AIBU to ask if anyone had concerns about their toddler’s development that turned out to be unfounded?

[MrsMcKeon]

DS is 21 months and I have a few concerns about his development, mostly around the difficulty I experience in engaging with him as he often completely ignores me; and doesn’t seem to register things like changes in my tone of voice at all. He also hates hugs and kisses and will wriggle away from them.

I’m in the very early stages of pregnancy again right now and after a couple of early miscarriages, I am very worried about that, so possibly my concerns are more caused by my general anxiety levels than anything else.

I have been looking on the SN forum and reading experiences from people who had concerns about their children that were proven to be accurate. But it has occurred to be that people who had concerns about their children that proved to be unfounded are unlikely to be posting on the SN forum, so I thought I would ask here if anyone had concerns and it later turned out there was nothing to worry about?

I think I will make an appointment Catwoman, hopefully it will put my mind at rest.

I’m curious as to an update on this. I have a 7 month old. She will not cuddle at all forces me away. Will let me massage her pick her up when she is crying and I can hold her “whilst standing” but I couldn’t just sit on the sofa and cuddle or cuddle her to sleep! I’m googling all kinds worries she is autistic. She has good eye contact. Babbles always smiling and laughing. Doesn’t fixate on anything. But does make a noise where she sounds frustrated. It’s like one noise for everything! Am I being paranoid? How is your DC now? X

Me. Convinced DD1 would be diagnosed with ASD. She does have some very mild sensory issues - mostly around food - but has grown out of all the concerning behaviors she had as a toddler and is thriving. Bright, articulate and sociable. Always wise to keep an eye and ask for professional advice, but try not to worry too much OP.

Ah didn't see it was an old thread. The same applies though Lolj88 my DD1 would never sit and cuddle and I too was quite worried when she was the same age as your DC, even more so when DD2 was born and was the complete opposite. Please try not to worry!

Mine's a bit back to front from what you asked. I didn't really have any major concerns about my two when they were under 5 apart from my eldest seeming to have a minor physical delay.

Both really bright. Son had tantrums but they didn't start until age 3. Daughter never tantrumed at all!

It was when they were both around the age of 7 that I noticed things weren't quite right. Looking back, the signs were there but very subtle signs. Both in Key Stage 2 and have multiple diagnosis' now including ASD.

One of my now-teens was a terrible toddler. She didn't stand until she was 9m old and even then she refused to do anything but stand there looking at me. She also didnt form proper sentences until she was 14 months old and I was terrified she would be special and not be able to go to the same school as my older child as it required an entrance test. Luckily, things evened out later and she is now getting straight As and on course for Oxbridge so all fine. Try not to worry too much.

@HitchFlix thanks for replying. When you say you DD would never sit and cuddle did she push away? I EBF and she will sit for her bed but it if i take her off the boob try and cuddle she immediately pushed away. Even with my husband, mum! I think it’s maybe her personality. Apart from this noise that has started this week where she grunts for everything and when we have sat her down for meals this week she has kicked off! Could be teething! I think I’m getting myself worked up for no reason but it’s hard. You just want everything to be ok. X