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Original poster

To dislike 40 yr old dh calling his mother "mummy"

196 replies

Mala · 27/02/2007 09:16

Always think mummy sounds horrible, unless the person is under 16. I mean it's okay as a one off, but as an adult I prefer mum. Also don't like dd calling her grandmother "grandmummy"(which is how dh will often refer her as).

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MrsJohnCusack · 27/02/2007 10:20

on the grandmummy thing, if she has no preference, then perhaps you can just gently keep using 'grandma' with both DD and GM and hopefully DH will be alone in using grandmummy

you do get stuck with things though from family traditions etc - am stuck with nana for my mother now as that's what SIL already decided my nieces would call her ages ago, and my mother says she can't cope with having 2 different names. FIL has a totally insane moniker, nothing I can do about it though so I'll just get used to it.

BandofMothers · 27/02/2007 10:27

FGS, she's not trying to intrude on it or change it, she just wanted to know if any one else found it annoying!!
She's already said that twice.

Tortington · 27/02/2007 10:28

this is so tricky and sums my schitzoid life up.

my first instinct is to laugh and say '"tosser" then i realise my 17 yo ds calls me mummy - when he wants something.

Caligula · 27/02/2007 10:29

No she didn't, she put it in the "Am I unreasonable?" section.

I LOVE this section. It's been a great success.

GooseyLoosey · 27/02/2007 10:30

Know it sounds posh, but isn't necessarily. SIL lives in Northern Ireland and it seems to be very common there and there is no way you could call SIL posh or even aspirational

BandofMothers · 27/02/2007 10:31

It's a great section. Some very interesting threads have appeared. It's a great way to find out if you're in the majority or if you really are an unreasonable old cowbag!!!

Molesworth · 27/02/2007 10:32

Yes, that's true about the regional variations, but it's a posh thing in England I would say, especially the south east.

oxocube · 27/02/2007 10:35

I hate, hate, hate mum and dad and my kids only ever use mummy or daddy, but then they are 11, 9 and 5. I wonder when they'll move on to mum and dad - I think they'd sound pretty daft calling me mummy at 30.

But my real pet hate is people calling their parents by their first names (sorry if I'm offending here!). My 1st boyfriend had lefty trendy parents who insisted he called them by their names not mum and dad. I always thought it sounded really wanky

Original poster
Mala · 27/02/2007 10:35

thankyou BandofMothers. I am not trying to change dh at all and I don't see how I am intruding. I don't want to hurt dh, which is why I am posting on MN. This is no means a huge issue in our marriage, I was just curious about how many people felt like I do.

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stleger · 27/02/2007 10:40

Dh calls his mother 'granny' to her face and batgran behind her back.

Aloha · 27/02/2007 10:41

I'd find it creepy tbh. Sorry. Reminds me of Nigel in the Archers. Urk.

oxocube · 27/02/2007 10:43

Aloha

ScummyMummy · 27/02/2007 10:44

lol, sea and custy. I would definitely have to stop myself from visibly flinching but agree there's nothing you can do, Mala.

ScummyMummy · 27/02/2007 10:46

Yes- it is very Nigel, isn't it Aloha? Very faithful, sweet, slightly dim, public school.

BandofMothers · 27/02/2007 10:46

My dd1 quite often calls me "mum-mum", or mama. Seems to depend on her mood. Also calls dh Dad-dad.
It's never been said by anyone, she seems to have come up with it all on her own.

moopymoo · 27/02/2007 10:48

all a bit little britain really. my exdh used to but his head on mil knee and say hello my lovely mummy. made me barf. im very posh and I call them mother and father.

zippitippitoes · 27/02/2007 10:53

I would say not a sign of being dim at all
very merchant banker

ScummyMummy · 27/02/2007 10:57

Sorry- always think of Nigel as sweet but dim, not mummy utterers generally.

jambomum · 27/02/2007 11:00

I totally agree with Mala that if you don't like 'grandmummy' then you shouldn't use it. But I think you and dh have to agree what the names will be.

dh and I did this, as his mother wanted to be 'nanny' and I put my foot down and said it was horrid. He agreed and although he refused to confront his mother, we just started referring to her as Grandma and now ds uses it and she does too.

zippitippitoes · 27/02/2007 11:03

I am called grandma but it sounds ridiculous to me anyway..

I would hate to be nana..so i get that when dd is trying to wind me up

firejumper · 27/02/2007 11:19

We call my father papa. not parpar, but papa as in papi, not pretensious as somebody on here told me it was, its just a family thing i gues my mother was always mom or if we wanted something momma.

northerner · 27/02/2007 11:29

I hate it when grown ups call their parents mummy and daddy. Makes me cringe tbh.

My dh calls his Dad Papa, but that's because he is French. DS calles his Grandad Pepere. Dh calls his step mum Mutti, did find this a bit odd at first but kind of used to it now.....

northerner · 27/02/2007 11:31

My MIL calls her Mum Mumy, even when she is talking about her. ie 'Oh I ahve to go and meet Mummy'

LieselVentouse · 27/02/2007 11:40

Thats very posh isnt it?

ernest · 27/02/2007 11:46

my bf calls her dh daddy, and he calls her 'mother'. "what's for dinner, mother?" etc. tbh, it really REALLY get on my tits. to me, that sounds really wanky. She's your wife not your f*king mother!!!!!!!!!! Grr. There. Feel better for that.

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