I was collared by dd's teacher today. Saying that another parent had phoned school and complained about my dd. There was apparently an altercation at lunchtime last week. That's all she said. I've asked my dd what happened and she said the girl is part of her group of friends and they usually get on really well. But on the day in question the other girl came over asking to play and then started to take over the game and bossing them all around, then she stopped them from leaving wherever they were playing. Dd and another girl said she want being fair so the girl stormed off. Later on the girl called dd a lower because she liked a particular song. Dd told the dinner lady so the girl stormed off again because she was told off. This seems to be an ongoing thing with this girl taking over and storming off. They're in y4 and this girl only started at the school this year. Dd has never been accused of anything like this before and is a very friendly and quiet girl with a small group of good friends.
She has been repeatedly bullied in the past by another girl. This seems to have stopped now but went on for years. I spoke to countless teachers. And only the teacher last year put a stop to it. The others were useless, with one telling me it was dd's fault after she received a horrible bullying letter. Never once was the mother spoken to when actual bullying was taking place and it was all swept under the carpet.
But the moment my dd has a disagreement with a child who she believes is trying to cause trouble, and the deputy head is involved.
I'm furious, after going through what she did, she would never be mean to anyone. She is so kindhearted.
I don't know what to do now, I'm worried my daughter will be branded a bully when she isn't. She is a pretty anxious child and i'm worried this will set her back. It took a long time for her to regain the confidence she lost through the bullying and now this!