To just want to cry

[StarlitTrees]

Why do everyone else have perfect newborns? What trick am I missing here??

My son is 10 weeks now and still only taking 2-3oz overnight every 2-3 hours. I try to get him to take more but he just won't!
Infact tonight, he's been up every 1.5h!!

I know things could be a million times worse, and it's still 'early days'. But I just get frustrated when people boast how well their newborns sleep!
My friend told me tonight that her baby who's 2 or 3 weeks younger sleeps from 10-5.30 every night!
This is my second baby and I know my first didn't do that either.

Im just so tired. Luckily my husband gets up for one of the feeds else I'd he dead on my feet!

Doesn't help that weve lived in a plague house since he was born. Winter baby plus 3 year old just starting nursery is not a good combination. The kids and i have had constant coughs and colds for weeks now.

Sorry for the moan. I know it gets better so I just need to suck it up. It won't last forever. I just wish that little gems like 'sleep when the baby sleeps' were still relevant!

So AIBU to just hate everyone's perfect newborns just a little and to be sitting here crying.

I never understand how people try to be sympathetic to sleep deprived people by telling them they have a lot worse to come. The OP's baby is 10 weeks. It may start sleeping better soon. It may not. Either way, saying that your baby doesn't sleep at a year, or 2 years, or whatever surely just makes it worse.

If someone was in pain, you wouldn't comfort them by saying that its going to get a lot worse soon, or that you've only got to cope with it for another few years.

there's solidarity in suffering, and there's making it worse.

Sorry certainly wasn't meaning that ! But alas some do sleep and some don't.

Two things: recognise that it IS really tough. Thefirst year for me was a huge shock. Go easy on yourself. You're recovering physically and adjusting mentally. It's difficult and it takes time.
Secondly, we tried every flipping sleep method there was and nothing worked. Things improved for us only when we accepted he was terrible at sleeping, stopped trying to make him sleep and adjusted our lives a bit with coping mechanisms. So we sleep in shifts sometimes!

It's really tough. You have my sympathies. Hang on in there and maybe a visit to the gp if you feel you're struggling

well i have a 3 week old boy and i am up throughout the night every 1.5 to 2 hours feeding him, i am beyond tired now i am functioning on i don't know what lol, at the min he is sleeping good in the day and awake at night but you just carry on the best you can :)

Someone once told me their baby was sleeping through the night

I found out later from their sister that they meant sleeping in-between the feeds through the night.

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Sorry but just because people say their newborn sleeps it doesn't mean their lying!
My firstborn woke every 2 hours for months and months on end.
My 2nd is now 4 months and has slept for 6-7 hoyes straight, uninterrupted, since he was 5 weeks old.
It's nothing you're doing, it just depends on the child

I wouldnt compare, thats when you start getting down about it. Maybe before you put him to bed give him his normal bottle then try again with another bottle maybe an hour later? I know it sounds daft but the more milk they get down the longer they sleep at night. My little one was sleeping through quite early 5 weeks but she was a big baby and could keep down alot of milk which ment she could go longer through the night. That said though every night wasnt perfect sleeping she did tend to go through quite a few stages if she was teething, having a growth spurt or just wanting to be a wee monkey. Everyone likes to make out they have the perfect baby who sleeps through the night but they dont add in how its not every night they sleep through. Every baby is different he will set his own routine you just need to guide it. Its hard its so hard when there waking ever 2 hrs for a bottle, your getting no sleep you have to still keep the house tidy and keep yourself fed, how do you fit sleep into that kind of schudel? Dont compare yourself, everyone likes to make out there baby is perfect little angle who sleeps through every baby is diferent, your little one is normal, hopefully soon he might take more milk and go longer. Sorry i dont have much advice but to try maybe letting him go about 30 mins longer when he wants the bottle to see if he will take more when you do ive him it and try get as much down him before putting him to bed

My dd guzzled loads during her night feeds then slept for 5 hours at a stretch. I felt sooo lucky. Then she hit 16 months discovered she could pull herself up on the cot and spent ten minutes or so every hour on the hour standing up, falling on her bump and shrieking with laughter before realising that no one was going to laugh with her because it's 3 fucking am and screaming her head off.

My newborn hardly slept at night - DH and I took it in turns to hold him throughout the night. I remember one time at about 5.00am, I hadn't slept all night, I just sat there cradling newborn and weeping. No sound..just tears streaming down my face. I've never been so tired in my whole life.

I can't give you any advice other than to say it will pass, it will get better.

Excellent post Grin