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To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

444 replies

EssieTregowan · 07/02/2017 09:05

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right? Wink

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

OP posts:
diddl · 07/02/2017 12:13

What time do the kids eat/stay until?

If a shop is delivered at 4.30 is that really too late to do something else if you wanted?

Willow2016 · 07/02/2017 12:30

AwaywiththePixies27

Yep its like getting into fort Knox.
Although not as bad as getting into the corned beef tin with those sodding keys which invariably break and you cant get the can opener to sit on the rim properly!

Appeals for calm at the mention of corned beef!

JessicaEccles · 07/02/2017 12:31

When I went to Germany on school exchange, the lovely host mother cooked tomato soup with rice and sliced FRANKFURTER.
Just don't call them hotdogs Smile

SleepFreeZone · 07/02/2017 12:34

Wouldn't bother me. I'd be more pissed off if he'd been allowed loads of Cola or given toffee apples. I'm quite fussy about his teeth 😁

Orangebird69 · 07/02/2017 12:35

Willow corned beef is food of the gods.

WaitrosePigeon · 07/02/2017 12:36

I've never had corned beef???

GahBuggerit · 07/02/2017 12:38

If my DS came home saying he had hotdogs at a playdate I'd be thrilled as I'd know he must have eaten every single crumb and mithered for seconds.

We have the Hertz (??) ones at least once a week. Lovely!!!

I'd be pretty amused if I heard anyone had been slagging me off for serving a hotdog on a playdate.

CurlyMango · 07/02/2017 12:50

My kids wouldn't eat them. It's tough but. Are what you want, mine would at the bun.

titihood · 07/02/2017 12:59

YANBU. I wouldn't make them for DS at home, but if he is elsewhere and it is one meal then it doesn't really matter. I think you are really nice to give them tea - I just give them snacks as parents usually collect them before we eat (6:30).

When I'm not sure what a parent would think about snack I had in mind or activity or whatnot, I just say "was thinking of doing/cooking this, does your DC like that/do you mind?" That way they can say no if have a huge issue with hotdogs or whatever, but also will know to have something for their DC to eat later.

Rugbyplayersarehot · 07/02/2017 13:00

See these threads are mumsnet Gold.

Like you willow I was a CM and none of the kids would touch hummus but generally liked cucumber.

It would be a bloody awful tea though unless you are a rabbit.

Pizza and chips or sausage/fish fingers etc. That's the play date rules around our way. That and not taking the brats to your house at all. I bow to the soft play God In winter and the picnic tea in summer. Grin

thethoughtfox · 07/02/2017 13:09

Pasta and pesto is not in the same food bracket as nuggets! Nuggets have become shorthand for horrible salty, fatty garbage.

LaContessaDiPlump · 07/02/2017 13:09

Didn't read the thread but....

I'm vegan and would just be grateful if you fed my (omni) children!

Having said that, Waitrose (and poss other places) do these tofu frankfurters which are, to me (and meat enthusiast DH), indistinguishable from real hot dogs. At least if you hit a tough bit in the tofu dogs you know it's not gristle

NavyandWhite · 07/02/2017 13:12

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Bluntness100 · 07/02/2017 13:13

Ah. No this was about 14 years ago, but looks like she wasn't the only kid to like olives at a young age 😂

Flisstizzy · 07/02/2017 13:13

Sorry I'd be quite judgy about that as I hate hot dog sausages (full of crappy bits). Im generally chilled out about food, and would be fine with most other things, including just the beans with toast, would that be any use as an alternative?

Willow2016 · 07/02/2017 13:15

Walter
Boy are you missing out! Its just wonderful.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 07/02/2017 13:17

Vegan hotdogs Confused

I think I shall stick to best not think about what's in it normal ones

ILoveDolly · 07/02/2017 13:21

I'm just glad someone else has fed my child. Honestly, there are some people on mumsnet who I hope I never meet. I have three kids and am busy so I really think that although healthy eating is important, so is sanity and providing a meal on a play date that everyone will enjoy.

jodie315 · 07/02/2017 13:25

Hotdogs are not really that bad for them sorry in my opinion it's a few little sausages once, it really won't harm them

Starlight2345 · 07/02/2017 13:26

I haven't read the whole 9 pages of many suggestions of how to avoid hot dogs.

I did a kids party for my DS's 5th birthday in Reception and only served hot dogs,and crisps. I took Jam and butter for any unannounced vegetarians. or any who wouldn't eat hot dags. I think I also served nuggests..

Kids loved it wasn't trying to impress parents.

As for playdates it is usually freezer food as I call it.

I am a c.minder, my DS knows it is healthy dinner and pudding when they are here.

GahBuggerit · 07/02/2017 13:26

Genuine question - what would the Judgey Von Judgersons actually do about their child being served a hot dog who, presumably, ate and enjoyed it?

Chathamhouserules · 07/02/2017 13:28

I'd be very grateful that you looked after my children and fed them at all. The only faint bit of disappointment I'd feel is that I sort of do a mix of healthy and unhealthy but quick meals throughout the week (and yes I know there are healthy quick meals), and if they had a unhealthy meal when at someone else's house I sort of feel like that is one less 'quick unhealthy meal' I can do at home. But that's my problem.
A little boy who came to play at our house the other day at four fishfingers for tea... and nothing else (except for ketchup). I was a bit embarrassed but he wouldn't eat the mash or veg that I did to accompany it and I didn't want to send him home hungry (the other children had sausages, but he didn't like them either).

mouldycheesefan · 07/02/2017 13:30

I am judgey. My dds wouldn't touch those pink hotdogs with a barge pole. I hope they would politely leave it and eat the roll.
I wouldn't "do" anything but give them some dinner when they got home.

PeachyImpeachment · 07/02/2017 13:33

Hmm. I buy them for the dog, personally. I tend to avoid smoked meats as much as I can bear as they are carcinogenic (though we live on sausages and bacon when we are camping, because it's compulsory!).

Why not buy some meatballs and bake with a tin of chopped tomatoes or pasatta (sp?) and serve with beans?

stressedbeyond123 · 07/02/2017 13:35

arethereanyleftatall meet my daughter - no matter what i do, my child will not eat pasta, and i've tried from about 6 months (she is now 6) - not even pizza will she touch Sad

give the girl a cooked dinner, and she's happy as anything - beef, chicken, lamb, pork, all the veg known to man and a couple of spuds with gravy and she's good to go!

give her processed stuff and she's in her element .

if she came home from a playdate and said she ate hotdogs or whatever, i wouldn't have a problem at all tbh x