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To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

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EssieTregowan · 07/02/2017 09:05

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right? Wink

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

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MrsNuckyThompson · 07/02/2017 10:14

I wouldn't care.

MadMags · 07/02/2017 10:17

Perhaps it is harsh, but I have three dc and frankly, I can't be arsed with parents who act like one meal with one hotdog is a travesty!

I just don't have the time or inclination.

I never buy hotdogs so mine don't have them unless we're at a festival or something but if they came home and had had them, I'd be happy they were fed and had had a good time with their friends.

Housemum · 07/02/2017 10:18

If I don't know the child I usually cover my back by asking what their favourite meal is/anything they won't eat (have never yet found anyone who has a favourite meal of lobster!) - usually the answer is anything/pasta/pizza/sausages etc. If I was swerving hotdogs I might also do a smug nod to healthy eating by having some cucumber or carrot sticks to the side to snack on.

Some parents probably will go all cat's-bum-mouth at processed foods though. Used to go to a music group with DD2 when she was 3 or 4, teacher was getting them to clap rhythms with pictures (imagine clapping bread-and-butter etc - yes, it was a bit poncey). She showed one girl a picture and there was no response, she encouraged her, "look it's a fish finger". Cue dad's reply, "Oh, PFB wouldn't know what one of those was, it's not the sort of food we would have in our house". Smug git.

WorraLiberty · 07/02/2017 10:19

It's one meal, seriously.

I'm happy to say I don't know anyone in RL who would give a shiny shit, as long as their kid got fed.

And I'd hazard a guess, the kids will be more interested in actually playing and what's for pudding

Perhaps that's just my world but I don't know anyone as food obsessed as some Mumsnetters are.

fleurdelacourt · 07/02/2017 10:19

OP YANBU!

I can remember when mine were little and ds was served a hummus and grated carrot sandwich - by one of these Mums who presumably now object to plastic sausages. He declined. Don't blame him.

Nothing wrong with plastic sausages - and am loving the idea that frozen pizza is in some way superior!!! A small bit of crap as part of an ok diet has to be a good way to normalise it?

Honestly - by the time they're teenagers they'll be eating any kind of crap they can get their hands on - plastic sausages will be the least of your worries!!!

mouldycheesefan · 07/02/2017 10:19

My kids wouldnt eat those pink hotdogs . But hopefully they would just eat the roll and have some dinner when they got home.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 07/02/2017 10:19

letsmargaritatime shh. Dont tell them what part of the body they usually get the gelatine from for sweets. Wink

NerrSnerr that's what perplexes me too. I'm ex veggie. But it's like my Mum who won't eat fish with heads on if out for a meal. She was a bit put out when I kindly pointed out they don't breed headless ones. Grin

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 10:20

Hotdogs are crap, but pizza is ok?
Ha ha. I've heard it all now.

I'm just pleased that someone has my sons and if they feed them, double bonus.

IHaveBrilloHair · 07/02/2017 10:20

I love hotdogs and so does dd so I wouldn't mind at all.
I might get some this week after reading this thread

NavyandWhite · 07/02/2017 10:20

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BaronessEllaSaturday · 07/02/2017 10:20

We are talking hot dogs. Everyone knows the crap that goes into them!

No you don't. I would say hot dog for a sausage in a bun, you can't tell whether that is a cheap nasty tinned sausage on plastic bread or a top of the range premium sausage on a hand made roll. You can't tell just from the name just what your child is fed.

ArcheryAnnie · 07/02/2017 10:20

My kid when small would have loved that.

If you are looking for other amazingly quick options, or have a kid coming who is a veggie (or who can't eat pork or whatever), then our standard go-to for playdate teas at that age was tortellini from the supermarket chiller cabinet. Less than three quid for a pack that feeds at least two kids, filling, tasty, eaten by even fussy kids (except the ones who won't eat pasta) and cooks in three minutes!

NavyandWhite · 07/02/2017 10:21

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Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 10:21

I'm in a parallel universe. This thread is an eye-opener!! Shock

MadMags · 07/02/2017 10:23

Like Worra, I have yet to meet anyone in RL who is as obsessed with this as the MN massive!

Have you ever seen them dissect a lunchbox?? It's hilarious!

BaronessEllaSaturday · 07/02/2017 10:23

NavyandWhite to me a hotdog just means sausage in a bun, does not have to mean a particular type of sausage

HearTheThunderRoar · 07/02/2017 10:24

YANBU, saveloys and tomato sauce were a firm favourite of mine to serve up on playdates when my DD was young.

Either that or two minuet noodles Grin

I honestly wouldn't care and most parents I knew when DD was primary didn't care either, DD's been serve all sorts over the years and most of the time it hasn't been very healthy.

Gileswithachainsaw · 07/02/2017 10:25

Yeah I'd assume sausages too but that's cos we never have the frankfurters.

My kids would just eat the roll they don't like them but id not go nuts or anything it's fine Grin

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 10:25

100 messages. Of mainly: only invite Tarquin if you are going to offer organic humous with cucumber crudités and kale on the side.

Grin
NavyandWhite · 07/02/2017 10:28

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SaucyJack · 07/02/2017 10:28

I've never met a kid that didn't like hummus and cucumber.

I don't get why it's so amusing to you that some people prefer to feed children food that's made of actual food.

MyKidsHaveTakenMySanity · 07/02/2017 10:28

I've found that if I don't do fast food type stuff (like nuggets) a couple of the visiting kids won't eat. My homemade Shepherd's pie, lentil soup, Chicken teriyaki or Cajun chicken pasta went down like a lead balloon with the same girls each time. (The rest love it).
Now I play it safe and make nuggets, waffles and beans. Every damn time.

Rugbyplayersarehot · 07/02/2017 10:29

I must be commen too as none I know would care a shiny shore about one meal of a hot dog.

I seriously wonder how these parents fill their day. They must live in perpetual fear their snowflakes touch a non organic food particle.

Willow2016 · 07/02/2017 10:30

Hummus is the devils food just wrong in so many ways!

WorraLiberty · 07/02/2017 10:30

Has anyone mentioned how much their kid loves Japanese food yet? Grin