngest dd turns 3. Working very pt on lower level job right now.

One of mine has sn so there won't be an easy answer on whether or not to go back ft.

I want to a MBA but can't afford it

identity at 26 I felt similar - that I'd never meet anyone suitable, settle down and have children. All the relationships I'd had up to then were rubbish and it felt as though I was the only person I knew who was single. I met dh through online dating at 28, the first person who got in touch with me, and 9 years later we have 2 dc and are able to celebrate our 4th anniversary. Don't lose hope just yet.

My frustrated ambition is to take a few amazing landscape photos and win a few international competitions. The thing is, the people who do do this are those who have plenty of time, don't mind being out in remote places in all weathers, who have enough money to buy the appropriate gear and travel to a whole range of destinations, who have the patience to sit for hours or even days in the same place waiting for the light etc etc. I don't even like going out when it's a bit chilly or is showing signs of drizzle. It's never going to happen. I'm just not dedicated enough!

Stealth Yes I am looking at other positions outside of my employer. I was supposed to be promoted in December but they delayed me because I had take a six month leave with DD2. If they valued me they would have given it to me. Since the first week of January I've been working until 2am on a regular basis (like 4 days a week). They have filled my plate because they know I'll get the work done. Just a shame they won't pay me for it. Even worse is my DH who won't support me.

Oh and yes. DH was home... apparently feeding the baby. You see I cope on my own with three kids while he travels and does his thing.

If my DH was a wife I think the husband would have traded the lazy guy in for a better model.

I had two main ambitions - one to run a marathon, one to publish a book.
Well, back when I was running I completed 3 x 10km races, 4 half marathons and I power walked the Moonwalk (marathon distance). I am extremely proud of that, but concluded running the marathon distance would be impractical due to my slow speed. I write well, and have three excellent first chapters to a book. But plotting is not a strength, and I am unconvinced that even if I write well, anyone would want to read it. which is probably realistic. I have achieved my career ambitions, at a bit of a loss there now.

I should have carried on learning ballet. I would never have made it professionally, but I love it and it would have been lovely to have more experience and knowledge.

I really wanted to act and would have been decent, but never got the encouragement to attend drama lessons. I watch dramas on TV and am consumed with envy. What a great job!

I should definitely get my arse in gear and write more. I've had a couple of short stories and a poem published - need to build on that.

In fact, I should have written for a living. Done a journalism or publishing course. I'd have made a good editor, I think.

Oh well.

Write a book
Become an actor
Have more than one child
Be better at sports
Be a more accomplished person - you know when you read about amazing people who achieved so much for a good cause, or lived a rich and varied life with many experiences.

Loving this thread! Especially because I am currently on mumsnet procrastinating about writing my own book... So I'm really impressed that InTheRedTent has finished and published a book. That's amazing! Hey, felloutofbed2wice fancy starting a "buckle the fuck up" book-writing thread? Sounds like we are in the same place. Why can't I just damn well get on with it. And Hassled it's never too late to do a PhD! Seriously! Only then you do tend to end up on mumsnet until the wee small hours procrastinating about writing. Hmmm.

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I'm 33, getting married in a few months and I was single on my 31st birthday. I know it's shitty when it doesn't happen for you but the fact it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't!

My unfulfilled ambition is to be a mother, and it's one I still hope to fulfil.

Lifelong dream to go and live somewhere with beautiful mountains, lakes and valleys in the middle of nowhere but I'm too scared of the isolation

Any more Friday night frustrations out there?

I was so ambitious as a child. Then, when things got a bit too hard, I realised that I'm only ambitious as far as the least amount of work can get me. I'm bone idle, basically.

I'd like to earn more money, have a better house and car, and not be scrabbling for money at the end of the month. I'd also like to be able to resist the lure of credit which is a huge downfall.

I'd also love to move a long way away - either to London or Montreal. I like city living and I like snow

OP - I know it depends on finances, but the government are allowing second degrees in scientific based areas. Lots of people do a degree at 18, then go on to study nursing/midwifery at a later date.

I would strongly suggest if it's viable, also if you have the time, to write in and ask for work experience. You could do one morning a week, asking to cover X-Ray's, ultrasounds, radiotherapy, CT scans and MRI scans. It would make you stand out from others.

Also see if there's any journals out there on radiography, or maybe just google latest radiography news, so you show your interest, selecting articles of interest you can discuss with your opinion of the positives and negatives.

You could do it as a Year 0 or as an Access Course. Year 0 would mean funding for that first year along with a higher chance of being selected, as you're studying a gateway course initially.

I'm old and archaic, I don't think you're ever too old to pursue your passion. That's the thing about work, you want it to be something you enjoy, rather than a countdown till Friday.

I'd love to do an open uni degree and train to be a teacher but I'm 28 and I feel like my time is up.

You're still in your prime. You have 2 routes, the course that includes training at Primary level, or study for a subject you'd like to teach them do the PGCE.

If you have children, a bit like tax credits they subsidise the childcare costs, depending on earning you get a bursary for child & adult dependants. (2 different bursaries)

If you have already studied, as I said above they allow funding for a second degree if it's a subject that is in demand, for example core subjects. They even advertised a £25k bursary on an advert, I don't know how it works, but it's specific to teaching subjects that are under subscribed.

If I was 28 again I would definitely look into courses at Uni. If you don't have a level 3 qualification, or you haven't studied since school, then you have the Year Zero gateway option.

You don't want to get to my age and be full of regrets on how you wished things were. I think you'd be surprised how many mature students are in University.

Do you have any idea what you would like to teach?

I (think I) want to be a podiatric surgeon. Or at least a podiatrist. I was on the degree but I've had to take a break. I think I'll get back to the degree and qualify eventually but I think I'm too old/too used to being a SAHM to make the change of gear to train in surgery.

I went back to uni at the age of 30. Part-time as couldn't afford it otherwise (a second degree, science though so maybe funding is available now). Now almost 10 years later I am doing my dream job. I never thought it would be achievable for me. I also thought I was too old, the field too competitive etc. One day I thought to myself: 'do I take the plunge now with a chance at being happy in the future or do I give up on this dream, even though time will pass anyway, and in a decade I will surely regret not going for it?'. That decided it for me. We all have to work a long time. Might as well do something we love.

To clarify, I didn't write this to gloat! But to show that I've been there too. You're not too old to change careers. There may be ways to make it work financially that you haven't thought of. And to the poster who wants to be a teacher: you haven't missed the boat. Make enquiries today, set it in motion, go on, do it!
Of course we won't all be able to do everything we dreamed of but we can make a lot happen if we allow ourselves. To the person who wants to live in the mountains. Why not go for it? You can always come back if you don't like it. Even if it doesn't work out you won't regret trying. But I guarantee you that you will regret not trying. It's not too late yet but one day it will be.

Hello lovely Ladies and Gents

Lurking as am hoping for some inspiration. I've always wanted to write a book but feel like I have nothing important to say. Have wanted to retrain as a professional psychologist (Educational or Clinical) but can't decide which as am a SAHM and can't get relevant work experience at present (stuck for childcare and no spare cash to fund it).
Winter, are you prepared to hint at what your dream job is? I need hope, feel i am past it as am 35 x

Snow I am 36 and work in a field with lots of graduates so feel old. Whenever I need a little bit of perspective I look at my clients and see that they have mostly over 50s in management and people are working through to 65-70 with them taking lesser roles in the last 5-10 years of their working life.

So if you are 35, you have another 35 years of your working life left. This is my justification for doing an MBA at a time in my life that is considered very late (at least here in the US). It is late if you consider our parents were expecting to retire at 60 but not if you consider we will work 15 more years.

Yeah things can change but in reality there aren't enough young people coming up to fill jobs. Employers are going to be forced into keeping us lot on, unlike today when they can more easily replace those over 55.

I'd love a job. Or to run my own business. But the Tories have changed the rules, so it just isnt possible. There's no safety net if my health crashed again and I'd be bankrupted and homeless within 3 months.

Wanted to be a make up artist. But in those days you needed qualifications and the places where limited to big towns. I was living at home not in the City (London). I wasn't working and so would have meant the cost of training and accommodation. Of course these courses are plentiful and you can even do them at evening class. However I think I am too old now. I might just do a class for the individual though.