to not want to be responsible for our contraception anymore?

[Contraceptionconundrum]

NCd. I'm just so over contraception. I've been using it for 20 years. DH and I have two DC and I am sure that I do not want any more. DH says he is sure too and had always planned on a vasectomy but is (understandably) starting to drag his heels now that it is crunch time. I've looked into my options but I'm bf DS so some aren't suitable. Regardless, I'm fed up of pumping myself full of hormones. I don't want a reminder on my phone each day to take a pill. I don't want an IUD inserted. I don't want the pain or the heavier bleeding. I've shut up shop and I want the world to leave my uterus alone now. But I fancy a shag.

We're currently at a very friendly stalemate in our relationship. We are enjoying all the lovely things that couples can do that don't result in pregnancy but there is no end game.

I don't even know what my AIBU is. I'm not pushing him for the snip. I think in general AIBU just to say "come back when you're no longer spermy coz my body has done enough?"

CONDOMS OP? Or is there a reason you've not said why you can't use them?

DH and I do as I don't want hormonal contraceptives anymore. He wants a vasectomy but we've been waiting a loooong time for the referral. He's said that a) four kids is enough for him, and b) seems a bit more fair if he takes some of the physical hit now.

I had keyhole sterilization, it was practically painless and felt like a mild period. I had General but a very light one. If I did it again I'd have it done by a local anesthetic.
Even with a general the recovery time was extremely short. The 'op' takes minutes and I was only out for 20-30 minutes.

Not having to use contraception is brilliant.

Re condoms - we're both perfectly happy to use them but not as the only method. Condoms combined with a diaphragm might do it and I'll look into essure long term.

I definitely need a frank chat with DH.

How did you go about that tikky? How do you get the ball rolling?

YANBU, its really not fair that women usually end up bearing the brunt of contraception. And I'm wary of sterilisation as I know a woman that got her tubes tied and still got pregnant! She ended up suing the hospital or something, apparently the surgeon only 'tied' one of her tubes.

Though for me and OH, pull out method works fine, has done for 4.5 years so far. When done properly its as effective as condoms.

When will that Vasalgel thing be available? That's the future!