ok story so far: i have a very unreliable friend (has rescheduled 14 times for one meet up, we live in the same town), who recently got engaged. At the engagment party we were told guests had to pay for the food. We were not told before hand and only found out once we were there, and were not impressed. The wedding invite has arrived and is mid afternoon and kids not invited, its on a school day so would mean lots of organising for childcare and DH taking a days holiday to be there, so we decided not to go. She then questioned were we away and would we like to go just to the evening party, ive told her we are away but we arent, i dont want to fork out outfits and gifts to go to a wedding where i will only know the bride and DH and feel like being asked again is to make up numbers!
Ive been invited to the hen meal, i wont know anyone else there and my MIL is coming to stay that day to help us with childcare over the weekend as me and DH are going away for the night, so ive said i cant go. loads of others arent going either as we were on a group chat thing.
Ive now had a message asking if she has offended us, id love to reply with yes how can you invite people to a party and tell them on the invite that there will be food and then expect them to pay for it once there! to make things worse it was her fathers pub! or shall i just go with a no everythings fine response! argh am i being unreasonable for feeling peed off at this? wwyd??