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To think that Melania is in an emotionally abusive relationship?

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sundaybestest · 25/01/2017 14:14

I watch her body language and it doesn't look right to me. I'm no expert but to me she seems trapped. I mean we all know he's a narcissist so it 's possible isn't it?
I wonder, if that's the case, how easy / difficult it would be for her to get out?
I feel sorry for her.

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Blatherskite · 25/01/2017 15:31

I should think she's petrified. Never before has there been a president that more people have wanted to shoot and she has to sit next to him!

JugglingFromHereToThere · 25/01/2017 15:32

Sure it's just conjecture and I don't have much to go on either, but I agree - chemistry/ body language doesn't look good.

knackeredinyorkshire · 25/01/2017 15:37

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HobbitTankard · 25/01/2017 15:39

I don't know.

However the clip where her face changes at the inauguration is not in itself saying anything to me. The speaker was Billy Graham's son who cracked a joke but then was leading a prayer. I watched another camera angle which showed a young blonde woman also smiling at the quip then her face straightened. I think you can also interpret the clip as a reaction to a mood shift in the ceremony.

HobbitTankard · 25/01/2017 15:44

Ok that's been pointed out..

derxa · 25/01/2017 15:46

It's more likely that she's just pissed off that she has to live her ridiculously spoiled life in the spotlight now - and will be severely restricted in her travel/activities. She'll be tailed by media and security and will have to perform FLOTUS duties rather than pleasing herself. She's a highly intelligent woman who made a deal with The Donald and seems dismayed at how it's turned out but don't waste your energy feeling sorry for her when women all over world are living in fear of domestic abuse!!
I think you're right.

GoesDownLikeACupOfColdSick · 25/01/2017 15:53

but don't waste your energy feeling sorry for her when women all over world are living in fear of domestic abuse!!

THIS!

Teaholic · 25/01/2017 15:54

I'd say there's a shit ton of pressure being put on her to toe the line and do what she's told.

In one way I have a lot of sympathy for her as I was in a relationship with a controlling bully myself. It is hard to get away as you feel the weight of their opinion of you very heavily. Easy to say ''just walk away'' but you get to the point where you are addicted to this person's approval.

Still, I'm not certain it's like that in their relaitonship especially if she's not living with him. BUT if she wanted out, she'd have not just DT being contemptuous of her and threatening to out all of her secrets and expose her as the third world whore she is (I'm imagine what he might say to her given his contempt of women by the way for those who missed that. She will have a few secrets that his team could spin to make her look shit and I bet anything that she is basically being blackmailed. STAY in the marriage for another four years and you will be released with xx amount of money. Leave now and the world will hear about x y and z and DT will fight you hard in court.

specialsubject · 25/01/2017 16:03

He was very second hand when she met him, and I don't think she was short of cash then. Can't see how she didn't know what she was.getting into or didn't have a choice.

TataEs · 25/01/2017 16:04

i think what's sad about it is that now, arguably, the most powerful man in the world, shows neither care nor respect for his wife.
fuck her facial expressions, the way he walks ahead of her, threw her on the spot with that speech, the way he speaks about other women would imply he is proud of his infidelity... and what society in general does not need is that being held up as that standard.

PickledCauliflower · 25/01/2017 16:07

We don't know what her reasons are for marrying him - and we have no reason to believe she is being abused.

Many people look uncomfortable when they are in the public eye. I don't think it means that they are unhappy or enduring abuse.

twolefttweets · 25/01/2017 16:11

She wanted to marry money and she did. He hasn't changed, he is the same slime ball now that he was when she met him so she's probably happy with the set up.

KathArtic · 25/01/2017 16:14

Yes it is obvious she married him for his money, and not his looks or personality. Maybe she does love him. Maybe she is very happy. She has her son and knows he will have a very privileged and comfortable life. Granted she probably isn't to thrilled at being first lady, but I doubt DT even considered it when they got together.

Leave the poor woman alone and stop speculating and making assumptions.

ThirdThoughts · 25/01/2017 16:22

An ex wife is legally not allowed to talk about her marriage to Trump without his permission, but previously said that he raped her. The Trump response was that you couldn't rape your spouse. And in a Trump approved statement she softened her claim to say that she didn't mean legal rape but that he didn't treat her with the care and respect he normally had done and that she had felt violated.

In the context of that, the way he squashes people who he wants to - legally, financially, the bragging about sexual assault, the way he rants on twitter about any woman who he feels threatened by...

I don't think concerns that he might be a controlling or abusive partner are massive leaps. If it is true, and we know from the Relationships forum here just how hard women in such relationships struggle to leave abusive relationships, particularly where their abuser is powerful/wealthy, then it is hard to see a way out for a woman whose partner has just been made president of the united states.

I hope if the people around her begin to suspect that this is the case that they can direct her to help if she is ready to accept it.

ThirdThoughts · 25/01/2017 16:25

perceived as powerful/wealthy*

Every1lovesPatsy · 25/01/2017 16:50

It is important to remember that Trump is also entitled not to be described as an abuser of Melania where there is no concrete evidence.

I do not support him at all, but I also do not support witch hunts with no concrete foundations.

If Melania left Trump she would be perfectly capable of making huge amounts of money from her story, she is staying put for a reason. She is a mature woman with life experience, her choices are her own.

Every1lovesPatsy · 25/01/2017 16:54

If Diana could leave Charles because she was a trophy wife in a loveless marriage under huge pressure and media glare; Melania can leave Trump, if she wanted to.

LuluLovesFruitcakes · 25/01/2017 16:55

I don't think Diana is a good example, considering.

kittybiscuits · 25/01/2017 16:57

I think she looks profoundly unhappy. I pity anyone who has to be anywhere him. I don't think they have any kind of real marriage.

kittybiscuits · 25/01/2017 16:57

*anywhere near him

BoneyBackJefferson · 25/01/2017 16:58

I am finding it amazing that people have to infer things that are wrong with Trump when there are clearly so many things that make him a complete dick.

SuburbanRhonda · 25/01/2017 17:05

I thought she married him to get her green card?

Every1lovesPatsy · 25/01/2017 17:07

I am finding it amazing that people have to infer things that are wrong with Trump when there are clearly so many things that make him a complete dick.

BoneyBackJefferson - I could not agree more.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 25/01/2017 17:15

As others have said, if you watch the video, and the people around her, everyone adjusts their face to what it being said.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 25/01/2017 17:17

I think it's very clear she married a horrible ugly old man for his money but that does not lessen the seriousness of any abuse she receives from him, if indeed that is happening.
All one can really say is that his private personality would have to be radically different from his public one to bring him anywhere close to anyone's idea of a satisfactory husband. The rest is speculation. One can't help but compare her to Michelle and feel sorry for her whatever the facts.