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To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

444 replies

EssieTregowan · 07/02/2017 09:05

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right? Wink

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

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Sparklingbrook · 07/02/2017 10:44

The thing is when children start in YR you are desperate for them to make friends and when they get invited for dinner to a new friend's house it's lovely. No need to fuss about what they are eating-they have a new friend and they are going to spend time somewhere else. Without you!

A little word of warning though. One Mum was very keen to have all the classmates one by one for tea. DS got an invitation in week one. Turns out she was 'playing schools' with them and giving them tests to see how they compared to her DS. Hmm Plus having a good look through their home school diaries.

Willow2016 · 07/02/2017 10:45

Welsh
My kids are gutted that I haven't replaced the old microwave (as I am loving the extra space) and they cant get those £1 burgers now, bad mum!

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 07/02/2017 10:47

Worra my DS looked at his playdate friend like she'd just fell off the Christmas tree when they offered him some sushi whilst waiting for his tea. Grin

BarbarianMum · 07/02/2017 10:47

Well said Mags I'm sitting here wracking my brains to see if there are any of dc's friends I like well enough to put up with parental micromanagement of a playdate tea (allergies excepted). Can't think of one.

Willow2016 · 07/02/2017 10:47

Artandco

Again not its not, I dont know any kids either ds's friends or cm kids who will eat it!

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 10:48

Pinbasket, was just a general comment. Didn't realise I had to be exact.
Many posts have said they wouldn't like it if they children were fed : all sorts of foods.

Sometimes I just forget how MN'ers are bothered by these things. Some of them.

ArcheryAnnie · 07/02/2017 10:48

My kid has always loved maki rolls, but it sounds a lot less impressive if you just call it "cold rice and cucumber".

Allthewaves · 07/02/2017 10:48

Wouldn't give a hoot as long as the are happy and fed.

My stand by is tesco value cheese and tom pizza (unless their gluten or dairy intolerant)

Artandco · 07/02/2017 10:49

Willow - and I don't know any child would wouldn't eat houmous and cucumber. Here it's something you feed babies onwards as easy

dalmatianmad · 07/02/2017 10:51

I'd be happy and grateful that you had fed my child! One meal like that isn't gonna do any harm Hmm

Sparklingbrook · 07/02/2017 10:51

I have two teenagers. they have never liked houmous, even as toddlers.

StandardNameHere · 07/02/2017 10:51

Confused wouldn't bother me at all, it's not like my daughter eats them everyday.
Tbh I'd just be pleased that my daughter had a nice time , was well behaved , fed and watered.
I'd be thanking you for looking after her , not judging you on what you served for dinner (I'd prob draw the line at beer and bar snacks 😂)

Theimpossiblegirl · 07/02/2017 10:52

Although, if I used Herta sausages instead of salmon or tuna that might go down well.

ButtonMooooon · 07/02/2017 10:53

When my DS5 had his (girl)friend over for tea I asked them what they wanted and he asked for Mummy's "special pasta". I am not sure what child's Mum would have thought if I told her I had given her DD pasta and melted Dairlylea triangles for tea!!! It's my emergency go to when rushing or nothing in. If I am really in a rush cant be arsed I even do the microwave Dolmio pasta Blush

Willow2016 · 07/02/2017 10:53

Thats fine but you are saying that hummus is a 'go to food' for all kids just based on your own life, eveyones life isnt like that.

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 10:54

You can't anything here in jest anymore.

The Tarquin bit was suppose to be a joke.
I was referring to all those that said cucumber sticks.

Which I like. But prefer carrot sticks in humous personally. Or is that not allowed either?

And no. No one had mentioned kale before. But it gets mentioned on MN plenty. But no. Not allowed here either.

Which just proves my point. All a bit uptight, it would seem ......

Peanutbutterrules · 07/02/2017 10:54

Really it shouldn't be an issue.

They can stuff their kids with Kale the rest of the time. Grin

SparkleTwinkleGoldGlitter · 07/02/2017 10:55

I struggle to see how anyone could get worked up about it tbh. It's 1 dinner out of the week, surely anyone with a problem can stuff them full or sodding hummus and organic carrots the rest of the time

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 10:56

I love hummus. My ds's don't. No crime. I certainly wouldn't look down my nose at anyone's choice of foodstuff they were giving my kids on a 'playdate'.

Trifleorbust · 07/02/2017 10:56

Mum was very keen to have all the classmates one by one for tea. DS got an invitation in week one. Turns out she was 'playing schools' with them and giving them tests to see how they compared to her DS. hmm Plus having a good look through their home school diaries.

Nooooo! That is sick. Grin

corythatwas · 07/02/2017 10:58

Button, dd's bf once asked me (very politely, she was a nice child) if I could do her some "normal food" instead of the stew or whatever I had just dished up. I swallowed hard and said "ddsbf, different families probably have different ideas about what is normal food; if you could tell me what you mean by normal food, I'll see what I can do". Turned out "normal food" was jam sandwiches. I could manage that. Grin

otoh I never had much time for the preferences of ds' bf who was a lot older and spent his time telling ds how hard-done by he was having to eat my home-cooked food.

Around here, the expected norm is pizza and burgers and chicken nuggets.

Sparklingbrook · 07/02/2017 10:58

It didn't come out for a few weeks til some of the children mentioned it and the other Mums got chatting Trifle. Awful really. Sad

AnnieAnoniMouse · 07/02/2017 10:58

LOL at meat eaters who fuss about which bit of meat they're eating. It's all from the same dead animal. Be it muscle or the 'other bits' that go into sausages etc.

...and people think vegetarians/vegans are the weird ones 😬

Essie I don't think it's unreasonable at all to serve hot dogs (any shape or form), any parent 'judging' what their child is fed, when coming for tea, and finding it 'lacking' is welcome to not allow them over to play next time. Assuming what they have for tea when visiting, is what they eat every day, is really ridiculous...only people with limited brain cells would think that.

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 11:00

No sorry boys. You can't go round to James's/Oliver's/Ben's. I've heard his mum buys: .....

15 bottles of prosecco
Oysters with pearls in them for her party....
Findus crispy pancakes
Bentos pies.

Best you make friends with someone else....,