New to MN so please go easy on me. I am organising a baby shower, along with 3 other girls for our friend. We had asked her if she wanted one, she did. We checked if anyone else was going to plan one. She said 'no'. We said would your mum like to organise it, she said 'no i'd prefer you girls to do it'. So we get on with the plans, inviting everyone on her list (including her mum). Plans all going well, most people can make it, although i did think the contact list she provided was a little light on people (she has a big family). Anyway, yesterday a post appears on facebook of the mum of said friend, who had organised her a baby surprise baby shower! Alot of people there, some who will be at the one we have organised and some who wont (as they were not on the list we were given). We were not invited or told about this surprise shower. AWBU to be upset by this and think it a bit strange? We have put in alot of effort to organise her baby shower as well as money on deposits, decorations, cake ect & now it feels like the shine has been taken off it all with her mums 'surprise' baby shower taking centre stage. Her mum went to town with it from the photos i can see on FB. 2 baby showers is a bit extravagant or AIBU? Why couldn't her mum combine with what we were doing? Or explain that she really wanted to do it, we would have then taken a step back and let her take the lead. We are all mums and so don't exactly have lots of time on our hands so wouldnt have minded her take over at all.