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WIBU to say that choirs full of people who can't sing (Rock Choir) are awful?

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PleasantPheasant · 21/01/2017 22:06

Honestly? I love singing, I think everyone should sing, and sing in groups - it's great. But why all the performances, crap choreography, shitty leaders who also can't sing and are presumably failed musicians. Why can't the ladies (and men) - very few of which can actually sing or understand rhythm, harmony, pitch... - just do it for fun and leave it at that? Why do they think they're amazing singers and their performances are great. From what I've seen they are largely outside, with shit backing music, crap acoustics making the whole thing even worse. AIBU?

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Strongmummy · 21/01/2017 22:56

Op, to be frank you sound very bitter about a particular choir. did they not give you a solo? Rather than being spiteful and mean and putting others off joining a choir that might provide them with a fun, uplifting activity, how about dealing with your baggage offline.

To those that want to join a rock choir, do it. Singing is a fab activity. Whether you sing beautifully or can't hold s tune, just do it. Don't be put off by the Op's negative shit

WhoKn0wsWhereTheTimeG0es · 21/01/2017 22:57

There's a very active one where I live, a lot of people I know are in it but I've never seen them perform (I know of it's existence through FB). Seems pretty harmless to me and they do enjoy it. However I do think it tries to portray itself as some sort of community organisation when it is in fact a business, that seems a bit misleading.

Oh and I did get a bit annoyed when a group of women on a train I was on last year suddenly burst into song completely drowning out all conversation possibilities for the rest of the carriage for about half an hour. They weren't wearing RC teeshirts though.

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 21/01/2017 22:57

My mum is in a choir and it's ace! For a community choir, it's really very good and as they only do a couple of concerts a year, which raise a lot of money for charity, I don't think they are inflicting themselves on anyone, I really enjoy their singing.

I don't know about Rock Choir.

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PleasantPheasant · 21/01/2017 22:57

Magzmarsh - come on, so I'm not allowed to have an opinion on something because of your friend's tragic circumstances and that they have found rock choir helpful? That's a bit of a stretch.

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Ihatethedailymail1 · 21/01/2017 22:57

I thunk they sound great and anyone considering it should sod the miserable people on this thread and go for it!

wineusuallyhelps · 21/01/2017 22:57

Is this a thread about your being offended by Rock Choir in general, or a grievance against the particular choir and choir leader you mention in a subsequent comment? 🤔

Bushymuffmum · 21/01/2017 22:58

I personally would love to hear the op sing eh mumsnetters? Just to find out whether she (or he) really is such an expert with rhythm, harmony, pitch?
Personally it's not my thing either - I've even been known to (inwardly) cringe at kids in the Christmas choir hitting a duff note,
But I wouldn't bitch about a group of women (why is their age even relevant?) throwing caution to the wind and actually getting out there and doing something they love and basically not giving a fuck. Cos that takes real guts (whether they believe they can sing or not) - and no one is being forced to listen at gunpoint are they now?

SarahLinden · 21/01/2017 22:58

I am very glad that every audience I've performed for has been extremely receptive to our 'murdering' of pop, rock and gospel. From bikers to vicars, from tots to the elderly, from students to hospital in-patients; people sing and clap and dance along, sharing in the joy of the moment.

Some join after seeing a performance. Some will come and shake our hands. Some might think it's not to their taste but I've never seen anyone look bored or disdainful.

And I do sing solos and sometimes I might sound like a donkey piddling in a tin roof, but i keep trying because occasionally, I sing like a rock star Wink

Destinysdaughter · 21/01/2017 22:59

I don't normally do this but I've reported your OP as I think it's fucking disgusting. How dare you tell middle aged women what they can or cannot do, who the fuck do you think you are? If you don't want to listen to women singing and having a bit of fun then don't go to events where your sensitive ears might be assaulted by them. You've upset quite a few pp on this thread and for what?

candycoatedwaterdrops · 21/01/2017 23:01

YABU. I've heard a few Rock Choirs at various events. No, they're not professionals but it's nice to see people come together and do things that they enjoy. Life's too fucking short to be a miserable bastard all the time, ya know?!

Wheredidallthejaffacakesgo · 21/01/2017 23:01

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therealsquireofwideacre · 21/01/2017 23:01

By this logic you probably think children's school concerts also shouldn't be inflicted on anyone? After all infants aren't generally known for their wonderful musical talent. What a thoroughly nasty attitude. Rock choir is about having fun, it doesn't take itself seriously. If you don't like it, don't listen.

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PleasantPheasant · 21/01/2017 23:02

Haven't told anyone what they can or cannot do. I'll admit I seem to have touched a nerve, but I would say that has to do with others' confidence, not what I have written.

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TSSDNCOP · 21/01/2017 23:02

only reason you got anywhere in the 'charts' was because of the publics over developed sense of support for our military

Indeed that would be the worst possible way to raise money for charity. Bastard grateful public.

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PleasantPheasant · 21/01/2017 23:05

So now I'm a miserable bastard all the time?
I think if you all read back, you have been much harsher to me than I have been to anyone, and it's pretty uncalled for but that is to be expected - I asked if IWBU, apparently I was, I stand corrected.
But I still hate it

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Strongmummy · 21/01/2017 23:05

Whether you're a great singer or not OP, it doesn't matter. You don't like rock choirs. Fine. Would I choose to listen to one? No. but would I be spiteful and mean on a thread, making others feel self conscious, no. I can sing, to a high standard. I'm used to listening to singing of a high standard. However the thought of making others feel shit about themselves and self conscious about singing makes me feel sick.

Bushymuffmum · 21/01/2017 23:06

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Destinysdaughter · 21/01/2017 23:06

Wow you really are a nasty piece of work aren't you? You don't have been the sensitivity or humility that you have upset people for no good reason. Think you need to take a good look in the mirror...

TheFairyCaravan · 21/01/2017 23:07

and as for the Womens Military Choir - just no! Just because you have forces husbands doesn't mean you can sing that well and the only reason you got anywhere in the 'charts' was because of the publics over developed sense of support for our military.

Do you have any idea what it's like to have a husband go to war? Do you have any idea how much support the MWC gives to women who sometimes don't see another adult for days while their husband or partner are away?

It's not all about the singing, it's about the support, friendships and companionship that these choirs give. If you don't like it turn it off.

Blacksox · 21/01/2017 23:09

My friend is in a Rock Choir and I went along to see them at a Christmas event.

It was bloody awful, admittedly. But I was annoyed by all the snarky comments from fellow watchers so I clapped a bit louder than I might've done.

A bunch of middle aged women having a ball. I don't think anyone expects them to sound good and what they look like is immaterial.

CiderwithBuda · 21/01/2017 23:12

Glee on HRT.? Sounds perfect! I'm in.

I know I can't sing but I'd love to join a choir. Been toying with the idea of having some lesson to see if I'm a hopeless case. Love the idea of singing.

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PleasantPheasant · 21/01/2017 23:14

Frankly the personal attacks are getting a bit tiresome - none of you know me and I have said very little that could cause offence.
Like I said, great if they're having fun but the choir I know take it extremely seriously while sounding fairly crap. And it's the same songs over and over and over.
And no I have never been in or wanted to join a rock choir. But someone I know is.

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Sallystyle · 21/01/2017 23:15

I love my Rock Choir.

We have some fantastic singers in ours thank you very much. I am not one of them.

At 35 I am the youngest one there (except the leader)

YABU and pretty mean. We sound really good. I joined because I was impressed with how nice they sounded when I saw them sing at an event.

PovertyPain · 21/01/2017 23:16

There are some nasty, sneering bastards on this thread. Do you laugh at the special Olympians too, because they're not as fast as people who are able bodied or sneer at children's plays? Or do you just save it for middle aged women?

MintChocAddict · 21/01/2017 23:17

A wee bit of advice OP. Even people who have admitted on the thread that they're not fans of Rock Choir think you're being mean spirited. You just sound incredibly bitter which is quite sad.
Your comments about the choir leader, limelight grabbers and the cost of joining suggest that there's possibly a back story.
You should try singing. It might cheer you up.
You're welcome Smile

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