To ask when yours slept through the night?

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And did you sleep train?

First DS is 7 weeks so not expecting better sleep just yet but I've become obsessed with the sleep board which terrines me. Is bad sleep the norm or can you give me hope?

My breast fed DS was about 10 months but only because we sleep trained. Prior to that he was waking every 2 hours for up to an hour at a time. It was unmanageable.

DD sleeps through in a fashion.

She's ten months, has no milk through the night anymore but occasionally wakes up if she's lost her dummy or her comforter.

We didn't really do sleep training but from her being born I always put her to bed sleepy and walked out of the room-I didn't nurse her to sleep unless it happened by accident.

If she starts crying I generally leave her about 30 seconds before going in-she usually settles herself fairly quickly.

Every baby is different though and I think it's luck of the draw tbh.

My 15 week old has just slept his longest stretch (6 hours). I'm not getting too excited; I'm sure he'll be back to 2 hourly wakings tonight! 😩

The first time was 11 weeks. When I say sleep the night I mean 11-7 though. He was great for about 6 weeks and then wr had a bit of a nightmare sleep regression DID it reliably 7-7 from 7 months.

Fair enough sandy, I just didn't want people conflating the two as they aren't the same.

2 other things

Firstly I don't really get the whole "I wouldn't leave a grown adult crying so why would I leave a baby". Well actually if my DH was waking me up every hour screaming in my ear that he wanted a drink - yes I would. The two are not remotely comparable.

Secondly "I didn't do cc because I met my baby's needs". What if your baby's need is to sleep? My baby's need was. He was utterly miserable pre sleep training. He didn't want milk, he didn't want cuddles - he was just awake and pissed off about it. Post sleep training he gets the sleep he needs and is a much happier baby - loves bedtime.

Sleep is an important need for growing babies.

My now 2 year old started sleeping through 12 hours at 8 months, then stopped at 1. Hasn't slept through since. It started off awful again then got better gradually.

Now he wakes up once every night and climbs into our bed. He doesn't disturb us though, we've just had to buy a really huge bed. If we made a real effort to get him back to sleep in his cot when he was younger, as he still can't 'self soothe' (convinced this is a myth btw) it might be different but who knows.

And FWIW the research on sleep training was conducted on Romanian orphans. Not a reliable study at all.

Sleep training should only be done in the context of a loving and secure home.

And self soothing is not a myth. It's an important skill.

About three years old!! She does have sleep issues though and is only reliably sleeping through every night at nearly six years old and that's thanks to melatonin.

2years 3months with first (and then only sometimes). 9 months and 4 days with next 5.
I lie, twins were 9 months and 6 days (husband found sleep training hard!).

Was about to post everything that wanda just has :) Latest research has found that children who were CC have no difference in stress levels and are just as happy as non sleep trained babies. Also DS was so unhappy before sleep training (as was I), he is such a different baby now he sleeps.

Everyone must do what is right for their family but there is no need to try to make parents who sleep train feel shit.

It's pure luck op.

Ds1 had to sleep train at 16 months as I was on my knees tired and 9 months pregnant. Took 2 nights and he's slept through since, he's 27 now.

Ds2 10 weeks just by himself.

Dd1 10 weeks too.

Dd2 another 18 months but as she was the last I wasn't too fussed.

Just expect to have less sleep, don't compare with other mums it will drive you crazy, they all sleep through eventually barring SNs, by the teen years you can't get the buggers to move.

And it goes quickly.

I feel in the absence of fruit and pulses I'm not enough veg. How can I up this? So today I'm having:

B scrambled eggs with spinach and tomato

L fried courgette with feta cheese and chilli

D home made beef burgers with green salad

Could have cucumber sticks to push it to 5 but still doesn't feel like enough.

Thoughts?

7 - 7 from 8 weeks (every 2 hours or worse before that). From 4 months it went down hill until she slept in her own room at 6 months. Now at 9 months it varies but never more than twice and quite easy to get back to sleep most of the time.

At 8 weeks she was going going 10pm to 5am, then a bottle and back for another few hours. Now at 21 weeks she goes 8:30-7:30. She calls out a few times in the night for her dummy back in. My little boy was sleeping through even more consistently from 6 weeks and went down whilst awake! He was an amazing sleeper!

contrary thats interesting (what your midwife said). All my babies were born during daylight hours and slept through at night quite quickly.
services of course it isn't 'pure luck'. Some babies do naturally sleep better, but parenting isn't passive, there are things we do to help our babies behave differently.

Dc1 - not until Dc2 arrived (2.5 yrs) then randomly started sleeping though 13 hrs 7-8! Dc2 only 10 weeks but is only waking 1/2 times per night for a few mins vs dc1 who was up hourly for 9 months!

DD is 7 months and her "norm" is very good sleep (sleeping through 7pm-7am) however there seems to be one phase after another to disturb this, illness, teething, the change in temperature, developmental leaps, which mean she is more unsettled and wakes more in the night. Just accept that sometimes you will have tough nights with no sleep, but you will survive. Even good sleepers have bad phases, and bad sleepers have good phases. It's all about perspective!

DS1 was well over 2 before he slept through, DS2 is 3 in July and has never slept through. He also wakes very early. Due DC3 next week, am not anticipating a sleeper

Dd1 dot of 8 weeks. 12+ hours nights every night. If she went down late she woke late. I don't think she ever woke at night unless ill after that.

Dd2 about 2.3 years (after the GP had prescribed medised-no longer licenced because she was so dreadful. To be quite fair it took I think 2 nights of medised and she then slept 10 hours at night consistently without it. I think she just needed the habit breaking)

Ds 20 months regularly (after he'd had grommets in, before that he had ear infections every 10 days so didn't sleep for pain)

All were treated exactly the same way.

Sorry, you asked if I sleep trained:
No.
They all were bathed, breast fed and put down awake in the co,t from pretty much birth, at 8:30pm. The difference was dd1 would (from birth) sleep through till at least 2:30am, dd2 would wake back up by 10:30pm.

DD is 8 months and generally does 7-8pm ish until 6.30-7 with one small feed (around 4oz) at 2am ish. It's taken a lot to get to this point so I'm happy at the moment!

She had bad silent reflux until around 3-4 months so we spent most of the early hours with her asleep upright on our chests, then the 4-month sleep regression hit so she was waking up for her dummy every 1-2 hours, this coincided with her wanting to roll over and push herself up in her cot all the time..

At 6-months we did have a few weeks of her having learnt how to put her dummy back in so was only waking once for milk.. But then she went through a period of being wide awake and wanting to practice crawling for TWO HOURS in the early hours of the night..

Then randomly she went through a period of not wanting to go to sleep at night and/or sleeping for 1.5 hours then being awake for two hours..

And now we're here.. She is currently going through a fighting sleep stage so takes ages to go down for naps and bed (has recently learnt how to pull herself up so keeps wanting to do that instead ).

I have read SO MUCH about baby sleep and think I could probably start my own sleep consultancy business I have always made sure she was able to self-soothe (albeit with a dummy) and had to re-remind her along the way.. I feel like I have put so much effort into instilling good sleep routines/habits and it's still only got me so far!!

I think she is just so sensitive to the slightest change/development and her brain is very active all the time so finds it hard to switch off.

I am very jealous of those with babies who 'just' sleep!!

Does anyone know why some babies just don't go through sleep regressions? I very much believe in the science behind them, but I have one friend who doesn't believe in them and I think believes the fact that her two DDs are good sleepers is all to do with her parenting and nothing whatsoever to do with the fact that both her and her DH would definitely be in strong competition to be crowned the World Champion Sleeper

17 months

4years old. Tried everything. You either have a sleeper or don't.

noe if you had read my post properly you will see I said yes it is pure luck if they sleep through early but you see that I sleep trained my first so yes of course parenting isn't passive. I think it's quite fair to tell new mums that they arnt doing anything wrong if baby doesnt magically sleep through at 6 weeks. It's tough enough so nice to support don't you think?

Please read posts properly!

Also sleep training and cc is nothing like or to do with crying it out. Totally different things.