So here goes, it's a bit of a long one but I need to explain the background.....
Wedding invite received late last year for good friend of DH's getting married this autumn. Invite says no kids so adults "can dance the night away". Fine so far, their wedding their choice.
Wedding is on a Monday just before noon. Church 6 hour drive away so our plan was to drive to SIL's (4 hours away from us) on the Saturday and spend weekend with them. This was after SIL had very kindly offered to book Monday and Tuesday off work to look after our 2 year old. SIL's 8 year old will be at school as term time. We will have to leave about 8am to allow for traffic to get to the church in good time. Reception is then a further hours drive north so we've booked a room at the venue, would get up early and set off for the 3 hour drive back to SIL's for DD, stay another night at SIL's and go home the next day.
Since receiving invite I'm now pregnant and baby will be around 10 weeks old by the wedding. Even though my lovely SIL has said she'll happily have both DC's I know I won't be able to leave the baby that far away from me and overnight. When DD was 9 weeks old I left her for 3 hours for a wedding reception 20 minutes away with my mum and struggled being away from her. I will also be breastfeeding.
Again SIL (I know I'm lucky to have her) has suggested following us up in her car, amusing kids for afternoon as she knows the area well, back to our hotel room and going home after wedding breakfast, about 5pm, and I'll then come back to room so she can leave.
Still with me? AIBU in asking the bride and groom if we can bring new baby (leaving DD with SIL as originally planned). I like to think I'm a considerate parent and will say I'll take baby straight outside if started crying at church/during speeches etc. I could use sling so no bulky pram or car seat getting in anyones way and I'd go to our hotel room to feed, so no flopping boobs around everywhere!
So let me have it - what do you think?