to not want to share a bed with BF?

[ScratchingPost4]

Hi, I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend, I love him a lot. We have been together 4 years! Only just going to move in with each other!

Obviously when we have stayed over or gone on holiday we have shared but I have never got a good nights sleep and always wake up uncomfortable and hot.

When we move in, is it wrong to have separate beds? He isn't happy about that and thinks it will ruin the relationship

[Crumbs1]

Emporer bed with twin mattresses is way forward.

[Endmoor1405]

I think YAB slightly U. It took a long time for me to not feel too hot and actually get a decent nights sleep when I first started staying over at DHs. I am naturally a very warm person and really struggle to get comfortable if I'm too hot- I never used to sleep naked because I would get too hot as well! It took a while but now I find I am entirely unable to sleep without him or with any sort of clothing on. Weird how things change!!

[Miserylovescompany2]

How about this OP? If you can't cope with them joined...seperate them.

[AllDayIThinkAboutFood]

I hate sharing a bed too but it upsets my DH if we don't so we have an 'emperor' bed with separate blankets. I still sometimes sleep in a separate room because his snoring drives me bonkers though. I just leave after he falls asleep.

[ScratchingPost4]

2 double beds together, is that reasonable?

[FurryLittleTwerp]

Single duvets on a king-size bed might be the answer for you.

[Miserylovescompany2]

...it's called a compromise.

[HCantThinkOfAUsername]

We have two separate duvets on a superkingsize bed though he likes sleeping on the sofa sometimes

[ChuckSnowballs]

We have a super king size with two mattresses, and our old double is in the spare room so that if one of us can't sleep, we go and snuggle down in there.

[Iamastonished]

That's exactly the bed we have Miserylovescompany2.

[MillionToOneChances]

Two single duvets on a king size or super king bed?

[raviolidreaming]

2 double beds together, is that reasonable?

I'd say that's the dream! I'll be resentful of our superking now you've put that idea in my head!

[Ragwort]

We have the same bed Misery - I sleep in it and DH has the spare room (equally comfortable bed) . i loathe sharing a bed/room - I genuinely don't know how people can sleep with someone else in the room. Been married nearly 30 years.

[Mindtrope]

OH and I have separate bedrooms, we both prefer sleeping alone.

Works for us.

[Purplebluebird]

Superking bed and separate duvets, Scandi style. Or separate beds, I don't see why it can't work if you want it to though!

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

2 double beds together, is that reasonable

Only if you have Balmoral sized bedrooms.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

Bunk beds - there you go!

Is there such a thing as double sized bunk beds?

It might lead to arguments about who gets the top bunk though.

[Bunnyfuller]

We sleep better alone too, but share a bed because I think you're made to feel it's wrong not to share a bed. I'm the snorer but if I'm awake when he comes to bed (hardly ever go up at same time, he's a tv addict and I like reading mumsnet then I really struggle to sleep, wriggle endlessly, get huffed at and usually slink off to spare room. I've found peri-menopause is a sleep wrecker with overheating, overthinking, over-itching and 27000 wees.

[hels71]

DH and I are about to get single duvets so we can sleep on the same bed but still have our own space. he wants a 4.5 tog, i would like about 20 tog.. I think you have to try different things to see what works for you..

[ClashCityRocker]

Oh you're a bunch of flangefests.

I'm a natural snuggler with a tolerant husband and I'd hate separate beds

However. It's absolutely a personal choice thing and not a judgement on the quality of your relationship at all. I do see where your dh is coming from - I think asides from shagging or owt like that, there's a certain intimacy from sleeping together and I think it would bother me sleeping apart..and it sounds like your DP feels like that, so it does need some thought...

I'd go for as big a bed as you can fit in the room and separate duvets.

[Mondy]

We've got two separate single beds (but next to each other), complete with separate duvets - mine a double (because I like to wrap it around me) but very thin, partner's a single one that's so thick it would be suitable for Artic exploration. Works brilliantly, best thing we ever did, we both get a good night's sleep now!

[Brokenbiscuit]

We sleep separately most of the time. Have done for the last ten years, I reckon. Slept together for ten years before that, but neither of us actually slept that well. I struggle a bit now when we have to share!

[Newbluetattoo]

Our Superking bed almost feels like separate beds, even without separate duvets. I hate having to sleep in anything smaller on holidays etc

[Brokenbiscuit]

Should have said, it doesn't affect the relationship negatively. It's possible to "visit".

[Mondy]

The only downside is the amount of sheer space that two 3 foot single beds take up, but it's worth it for us each to have a good amount of room to sleep, as we're both on the larger size.