To have gone mad at DH for this?

[Mashathebear]

I've name changed because im so fuckimg embarrassed about this and would be so ashamed if I was ever outed.

I've just had a baby 2 weeks ago. I'm currently in the hazy stage, it's my first child. I've put on ALOT of weight through the pregancy (3 stone) and let's say I don't look very pretty at the moment.

My DH always watches the tv in bed before going to sleep. Last night I woke and rolled over and caught glimpse of the tv and it was one of those babestation channels (she had knickers on but tits out) my DH scrabbled for the controller but I then noticed he was in the middle of wanking.

I was so upset I stormed out of the room crying. Firstly that he would do that next to me whilst I was asleep and secondly with our newborn in the room!!! I'm so disgusted I can't even look at him. AIBU or is it just my hormones making me feel so sad and upset?

[AnyFucker]

do we really think the balls stop working when a baby is born

Do we really think said owner of balls couldn't be more discreet about emptying them ? He is not going to expire from fulluptesticleitis is he ?

[TorquayHotelWindow]

You are most definitely not unreasonable to feel as bad as you do about this. Your body and mind is still recovering and adjusting from giving birth, and you are probably feeling as fragile and sensitive as you ever will. However it's perhaps not helpful to dwell on how much of a thoughtless idiot he was being at the time. He shouldn't have done that and run the risk of you waking and having to see that. He should have had some consideration. But you have a few tough months ahead, and you shouldn't have to waste your precious energy on feeling awful about this. I think you probably will get past this, but i wouldn't blame you for feeling and expressing your disgust and anger as long as you feel like it - you're entitled to. Just keep in mind that he is probably feeling worse than you, and so he should. Hopefully it will stop being so hurtful to think about in time. Congratulations on your wonderful baby, and know that one day you will feel fresh, energised and pretty once again.

[Reality16]

I'm in the 'wouldn't bother me' camp. I have fired one off while DH is asleep many times. I don't do it to be disrespectful or because I have given any thought whatsoever to his body faults may be, I do it because it feels nice

[showmeislands]

YANBU, I would be upset too. Not about him having a wank so much, but more the babestation part, I would definitely find that difficult especially at a time when you're not understandably not feeling very confident about your body. It's insensitive and thoughtless. That said, it sounds like an impulsive act and I would probably accept his apology and try to move on.