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To find weekends really overwhelming?

55 replies

EIsbethTascioni · 29/01/2017 20:25

I'm quite introverted and need a LOT of quiet time to feel balanced. I'm very fortunate to be a SAHM to school aged dc so I get plenty of time during the week.

I'm always ragged by Sunday evening. Ds2 is like a little barnacle, he's constantly velcroed to me. Dh is lovely but can be a bit puppy like and wants constant affection and physical contact. The teenagers are generally doing their own thing so not really a problem.

We went out last night as well (rare) so I've had to be sociable out in public. I feel grumpy and a bit teary this evening. I went upstairs to watch TV in bed while the roast was cooking earlier and every bloody bugger followed me up there!

I'm a right miserable grinch. I just want to be left alone!

Does anyone else get like this?

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TescoCarrierBag · 29/01/2017 20:27

Did I change username and write this?
You are sooooo not being unreasonable Smile

malificent7 · 29/01/2017 20:27

Yanbu...

Dragongirl10 · 29/01/2017 20:28

Yes l sometimes feel the same way!

Mine are close in age and will happily play together thank goodness, but bust social weekends have me longing for Mondays...l work from home alone!

Nearly there...

Lilaclily · 29/01/2017 20:30

Aw bless you

But think you get 6 hours to yourself tomorrow, I'm beyond envious

I'm the same as you but have dcs all weekend and work all week

Lilaclily · 29/01/2017 20:30

I stick a dvd on Saturday and Sunday afternoons and take to the bath with the paper

thewooster · 29/01/2017 20:36

YANBU! I'm an introvert and I feel your pain OP. I also find it tiring when socialising. Some folk just don't understand you want to be alone.

Magicpaintbrush · 29/01/2017 20:42

Yanbu. I also need alone time or frankly I go a bit mad and end up feeling ratty and harrassed. Luckily I do get alone time during week days as I work alone freelancing. I understand where you are coming from. Can you lock yourself in the bathroom with a book (in pretence of being on the toilet) or will they be banging on the door?

Original poster
EIsbethTascioni · 29/01/2017 20:44

I've only got tomorrow morning as I have to go to therapy in the afternoon. More bloody talking to a room full of people .

I know I'm very lucky generally though.

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EIsbethTascioni · 29/01/2017 20:44

I had a bath yesterday and the whole lot of them came in on one pretext or another. Including the dog!

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PoptartPoptart · 29/01/2017 20:47

I hear you op, I'm exactly the same. Unfortunately I work Mon-Fri and by the time DS is in bed I feel absolutely drained. I'm often in bed by 9pm just to get some alone/processing time to myself. Weekends are hard too but I do get every other weekend to myself when DS goes to his dads. I crave alone time, quiet time, when I don't have to talk to anyone!

user1471446433 · 29/01/2017 20:47

YANBU
But I Home Ed our three kids so weekend is getting to share the load with DH (although he feels like you Wink). I am very introverted too.

Eminado · 29/01/2017 20:50

I had no idea how much I need alone time - only realised when I had my children 🤦🏽‍♀️.

honeylulu · 29/01/2017 20:52

I need a bit if time to myself too. On the odd occasion everybody is it and I'm in the house alone I'm in heaven, even if I'm just doing chores!
And mine follow me everywhere if I try and sneak off for a bit. Even husband. Why????

purplepandas · 29/01/2017 20:52

This is me. Work FT and then small children. I am 40 very soon and actually have booked the day alone. People think I am mad but I crave being on my own, I never get this time and it is important!

Slimmingsnake · 29/01/2017 21:04

I'm the same..I could of wrote what you put op....I find my family very needy and I dream of leaving and having a tiny one bedroom flat to myself....and every birthday for as long as I can remember I go off on my own ,alone ,and it's bloody lovely.andthey moan they want to spend the day with me..but tough.my day my rules...

christinarossetti · 29/01/2017 21:07

Oh yes. At one point this afternoon, the 3 other members of my household were all asking me questions at the same time. Not 'would you like some peace and quiet?' of course, or even 'can worms hear?', but along the lines of 'where's my....?', 'what are we doing three weeks on Sunday....?'

I don't bloody well know (or care).

I often feel as if my head is going to implode.

ConfessorKahlan · 29/01/2017 21:12

I never get 5 seconds to myself. I teach full time and the whole weekend is taken up with planning, marking, laundry, housework, ironing and the house is always full of husband and two teena ge daughters. They inevitably have friends over as well.

Weekends may be busy for you, but at least you have time to yourself during the week, although I am aware that you will have lots of household tasks to do too.

I am knackered permanently and count down the weeks until half term even though I love my job.

Enjoy your peace and quiet during the week!

CoolCarrie · 29/01/2017 21:21

I've got my mil still here from 16 th December, not a fucking minutes peace. She is totally incapable of watching anything on TV without asking what is going on, made a point of not sitting beside her last night at cinema to see Allied as she would want a running commentary on it. I know just how you feel OP!

uncoolnn · 29/01/2017 21:22

I get very agitated and grumpy if I haven't had any time to myself for a while. YANBU.

AllDayIThinkAboutFood · 29/01/2017 21:25

Yanbu!! I have a barnacle 6 year old and a DH that also needs lots of affection and it wears me down sometimes. I also work as a waitress part time and busy Friday/Saturday/Sunday shifts and going home to people that don't understand I need an hour or 4 of quiet alone time when I get home can be frustrating.

BrianCantsPants · 29/01/2017 21:30

I totally get you OP
I used to get every other weekend "off" when my kids went to their dads. He's now disappeared and so I've had them constantly, day in day out, for nearly 6 months now... they are seriously doing my head in. I work 4 days a week too so cherish my days "off" which consist of supermarket shopping and housework, but at home it's quiet and peaceful and I quite honestly dread having to go and pick them up from school.
If he ever reappears I am sorely tempted to make him have them every fucking weekend for 6 months... Wink

Ooogetyooo · 29/01/2017 21:34

Cool Carrie - your mil is still there since 16 th Dec? Oh my!

ifcatscouldtalk · 29/01/2017 21:43

I have worked a 3 sometimes 4 day week for a long time. At one point I took on a second job but after a couple of months I packed it in because the lack of time alone. Once I got my 1-2 days a week back and had 6-12 hours alone whilst dh/dd are out I became a really nice human being again.

Melawen · 29/01/2017 21:47

You've put your finger on the very reason why I'm a grumpy bugger this weekend and can't seem to snap out of it. And it's only myself and my five year old DD.

hiccupgirl · 29/01/2017 21:48

This is completely me too. 7 yr DS is a limpet and DH is like a puppy who constantly needs attention too, they both do my head in at the weekends.

At least this weekend, DH was away so while I had no break from DS, I only had 1 of them following me around in my headspace.

Luckily I only work 1/2 days on Mon and Tues so I get a couple of hours to myself before the school run. Otherwise I would be going mad.

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