To ask when yours slept through the night?

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And did you sleep train?

First DS is 7 weeks so not expecting better sleep just yet but I've become obsessed with the sleep board which terrines me. Is bad sleep the norm or can you give me hope?

Absolutely disagree you have sleeper or not. It's like saying you have a reader or not. So,e children do indeed do it all by themselves but some need additional help and support to do so. Mine were not natural sleepers - except second born. They had to be parented to learn that nighttime was for sleep.

DD slept through from 5 days old, with me having to wake up up in the night once for feeds - she'd go 6-6 without waking. At 2, she sleeps 7-6 with only the occasional bad night.

My next one will be crap

My 1 year old started at about 2/3 months sleeping completely through

My 5 week old sleeps two blocks of 6(ish) hours with a bottle inbetween

What is sleep training?

First one 6 weeks, second one 30 years(!). There is no normal

DC1 slept through (reliably, not just occasionally) aged 2yrs. DC2 about 5 months, adac3 about 3 months and DC4 about 3.5YEARS!!!( that nearly killed me!). I didn't sleep train and not convinced for the stress it causes it's really worth it, having said that I'm a SAHM so didn't need to get up for work and I also get very upset when my children cried so it really wasn't for me. Every parent and baby are different though.

What is sleep training?

It's basically about teaching a baby to self settle I.e break the dependency of it needing to be held or rocked for hours on end before eventually going to sleep. It also addresses the same issues should a baby wake up in the middle of the night, I.e they learn they can get themselves back off to sleep without needing more hours of rocking.

There are many methods of sleep training, from the more gentle methods through to the more 'hardcore' one that controlled crying seems to be labelled as.

Sleep training saved my sanity, my mental health and probably my manage because life was hell due to sleep deprivation.

Following Sleep Training my DS was getting about 6 hours more sleep every 24 hours than he had previously and he was like a different baby.

You will get people who criticise sleep training but sleep is immensely important for a baby's development.

Baby girl turned two months old last Saturday and has slept through from last bottle at 11pm until 7.30am every night since then

DS woke twice in the night for the first month, once a night for the next 2 and slept 8-10 hours from then until we moved him into his room (and yes sleep trained) at 5-6 months. He's slept 11-12 hours since, he's 3 now.

DD woke every 45 mins to an hour until we moved her into DS room ( and sleep trained again) she's slept 11-12 hours since then too, she's 1 now.

Sleep training isn't for everyone and sleep training ds was easy because he was pretty chilled about it and was always a good sleeper.

Training DD was harder and left me sitting outside her door crying myself. It was done with in 10 days though and after the complete lack of any sleep for 6 months and looking after a toddler all day too, I was at braking point and needed to do something to get a shred of sanity back.

My lo was 3 months when he slept through.
He always slept upstairs in his crib when we were at home, even during the day.
When he was very small he would fall asleep while having his bottle (he was exclusively formula fed), so we would just put him down.
When he got older, we have always put him down awake and left him for 10 minutes. Within this time he will usually settle himself to sleep. He may cry or moan for a bit but he will settle down on his own (he's never needed a nightlight on or a comforter / blanket, and that wasn't something we wanted to encourage at all. And I hate dummies with a passion so would never ever give my child one. And he only sucked his thumb for a few months when he was younger, but then stopped it himself). If after this he doesn't then we go back up to him, as it usually means there is something wrong. So no we didn't actually sleep train as had no need to, we just always left him to self settle.

DC1 was sleeping through from about 12w.

DC2 has just gone 2 and still has never slept trough, which completely negates having a good sleeper!!

Mine both did 7pm-7am with a short feed around 10:30/11pm from around 9 weeks old.

But I know lots of people whose toddlers still don't so maybe I was extremely lucky!

He's only 7 weeks....;)

Sleep is largely luck of the draw/developmental. The range of normal is very broad. It's normal to wake a lot and it's normal to sleep for longer periods. You can help to a degree, with good habits and gentle routines, but in my opinion some kids are good sleepers and some aren't.

Ds is the latter. Did we sleep train? Yup. Did it work? Nope. Tried cc after exhausting every other gentle method and it made him much worse. He's still a terrible sleeper at 16 months.
I know many people with more than one kid (one even with twins) where one is a good sleeper and one not, even though they've been raised similarly.

Good habits, and good coping strategies if those habits don't result in the sleep you want. That's all you can do.

Silversun great post...that's pretty much my situation too. My 8 month DD had silent reflux so the first 3-4 months were spent doing exactly as you mentioned, lots of upright sleeping in a chair! After that was under control the sleeping got better. She sleeps around 6:30-1 or 2 ish most nights then after a bottle goes until between 5-6am. Would I have tried more to put her down 'drowsy but awake' if we hadn't been dealing with that? Maybe.

However if teething or a cold or learning new skill or just a crap night she's up FAR more frequently throughout night like 5 or 6 times but it's not all the time and she's not always lifted out her cot. I'm a big advocate now (having tortured myself over doing the 'right thing') of trying various things and seeing how it goes in a gentle way. My anxiety and her reactions to things won't allow me to feel comfortable with controlled crying but I know some babies it has worked for. Rightly or wrongly my DD falls asleep within 5-10 mins on us after bedtime Bottle and then goes into cot for sometimes 7-8 hours! It totally depends on the night. We use white noise as she's such a light sleeper she wakes at footsteps on stairs etc and a dummy. The whole process works well for us.

I think there are so many factors with babies sleep, them...us...health...society...my viewpoint now is as others have mentioned...don't come to expect a certain amount or you'll stress yourself out. These threads I find are good for giving you a wee morale boost when you think you're the only one doing it a certain way. Good luck op

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Son didn't sleep at all it seemed, just napped for half an hour then BF and repeat all night! Then at six months suddenly started going 7pm to 5am, and it's very rare he's woken at night since.

My advice would be to keep a difference between night and day - so I didn't really interact with him in the night, very low lighting etc. But the sleep thing does send us mad - I remember hissing at the ex at one point 'it's night time! Don't look into his eyes!' :-D

Ds was 7 months, no sleep training needed. It definitely seemed to help when he began eating solids. He was a pretty good daytime napper though and is 6yo and still reliably sleeps 12 hours at night.

Dd is 9 weeks and doing some 5/6 hour stretches. She normally goes 3-4 hours at night which feels fine as I get a full sleep cycle at some point. And she's in bed somewhere between 7 and 8pm and would lie in all morning if I let her, though I generally get her up at 7.30am to coincide with ds getting ready for school. I'm aware that I'm very lucky indeed. She seemed like she was born already knowing the difference between night and day with very little help from me. She's been very refluxy though and we coslept initially which helped with the night feeds, as she tended to sleep deeply as she felt so secure.

DS1 was horrendous. Still doesn't reliably sleep through at age 4.
DS2 woke a lot for feeds (as is normal for a baby) but as he got older and dropped feeds he slept more and more and from about 8 months slept 12 hours ad now aged 18 months sleeps through consistently for 12-13 hours a night.

The only differences is that we think DS1 had reflux or a tongue tie which gave him lots of trapped wind. We always ran to his every cry.

DS2 has never had us pick him up immediately as I was couldn't with having my older boy. He is much more chilled.
He also taught himself to put his own dummy in so we put a few in his cot when he went to bed. Best. Idea. Ever.

Ok, I'm currently in the midst of sleep deprivation with my 6 month old. He's gradually improving and sleeping for longer stretches...ie 2 hours lol. I have a 5 year old I know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. He was sleeping right through the night by age one. I have never sleep trained and we co-sleep. He slept through when he was ready to and I know my youngest will too 😊

10 weeks old she dropped night feeds, dream feed at 10pm then sleeps to 7am, i know lots of people disagree but we followed the Gina Ford routine, just tweaked a bit to suit us. She is FF fed so that may also help. She's now nearly 6 months and weaning, the 10pm feed is gradually dropping

It also becomes much easier once they can hold their own bottles, put their own dummies in! When ds2 wakes I just pass him his bottle and he gets on with it lol. He needs lots of cwtches to get back to sleep but I love our cwtches!

My first sleep through initially from 11pm-5am from about 12 weeks and then full nights from about 4/5months 8-6am and then 12 hour blocks from around a year old. She never had a sleep regression.

My current little one was doing really well from 6.5 weeks after reading the baby whisperer she started doing 11pm -6am then had her vaccinations last Wednesday and it's all gone to pot. She went to bed at 8.30pm and slept till 3.30 then woke at 5 and then again at 7 so I think I need to go back to the book and read how to get her a little more settled. It's not for feeds as she only seems to take an ounce at night!

DD slept through for on 5.5 weeks, we would put her down about 9pm and she would wake 9:30/10 am. She loved her sleep and had 2
long naps in the day. At 15 now she still has a good 10 hours a night.

DS was 6 weeks and slept 9 a 6:30 but solid. He has always been an early riser though. He also slept
very well in the day.

DS is 2yr5mo and this week he has slept through for 6 nights in a row! Hoping it's going to continue. Though I need to get rid of the dummy soon and that's gonna bugger it all up. Before this week of sleeping through he would wake up once every night without fail and wander into our room and get into bed with us. So no big deal but still not sleeping through. That went on for about a year.

7.5 months after night weaning. I didn't sleep train but encouraged good sleep habits from around the 2/3 month mark - followed an EASY routine and put down awake for sleeps.

IMO the younger you start trying to get the good habits, the better as babies that can stand up to protest, do!