am unreasonable to expect a text or reply to just let me he's ok and carrying on. He is an awful drinker can't handle it especially in the wrong company will often walk back alone. Before he went I asked him not to stay out all night as we have loads to do and he needs to drive. Last words were " I promise I won't" etc. I've not had any sleep because I worried and wound up when he came home unapologetic and steaming drunk.
I'm still building up trust with him over his drinking as he always always gets slaughtered and the final straw was when out with kids. He woke it in the night being sick on the bed, swearing and cursing turning the lights on and waking us all up last time. We have two sons what example does this set them!!! So obviously when he goes out now I worry.