To get a cleaner?

[FrenchieCurls]

So im a single parent to 2 and have a dog! I work full time. Recently ive been asking around work if anyone knows a good cleaner and turns out someone does. I mentioned this in passing to my mum who was horrified! For background she worked 3 days a week and was married when we were younger

If you can afford it, do it!

YANBU

Go for it

Do it

My mother is a judgemental sod

Same as me op and I've just hired one. My mum was outraged too!

Do it!

Yes. It really is that simple, who care's what your mum thinks? It's made a huge difference to my ability to cope as I felt overwhelmed by mess/dirt before, it was't festering but I have more relaxation time now instead of mopping the floor at 9 at night.

Why is it a judgment thing? It's ok to employ people to look after your teeth, service your car, dry clean your suits etc. Having a cleaner is an absolutely fine choice. There's no moral judgment or issue in it.

If your mum wants someone to judge you can tell her I have no DC and I don't work (and neither does DH since his redundancy, though we're working on that) and we still have a cleaner. I'd go without so many things before I went without her.

Please don't listen to judgemental sods

I clean for rich SAHMs, working families, people with disabilities and everyone in between! I even had my own cleaner for a bit

I'm a SAHM / carer and I have one. She is great and she also has her own cleaner!

My parents judged me massively when I got a cleaner, I didn't let it stop me and now my mum wishes she had employed a cleaner when we were younger. I think the attitude towards this is that a cleaner is a luxury, which of course they are in a way, but for a lot of people they are a necessity to allow them to have the free time with their family, rather than a waste of money type luxury.

Like Sweary, there are so many things I'd go without before I went without our cleaner.

Do it.

But write clear instructions as to what you want doing in advance.

I've just sacked my cleaner as she wasn't v good. It's made me write specific notes as to what I expect to avoid this happening again

Do it - if it helps you are providing employment for someone else who needs a job

I was a sahm to 3 under 5 when I hired a cleaner! If it makes your life easier then do it and ignore the judgment, it's no one elses business how your house gets cleaned

Do it. Your mum worked 3 days a week in a 2 parent household. You are on your own working full time. Take any help you can get or afford xx

I would go for it.

By the way... Tell your mother less about your life.

We're two adults, no kids, no pets...and we have a cleaner. Everyone at work (London) has a cleaner too. Do it. You'll never look back.

Lol wobbly i would but my kids would tell her they cant hold their own water!

Do be specific about what you want. Not in a micro-managing kind of way but do make it clear what you expect.

I just want a thorough clean and the beds changing?

I have advertised for a cleaner. I am working more than full time and DH is based at home, working more than full time.

I am cross that he doesn't do what I did when I worked from home and he just doesn't get it/see it/share my standards. So, to avoid tension I am employing a cleaner for 4 hours a week.

I'm retired and I have a lovely cleaner. Yes i have the time to do it myself, but no inclination to do so.

If your mum is judgemental, she's going to judge you regardless, right? (I have one too.)

So, kick back and enjoy giving her the gift of something to get a cob on about from the comfort of your beautiful cleaned-by-another home.

Didn't say that I always had a cleaner until I worked from home p/t. There is no way I am spending my days off cleaning the house. I resent it massively.