Ours is under new management.
I have a baby, a preschooler and 6yr old. Previously we have attended groups in understanding 6 yr old reads/ plays on a tablet on a chair (he does no issue, he's home educated and sees it as part of a weekly balance. His sisters likewise do similar in some of his activities).
Today new staff were there, he was pointed at and approached. Informed it was 0-5 only. Explained he was home ed and he often sat out (as he was, sitting quietly). He ended up upset as it was all in front of him, that his sisters could no longer attend. I think it was also embarrassment at being focused on as an issue.
I also was upset, the CC previously was a good support for preschooler with sn. We find it hard to get out at times so it does limit us further. She likes the younger stuff and it requires no travel, also for baby it's good to get out.
He's still upset as he felt his sisters are missing out (obviously we've talked this through.
Aibu in allowing an older child to sit out in an adult area and take responsibility he does. It does not impact space not does he join in and thump around as a risk to the Little's ones. He's happy chilling with Roald Dahl right now, obviously I wouldn't expect him to actually join in or Ben provided for.
I feel a bit upset that I now can't manage social time that well for dd either, or the baby. We will get by, but I'm a bit sensitively I guess as so many places are out for sensory reasons etc.
Their view is 0-5 means not present, whereas the previous view was it meant not participating, i.e. As an adult. I guess akin to siblings watching assembly.