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AIBU?

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To no the lock my door?

284 replies

FutureMrsRanj · 08/02/2017 23:34

Imagine this has been done to death but have just seen another thread where the op is being to,d to lock her door, is this normal? In the day? I don't think I know any door lockers but maybe I should start in case of burglars, I did wonder when reading a thread this evening as DC were asleep upstairs and I don't think I would hear from sitting room if someone quietly wandered in through front door, ddog would either greet them enthusiastically or carry on snoring

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dontbesillyhenry · 09/02/2017 11:04

Wow Narky aren't you edgy and fearless? or just plain stupid?

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:06

Really not understanding the attitude on here

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 09/02/2017 11:07

Yes, I'm obviously stupid. It couldn't possibly be that some peoples circumstances make them take different, but equally valid, choices to you, could it?

Is it stupidity or arrogance that leads so many of you to be unable to imagine different perspectives to your own?

Frillyhorseyknickers · 09/02/2017 11:08

I live in a farmhouse in the middle of nowhere - my DH would think I had lost the fucking plot if I started locking doors in the daytime, whilst at home!

Trainspotting1984 · 09/02/2017 11:08

car insurance is a legal requirement. How you use it is up to you.

Genevieva · 09/02/2017 11:09

We live in a rural area so we don't get people passing by and delivery drivers often can't find us. When I am at home I often have doors open so the dog can wander in and out. We have Yale locks, which have the advantage of being locked from the outside whenever the door is shut, but I once left the front door wide open when we went away over night. Big oops! It is easy to forget the front door when you are ferrying children, a dog, bags and musical instruments into the car. Thankfully no burglars or animals wandered in, as it would have been a bit hard to explain that one to the insurance company.

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:09

This is the thing, it's the Internet, people have different opinions - but most of us can see this and not respond they way you have

dontbesillyhenry · 09/02/2017 11:09

The only arrogance I can see here is your own- you sound like a petulant child. Your security your look out but your 'im so hard im not following sensible advice why should I' attitude is like a foot stamping child

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:11

Trainspotting when I'm paying for a policy I'm not going to do something that deliberately invalidates it and is a total waste of money.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 09/02/2017 11:12

Plenty of people agree with me and don't lock their doors either Smile

It's not sensible advice for everyone, is the salient point. Its quite simple: if you need to lock your doors, you should do that. If you don't, you don't have to start because some randoms online can't imagine why you might not need to!

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:13

Henry exactly, well said

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:16

Narky you do what you please, but don't comment to people with a shit attitude when they don't agree with you

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 09/02/2017 11:18

I'm not. Please point out my shit attitude (other than using the word stupid AFTER I'd been called it).

I'm merely (repeatedly but apparently futilely) pointing out that everyone is different and what is good advice to some people is not necessary for others. What is wrong with that?
OP asked if she was U not to lock her door, I wasn't aware that the only acceptable answer was YABU?

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:22

Read your comments! I came on and said what I thought and you fired straight back with a shitty response. This wasn't necessary, whoever may have called you stupid wasn't me so take it up with the right person.

UghUgh · 09/02/2017 11:22

Insurance only matters IF you actually get burgled. If you are certain that you aren't going to get burgled if you leave your doors unlocked because you live in the middle of nowhere, or have a huge dog or live in a house where a burglar couldn't come in without you knowing then that's obviously ok. You don't need the insurance to cover you if you aren't going to get burgled.

However, for most people, I'd recommend they lock their doors in case they get robbed AND to make sure your insurance company won't try and wiggle out of it because you didn't take reasonable care.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 09/02/2017 11:23

What shitty response is that? I don't see one Smile

BarbaraofSeville · 09/02/2017 11:24

Well if I was a burglar with transport, I would be heading to all the rural areas to clean up.

We have door latches that we use when we are in the house in the day time that can stop the door being opened easily/quietly but don't need a key to be opened from the inside. Obviously all doors locked at night or when we are out.

I think most people do this unless in very remote areas, where there is one burglary every 30 years or whatever and any that do happen is the talk of the area for decades afterwards. Like this where a shop on a remote Scottish island suffered the first burglary for 50 years.

Whereas in cities or suburbs, sneak in burglaries are a real threat - several of my colleagues, most of whom live in the naice areas of the city, have been burgled, some more than once, by people walking in through unlocked doors while they were at home. It is very easy to walk in, pick up laptops, tablets, phones, car keys, money, cards, jewellry etc and be in and out undetected in a minute or two.

In our area, there was a spate of crimes where the perpetrators followed women home from the supermarket/town to walk in and rob them because the first thing a lot of women do when they get home is go to the toilet, which gives theives a guaranteed couple of minutes to grad what they can, probably including the handbag that has been dumped close to the front door.

BitchQueen90 · 09/02/2017 11:25

God, I lock mine. As soon as I get in the flat I lock it. I have a Yale lock, a proper lock and 2 bolts at the top and bottom.

However my front door is next to two takeaways so I often get the drunk Saturday night crew hanging around. I've had someone piss through my letter box before. 😒

Saying that, I'd lock my door wherever I live. I don't feel safe with it unlocked.

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 09/02/2017 11:25

Narky you are clearly looking for an argument or a bun fight, go find someone else.

Fluffy40 · 09/02/2017 11:27

Front door usually locked, but we went away for the weekend forgetting to lock the patio door , luckily everything was fine.

babychamcherryb · 09/02/2017 11:27

No way would I ever have my door unlocked. I have had someone try to open my door when I was in. Terrifying.

Most burglaries are opportunistic - they try the lock, it's locked and they move on.

Nice area or not doesn't really come into it. It can happen anywhere.

Purplebluebird · 09/02/2017 11:27

I always keep the door locked so my son doesn't run away Grin

BarbaraofSeville · 09/02/2017 11:28

People say they 'forget to lock their doors because it never occurs to them to do so' but once you are in the habit of doing it, it is such as automatic thing, that you don't remember doing it at all.

Plenty of times I am sat in my car about to leave, and I think 'did I lock the door' because I don't remember doing it, but it is locked when I check.

The same when in the house - if I check that the door is locked before going upstairs or in the back garden, it is almost always locked or on the latch, even though I have no recollection of doing it.

BreconBeBuggered · 09/02/2017 11:28

Mine's usually locked. Front door is like Fort Knox anyway, and you have to go through 2 gates and be invisible to a slavering beast (JRT) to get to the back door. But I don't think it'd BU to leave it unlocked, and it's not usually locked unless I'm on my own. Depends where you live, and where you keep your valuables. An opportunist burglar doing a thirty-second sweep of my kitchen wouldn't normally come across anything more enticing than the kettle to run off with.

BadToTheBone · 09/02/2017 11:32

I only lock my door if I'm out and through the night. If I'm in during the day it's unlocked. During the summer all my back doors get open wide for the day.

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