DH took Dd1 (4) swimming. I was home with DD2 as she was napping. I've been mulling this over because DD is angry and upset that this happened and isn't sure he wants to take DD1 swimming on his own again.
So the story he's told me:
Got into the changing room to get into swim stuff. A guy (let's call him Bob) was in there. No problem. They got dressEd and. Into the pool.
Came back after to find Bob in the shower without the curtain pulled over. Bob was naked and instantly told DH to get DD out as it was the men'seeking changing room. DH says he asked the man to pull the curtain to the shower across if he was that bothered about a 4yo being in there. DH got DD dressed while the guy continuously ranted about a girl bring in the men's changing rooms while he was naked and that the mum should have been there to deal with this. Then he said they should have waited outside for him to finish (wet and cold)
DH didn't think anything of taking DD into the changing rooms at her age. I wouldn't think of it if I had a 4yo boy. Whenever I've been in a changing room and a mum has had her DS in there, I've just got on with my own thing.
So now DH isn't sure he wants to take her back and isn't sure if he was in the wrong. There's no signs but the general rule when I've been in gyms is under 7 and they go with the parent rather than a changing room of their own sex. DH didn't feel that comfy about letting DD go into the ladies on her own in case something happened (like she fell down the stairs on the way in) or she had trouble with her swimming costume.
So was DH BU for not waiting or was the man BU for not pulling the curtain over and getting so uptight about a 4yo (who has no care in the world aboutility what others do) being in the changing rooms. I think the man but I'm happy to be told otherwise and have to go with DD all the time.