Hey all,
I'm 22 years old and have a 7 year old DS ( I know I had him young- don't judge).
I get many people coming up to me asking when I'm going to have another child ? I tell them my age and the reply that "I am old enough to have another child" or they would say " I'm selfish for having just the one child and DS would want a sibling".
The issue is not that I don't want another child, it's just that I didn't want another child with a dad (DS dad) who doesn't even look after the child he already has (financially, emotionally). So why would I make my life more difficult by having another child by someone who can't be arsed about their current child.
Also, I found it really difficult juggling my studies and having a young child to take of (including a child who has extra needs) and who had a father who basically was useless ! I'm hoping to start on a Masters course this year and if by chance I meet a great person and I decide to have an extended family with them. Then great ! If not DS and I would do just fine.
Though I do find myself self doubting.. I am worried about the age gap between DS (7) and my (if) existing next child. I start to think...maybe I should just crack on with it like everyone tells me to do.
Has anyone else been through this? AIBU ?
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notgivingin789 · 27/01/2017 12:38
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