To find weekends really overwhelming?

[EIsbethTascioni]

I'm quite introverted and need a LOT of quiet time to feel balanced. I'm very fortunate to be a SAHM to school aged dc so I get plenty of time during the week.

I'm always ragged by Sunday evening. Ds2 is like a little barnacle, he's constantly velcroed to me. Dh is lovely but can be a bit puppy like and wants constant affection and physical contact. The teenagers are generally doing their own thing so not really a problem.

We went out last night as well (rare) so I've had to be sociable out in public. I feel grumpy and a bit teary this evening. I went upstairs to watch TV in bed while the roast was cooking earlier and every bloody bugger followed me up there!

I'm a right miserable grinch. I just want to be left alone!

Does anyone else get like this?

Iv stressed going to gym on a saturday morning blissfully alone, it really helps get me trough the wkend. I love my alone time

Totally get it, I'm very introverted and need lots of alone time. My dp and ds are both very sociable people and need constant human interaction, I just don't.
I often after a full on day of being out and about with dp and ds get home and slope off upstairs to lay on the bed with a book just to recharge my batteries.

Do something about it!

I used to feel like this and it wasn't until later I actually could articulate that I needed 'headspace.'

In fact it was getting ill with a very low thyroid that gave me physical ailments that finally my family actually sat up and took notice!

Now it's cups of tea for me (even from my 10 y.o) and dinner made, bath run and candles lit for me; I often am the first to bed as the others are quite capable and enjoy the responsibility of getting themselves ready for school/bed, hanging out laundry etc.

As long as you delegate in a kind manner with a sense of humour you will be amazed how much your family will be kind and thoughtful to you.

We've always rewarded kind and thoughtful behaviour from an early age (special treats, trips out etc, Sundays are clean and tidy the house days while on the other days each have little jobs to do like cleaning the counters, vacuuming the floor before or after school.

Delegate and reward and then practice something like meditation where you can inform your family what you are going to do, for however long,and they can join in but it must be completely quiet...!

I found all these things actually just mount to having and showing respect for you and that is achievable if you are kind but firm!

Good luck! x

I've been a bit like that since having kids OP. I used to be really sociable...

You are lucky enough not to work in the week. I think YABU.

This is why I go on long walks. My.kids are too little to follow so its an hour of alone time, hopefully more in the summer.

Reminds me of '5 Minutes Peace'by Jill Hughes.

Just out of interest do you miss them at all on a Monday?

Completely feel your pain except working full time means I only get peace/alone time when I run (which has helped my mental health) or every couple of months when the stars align... I have to remind myself how much they love me - they won't be young forever and that it's a fixed period of time.

Hope it gets better for you.

Oh and by they won't be young for long - I mean to cherish them. Tough at times I know!

I feel your pain. DS is constantly in my space and I long for his bedtime some weekends. My need for time and space alone is the reason I will not be having any more children. Being constantly present and available to children is by far the single most difficult thing about being a mother (also an introvert) for me, and I had no idea how tough it would be.

And yes I said mother, in our house daddy has a much easier time of it, DS doesn't seem to notice when DH disappears upstairs for a poo for half an hour, but I can't even get a wee in peace!

I would actually quite enjoy living entirely alone on an island somewhere chilly OP. When my DC are adults, I might do it. DH can visit me once a month or something.

{I'm quite serious}

I think YABU.

You are lucky to have lots of alone time during weekdays. Most people are working while you are pottering about the house/shopping/doing housework etc

Enjoy the family time for 2 days, don't try and escape then, it's really not that long

Sorry perhaps going against the grain here, but I think yabu. You have time to yourself in the week. Yes school runs are constant and I don't doubt you fill your days with household chores and other things. But you can have quiet time in the week.
It's not a constant 24/7 thing where you never get a break.
(Perhaps I'm grumpy as I know I have a 40 hour working week ahead with a 3 and 1 year old to entertain and husband works 6 days a week)

I enjoy socialising. But I need a lot if time on my own too. At weekends, occasionally I tell ds's that "I need a bit of space" and they are good about this.

I understand OP!

Secluded cabin?

YANBU to want some time alone.
I am never in my house alone. Ever.
If i want "me" time i have to go for a run on a sunday morning or go to the gym at 6am for 45 minutes.
I am lucky to have my family and friends but oh boy, I could use some alone time to have a bath or just read a book.

It is possible though that you might cope better with weekends if you exercised those social skills throughout the week iyswim. Building up your tolerance.

Oh, I tell a lie. I sometimes have an hour or two on saturday when dh takes the dcs to their sport. I tear around the house doing housework because during the week i am at work.

So yanbu to want time to yourself but you do get that.

I don't even have kids (step mum to 19 and 22 year olds who don't live with us) and I feel exactly the same.

DH works from home, I work long hours with a long commute on public transport. The second I walk through the door he's jumping up and down like a puppy, telling me things and giving me pieces of news (e.g. the shower drain is blocked, we'll need to get some Mr Muscle etc etc).

All I want is to sit in peace ALONE for twenty minutes (actually I'd like an hour) to decompress and effing well watch something I want to watch. I still have six episodes of Poldark from last year because I'm usually watching TV with DH over dinner and he won't countenance it (or Peaky Blinders, or any of the other stuff I like).

I don't want to hear about a problem he's cracked at work, or how he went for a run and set a PB on a particular road etc etc. I've been surrounded by people nattering at me all day. I just want a bit of peace!!

So YANBU.

I have young kids (5,3 and 10 months old) and since the baby arrived I have had a 2 hour quiet time imposed every afternoon on the weekend. During that time everyone must go to their bed and just chill out. They can read a book or just sit there and contemplate life. DD has a helium balloon she tugs at and DS pours over a couple of his picture books, falling asleep after about 15mins.

I spend 1hr45mins speeding around getting things done and then chill out for 15mins on my own doing nothing. It is awesome.

Well ds2 has woken up and thrown up so no alone time for me today. Poor baby.

You've got every day to yourself while your kids are at school, why live with other people if you're that intolerant of spending time with them?

I'm not THAT intolerant. I love them all dearly and love spending time with them. I just need my downtime to recharge. My MH is in the pan as it is and recognising my need for quiet time is a big part of my recovery.

Ooogetyooo, yes but thank goodness she is off back home today! Yay my house back at last.

I work part time. On a non working day I drop ds2 at school, come home and do a quick: Hoover, put load washing on, ironing, kitchen and downstairs toilet floor. Put something in the slow cooker for dinner.

Then I sit. And be. Normally in silence for the rest of the day, until pick up time.

Helps a lot.