WWYD? Know wife is cheating on husband, would you tell?

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We live in a small town and everyone mentioned in this post are acquaintances of mine, I'm friends on Facebook with the husband in this instance who I'll call Mr White.

Mr & Mrs White have been married for a few years with a 5 year old daughter. Mrs White was married to someone else when she got together with Mr White - was a long term affair. This was big news in our town for a while after it happened. There were also several other men linked to her while she was married previously and she got a bit of a name for herself. What was true and what was malicious gossip I don't know.

Fast forward a few years and I get told Mrs White is now having an affair with one of the town's serial philanderers who I'll call Mr P. I've known Mr P a long time and had first hand experience of his sleazy ways after he tried very hard to get me to go home with him not long after I was married. He knows my husband very well. I've spent a lot of time in his company and know his god awful views on women and the way he treats them as he's not shy about "boasting" about his exploits.

I was out a few months ago and bumped into Mr P who gave me this sob story about how he'd broken up with the live of his life who he'd been having an affair with for over 2 years but she broke it off because she couldn't do that to her daughter i.e. split up the family.

However since then I've heard a couple of instances where people have mentioned that Mrs White and Mr P have been in each others company again Mr White is on Facebook often and talk about what he's up to with Mrs White etc etc. All very innocuous.

The problem is I like Mr White and think he's being taken for a mug!! She is not a nice person. However they got together by having an affair... Also he may already know, I have to say that New White and Mr P are NOT subtle about it. It's fucking embarrassing.

So. WWYD?? Keep schtum?? The messenger always gets shot...

Mr White left a man devastated by his affair with this woman, the now "mrs white".... now karma's coming to get him too!

Anyway, i would not get involved unless they were really close family and friends of mine.

Who knows, they might even be swingers! Theres quite a few about you know!

Karma has bit him on his arse. Why are you acting like he is a victim?

Keep out of it. No one will thank you and you're really just being a gossip

OP are you single by any chance?

Get a life.

Do you fancy Mr White, OP?

Just seen some more of your replies.. No, I'm not single. I'm married with 2 children. And no I don't fancy Mr White.

I don't see him as a victim. I don't think it's particularly nice that he's being taken for a mug. I get why some of you are saying karma after how he and his wife got together but I still don't think he deserves it.

My DH saw Mrs White and Mr P out together 2 nights ago. Could all be innocent.

I Am so glad I live in a city - fuck this shit ! OP wind neck IN -

None of your business. What would be the purpose? Split up a family?

God that all sounds exhausting. Sounds like a great big pile of not your business, they are all adults and none of it is illegal.

He knows, he would have to be pretty dumb not to. Cheaters 'If they will do it with you, they will do it TO you'.

Oh the arm chair psychology not everyone who has affairs suffers from low self esteem some people just like the excitement and they have an affair becuase they can not becuase they have a need to

Keep yourself out of their business many partners turn a blind eye for reasons others may not understand and as you are not close friends tinwithwr you don't know what they deal is

There are two things you could tell Mr White.

1. Mr P could be having an affair with your wife.

1. Mr P has said to me that he is having an affair with your wife.

You will see the difference between the two, ie 1. someone's having an affair v 2. someone's gossipmongering.

I think I would want to know if someone was possibly going around claiming he was having an affair with my DW. However, you would be right to consider whether Mr P has some other motive in telling you this. I would not say anything to anyone other than Mr or Mrs White, and nothing to them either unless I knew them pretty well.

There's a lot of There's a lot of misogyny in your op. Do you even realise it? SHE became the talk of the town, SHE got quite a name for herself. Whereas you like him and have a lot of respect for him, he doesn't deserve this. He broke up her previous marriage just as much as she did. You sound desperate to wreck a family over a bit of gossip you don't even know is true. Keep out of it and get yourself a hobby.

Small town mentality. Nothing better to do than gossip about others. You have no facts. Leave it alone, it's not your place.

Not your circus....

Unfortunately Mr White knows what his wife is like due to how they got together. If Mrs White and Mr P are having an affair, it'll come out eventually.

I definitely would put the spoon back in the draw ... why get involved ?they all sound like they live for the drama.

Keep out.

You don't have proof of ANYTHING. Just the fact you're even contemplating getting involved, and telling a man something about his wife that you don't even know is 100% true, doesn't reflect well on your character. Keep your fat mouth shut.