To expect DH to eat 4 mars bars, 2 cream eggs, glucose tablets some caramel dairy milk, and drink coke and lucosdae!

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Right am getting so annoyed by DH that I need a reality check from all of you please.

DH is underweight by about 2 stone. He has a physical job that sees him up at 4am, and getting home at 1pm latest. When he gets up he has a coffee and then a chocolate biscuit (penguin or similar) while at work. When he gets home he has a bowl of cereal, sometime some toast, hot cross bun or crumpets. He spends a couple of hours playing with DC's and doing odd jobs around the house. Then I send him for a 2 to 2.5 hour sleep. He gets up in time for tea and I always fill him with lots of carbs, spuds, pasta, couscous etc. the we do washing up get kids ready for bed and are settled down with a coffee by about 7.30-8pm.

I am currently on maternity leave, so in June he wont get an afternoon sleep anymore as he will have two DC's to look after etc while I work in the afternoons.

Anyway, this evening after tea time (tea was a pasta dish) he had hoovered and was coming up for story time when he went dizzy. He sat restng for about an hour and a half but felt no better. He thinks it is a sugar problem (he has a realy fast metabolism), so I went round to the shop and bought: 2 Mars Duos, 3 Cream eggs, Large Bottle of Coke, 2 packets of Lucosdae Glucose tablets, 2 bottles of lucosade sport and large bar of caramel Dairymilk. He ate one Mars Duo and said he felt better! Now after my pilgramige I think he should have eaten at least an egg as well and some glucose tablets. Anyway I bullied him and he managed to drink some lucosade as well.

I have made sure he has plenty for work tomorrow so he can take chocolate and glucose with him. But here I sit getting all worried and he claims to be feeling better after just one mars duo

He kows why I feel so worried. I have lost both parents and feel very insecured about the health of my loved ones. Not to mention in the past he has said he felt dizzy, had a nose bleed and then collapsed!!

Am I being unreasonable for wanting him to eat more?

No he wont go to the doctor as he is bl**dy stubborn, darling, prescios to me, ass of a DH !!

Update - prepared cereal for DH to eat before work, which he did , and he's taken his sandwiches.

Lunch today will be spaghetti on wholemeal toast. And tea is a good hearty sausage casserole with mixed root veg mash . Incase DH does'nt have time for sandwiches everyday I will be getting in some cereal bars.

The problem I have with him and food is that he was raised on burger, egg and chips, omlettes etc. Mostly fried but definatley processed foods. MIL's idea of a roast is boil in the bag chicken in gravy, new potatoes and boiled to death caulifower - which is why DH has no idea about veggies etc.

He has come so far since we ave been together (11yrs), but asking him to eat seeds and nuts and to get three decent meals a day is like talking to the wall - he's been in his job longer than we have been together so he realy is stuck in his ways

However I will try the nagging method SL and see how long he lasts. If he doesnt show improvement on a beter diet after a week it's off to the doctors.

porrage or muesli
pears

try making fruit cake or flapjacks
cheesy wholemeal scones..

get abreadmaker..youcan add different things to bread

scrambled or poached eggs
fish finger sandwiches

pitta bread with falafels, chilli sauce, salad or homemade coleslaw

Zippiti -

Thanks, but he wont eat:

Pears, fruitcake, fishfingers, falafels or coleslaw.

However I am a dab hand at flapjacks so these will be a good way to boost him!

glad it's working for today!

I think what you said about the food he ate growing up is quite illuminating - that kind of diet (and I know because I had one ) can make people really uninterested in and lazy about food.
I didn't see food as something to take pleasure in or spend time over for years and years, and if I'm cooking for myself will still have a piece of toast and marmalade for dinner as I don't have the motivation to cook a proper meal, but will eat just about anything that someone else cooks and puts in front of me.

I think your DH is in that kind of groove - if you do the work, prepare the cereal, pack his lunchbox etc I bet you find he eats it all and loves it.

Can he eat 'second breakfast' before he leaves the office on the bike? My DH works on building sites with very early starts and has toast and coffee at 5am, then a proper meal (bacon rolls, fruit, porridge or whatever he's packed) at 9 or 10, which works quite well for him.

(easy to sneak nuts / seeds / dried fruit into the flapjacks)

Yep - got that covered thanks MrsB.

I am actually getting quite excited at the thought of feeding DH properly and seeing an improvement in him.

Back to meal planning!

pizza easy to add stuff to that and fine cold

try making a pizza base youreself there is an easy scone one from delia smith or make a base in the breasdmaker

if you make bread or scone etc then you can also add groubnd nuts or soya flour etc

My dh suffers from hypoglycemia (not sure of spelling) which means he has to eat properly otherwise he feels sick, dizzy and faint. This is to do with his sugar levels but not quite so severe as diabetes (his dad has diabetes) So I would drag him down the docs and get him tested!! It sounds like he could have one of these and if so may need medication and a re-look at his diet! My dh has to take toffees with him to work and lucosade to keep him going through the day and he has to have a proper beakfast, lunch and dinner. He gets very tired too with this.

Also, sweets such as chocolate etc are good for an energy boost if someone does have sugar level problems! My dh was advised of this by the doc but obviously he has to eat proper meals too. Alo have you looked into him possibly being anemic? That can make you feel faint sick and weak. Im anemic and again you have to eat properly!!

Just read whole thread and there are some good suggestions. His problem is that other than his evening meal he exists on refined carbs and sugar. If he isn't diaabetic now he soon will be.

Today's menu sounds good - but spagetti on toast is just carbs and carbs. Beans on toast would be better. That meal needs some protein to balance it out. Even some grated cheese on top would help. Or a slice of ham or a Babybel on plate also.

Would he eat oatcakes? I often have a banana and a couple of oatcakes as a snack if I am being good (not like the cheese croissant I have just shoved down my neck!).

(Have to say that reading your OP I thought it was a wind up! Apologies but I was surprised at anyone trying to get that much sugar into someone!

eating high sugar for low blood sugar levels is not a good fix

with the exception of insulin deendent duabetes when it is necessary

foe someone who suffers low blood sugar levels then they should really avoid sugary refined foods as taking them perpetuates the symptoms..qand can cause mood problems too

low blood sugars are quite common but can be resolved with a proper diet..eg low gi

If you want to read up on hypoglycemia look up www.hypoglycemia.org/hypo.asp or type hypoglycemia support foundation into a search engine. its easy to read and explains exactly what it is, sympyoms and what to do. He may not have this but all sounds a little to familiar to me. good luck! - I shall be watching this thread.

Budababe, DH put cheeses on everything so lunch was not totally carbs. However he is complaining that he misseshis cereal when he gets home from work - as he looks forward to it .

I dont think I expected DH to eat all the junk I bought last night (and he still has'nt) but I was just frustrated that he said he felt so bad but did'nt seem bothered to do anything about it! Last night was the third episode of this in 11 years so I am hoping it's nothing serious - and as I already menioned I will see how he is after a week of improved eating and then decide whether to employ SnowLeopards nagging technique to get him to the GP!

He says he feels fine today - hoping I'll stop nagging I expect!

As for geting him to eat oatcakes I have more chance of wining the lottery three weeks in a rowe! He has tried them when I had some and think they are tastless!

DL, thanks for the weblink, I will investigate!

let him have his cereal but buy Fruit and Fibre or Oatiflakes or Weetabix or something with a bit more slow-burn carb in than Frosties!

Zippit, My dh has had this for many years. Yes a healthy diet is the most important thing, proper meals etc, which he has. But, he does need extra sugar at times like sweets etc and this is normal for people with hypoglycemia. If he feels faint or week he will have a small sugary something to pick him up. Docs words! Also my FIL is diabetic and has been for over 50 years. He has to have sugary coffee regularly and biscuits to hand in case his levels plummet. No offence but they have been dealing with this for years.