Ive accidentally hit on a work colleague. I need to change jobs now don't I?

[Sociallyawkwardd]

Ive been getting on with a young man at my workplace. Just general chit chat. I thought he was gay. 100% thought he was gay. Yesterday he told me he was finding it hard to meet someone. To which I replied 'you're a really handsome man. You will easily meet someone'. I told him he should take the plunge and ask someone on a date. Wear the lovely shirt he had on Monday as it really suited him. No one would say no because he's a really handsome man with a great personality'. I said all this very enthusiastically! 😁

He was smiling like a Cheshire Cat.

Then someone came to me and said do you fancy 'Daniel' (he'd obviously repeated my comment). I was like oh no I'm just saying he's a handsome fella and should get himself out there and not to worry about being single. He will meet a lovely man, just needs to get himself out there. Visit a few bars.

The mutual colleague then informed me that 'Daniel' is in fact completely heterosexual even though a small number of people mistake him for being gay.😳


Daniel is now visibly nervous in my presence and looks pretty scared to be honest even though he is still being nice and chatting to me.

When shall I hand my notice in?

[Twistmeandturnme]

This time next year I will have forgotten it all. I just have to remember that.
..but he won't...you'll always be the one that got away

[Sociallyawkwardd]

So I let him know that I had thought he was gay as someone had mentioned in passing that someone called 'daniel' was gay. But I explained, it must have been a different person of that name.

So 'daniel' then leaned on the wall behind, totally in my personal space, looked me in the eye and said 'well, now you know I'm not gay at least'. Then smiled.

So I said 'haha exactly, well glad we got that cleared up. Anyway, I best be getting on' and I manoeuvred myself out of the way and now it's even worse!!!!

[Headinthedraw]

He totally fancies you.

[Sociallyawkwardd]

Yes possibly. He's 19 though. So will have to be rejected.

How do I reject him without actually say I'm not interested?

Oh jeez this is bad.

[SuperFlyHigh]

Agreed with headindraw he totally fancies you.... Uh oh.

[MaidOfStars]

He fancies you.

Do you fancy him? Sorry if I've missed a mention of partner, but is there a reason you can't ask him out for a drink?

[SuperFlyHigh]

Why do you have to reject him? Say if he was 20 soon would that make it better? It's only a 7 year age gap.

If you really want to reject then just don't engage, avoid or be offhand breezy but no doe eyes at him.

[SuperFlyHigh]

All your OP now I read it having read the other replies means he is totally into you and was or is sounding you out/trying to flirt with you.

[SouthWindsWesterly]

Maybe he likey likes a slightly older woman...

[BrownEyedLady]

Isn't the rule 'half your age plus 7'? You've just missed the boat...

[Sociallyawkwardd]

He's too young. Definitely too young!

He will get the message. I'm thinking of desperate measures here. Maybe come out as a lesbian?

I'm not! But might have to.

[BoredProcrastinator]

say that you're only interested in older men? DILF? Hahahaha

[Lessthanaballpark]

FGS OP! Have sex with poor Daniel please for the love of God!

The lads at my work are always chasing after women decades younger than themselves and I have to listen to them bang on about it. 7 years is nothing.

And he obviously fancies you.

[BrownEyedLady]

Heheh! Agree that he's definitely into you! 19 year old males just look like boys to me now. I used to love boyish men (Leo DeCaprio used to make my heart skip a beat) but now they look so...underdeveloped. Like they haven't filled out or something. Enjoy the admiration! There may come a time when you'll need this in your wank bank as a lovely memory x

[Believeitornot]

I think a tiny part of you does like him.

You said so yourself.

Stop being so silly and snog him.

[haveacupoftea]

This is like something out of Bridget Jones Diary just shag Daniel FFS

[GladAllOver]

Go on OP. Be nice, give him a shag and make a man of him. It's the decent thing to do.

[AlmostAJillSandwich]

I sympathise OP, i was friendly (albeit online) with a guy in a group i used to online game with, i was 25, he had only just turned 16 (but told me he was 17) then got drunk one night and began declaring his love, wanting to marry me etc.
No idea where he got any kind of idea i was interested as i had a partner, was 8 1/2 years older than him and totally different interests and lifestyles.

[AlmostAJillSandwich]

Meant to point out that whilst i was 25 my actual partner was 20, he's a month shy of being 5 years younger than me. met a week after my 22nd (so month after his 17th) and was the first man i have ever been attracted to that wasn't older than me. It certainly shocked my arsehole ex to find i'd gone from him (2 years older) to a 5 years younger 17 year old! (Who was incidentally 100 times the "man" my ex ever was)

[GladAllOver]

Nowt wrong with having the 'services' of a fit young man :)

[Icallbullshit3]

Thank you for the giggle... you should feel flattered that a younger male obviously fancies you :) :D ha!

[Twistmeandturnme]

Hmm, what is it that the Baroness says to Maria in The Sound of Music.......' There's nothing more irresistible to a man than a woman who's in love with him'.
If he didn't fancy you before, he did once you started telling him he was gorgeous.