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Original poster

Do I carry on with this guy?

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user1485102013 · 31/01/2017 18:28

Been dating a month. I like him and things are going well but he talks about sex all. the. time. I'm getting a bit bored of it.

We have good chemistry and he's really lovely. I have a habit of looking for issues so I don't know if that's what I'm doing now.

AIBU to consider ending things?

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FlyWaxSleepRepeat · 31/01/2017 18:43

Does he ever ask you about yourself? Has he ever...,

Ah forget it, it doesn't matter, he sounds like a tedious self absorbed gobshite.

HattiesBackpack · 31/01/2017 18:45

Plus what mittenonastring said- no one should have sex they don't want or like
It doesn't matter what everyone else is doing in terms of their sexlife, you do what's right for you Smile

Underthemoonlight · 31/01/2017 18:45

He sounds like a sex pest with no substance get rid

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user1485102013 · 31/01/2017 18:46

He rarely asks any questions about me. It's mostly about him and his life.

I do want to have sex with him but not all the time and I don't want to always talk about it. But he tells me he wanks every day to 'sort himself out'.

What am I thinking.

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Original poster
user1485102013 · 31/01/2017 18:47

Sorry for the massive drip feed. I'm just having a few realisations now I've started talking.

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AnyFucker · 31/01/2017 18:48

Yes. What are you thinking ?

EatSpamAmandaLamb · 31/01/2017 18:50

Sack him off.
Yes the start of the relationship is often the stage where you are shagging like rabbits 24/7 but it usually also the stage that when you aren't shagging you are getting to know each other in other ways. He sounds dull in extreme. If he constantly talked about every meal he ate or was going to eat that would also become tiresome. It seems his personality is based on sex.

ilovesooty · 31/01/2017 18:50

That's what I was wondering AF

EatSpamAmandaLamb · 31/01/2017 18:51

You have sex with him when you don't want to? That's horrible and no foundation for a relationship. Walk away now and meet someone interesting. You're worth more.

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user1485102013 · 31/01/2017 18:51

I'm clearly not thinking at all. I've just latched on to the idea of having a nice guy in my life who respects that I have a child and is interested in me. I know. I know.

He also made a comment last night about how his brother hates fat people or people who have a bit of weight on them. I asked him what he thought about it and he said he agreed to a certain extent. I'm not the slimmest person in the world. He just wants a shag doesn't he.

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HitsAndMrs · 31/01/2017 18:55

I went out with a guy exactly like this! His name doesn't begin with 'R' does it?! 😂
I was younger and naive and thought it was normal. It's wasn't and I felt used.

Newbrummie · 31/01/2017 18:56

He's not interested in you though is he, he's interested in getting his rocks off.

Poppypooch · 31/01/2017 18:58

In a word yes
Dump him, leave him and his hand to it
You deserve better and there are good uns out there, don't waste your time on him

Bantanddec · 31/01/2017 19:04

I hope he doesn't think you're a 'desperate single mum' there's a few (awful) lads I work with , who actively go out seeking sex with single mums that they refer to in that manner. Get rid of him immediately!!!

AnyFucker · 31/01/2017 19:18

Well...at the moment you are giving him exactly what he wants

And you don't even want to some of the time

You think this guy is a prize who would take you on with your dc ? Deary me. I hope you haven't introduced him to them.

Original poster
user1485102013 · 31/01/2017 19:21

I haven't AnyFucker.

I know I'm being an idiot though.

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Angryangryyoungwoman · 31/01/2017 19:21

Walk away, he makes you feel uncomfortable.... You don't need any other reason

DoloresTheRunawayTrain · 31/01/2017 19:23

Walk away. He is insecure and is using you to boost his fragile ego. You are right, it is all about him. He's not out for a relationship.

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user1485102013 · 31/01/2017 19:36

I think he is wanting an ego boost Dolores. It makes me wonder whether he actually likes me or whether he's just using me to make himself feel better

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KurriKurri · 31/01/2017 19:42

Run fast.
Run far.

Plenty more tiddlers in the sea. (fnaar fnaarr etc.)

AnyFucker · 31/01/2017 19:45

What are you going to do about it, op ? Have you made a decision ?

user892 · 31/01/2017 19:47

Dump him. Let your passing shot be:

"It's completely average, by the way"

DoloresTheRunawayTrain · 31/01/2017 19:49

User your gut instinct is correct he is using you. You are an ego boosting wank sock, now run. He will make you miserable as he has already started to take things a bit beyond just ego boosting and using the segway of his brother thinks (code for it's actually his opinions) he will start to boost himself by bringing you down. Stop it now and bin him.

alphabook · 31/01/2017 19:50

He sounds properly boring.

TheNaze73 · 31/01/2017 19:51

You should be non stop at the start

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