AIBU that hubby is never home to help with bathtime?

[Wardie2016]

I've maybe just had a particularly rubbish day but here goes!!! Hubby works FT and I and SAHM to our three DC (7,4 and 1). He leaves for work around 8am most mornings (his hours are 9-5) whilst we are in the throws Of getting ready for the school run. 4 out of 5 nights a week he goes to an outdoor fitness class 6-7.30pm so it is 8pm when I'm just getting everyone settled to sleep when he comes in!!! He's trying hard to get his fitness levels up and does have a pretty stressful job. AIBU that I grudge him all this free time?? When I can't even remember the last time I peed in peace 😂

He's obviously avoiding family life.
Selfish bastard.
I don't know why men like him bother having kids.

He's obviously avoiding family life.
Selfish bastard.
I don't know why men like him bother having kids.
because they get to procreate, spread the old genes without having to do any work.

I don't understand parents who leave all the slog to another parent I'm not saying parents shouldn't have a social life but there has to be considered balance for families to bloody function

This would give me the rage...

DH is a bit of a fitness obsessive at the moment but he comes in, spends time with the kids, then goes to the gym for a few hours once they are settled and asleep.

Sounds like your husband is avoiding having any time with the kids...

It does read like he is avoiding the children

I would sit down with him and say you feel exhausted and need more support. Why wouldn't he want to help you and see his children every day? It isn't unreasonable to be busy every night for leisure purposes.

My husband is by no mean so perfect (I've asked him for more support with housework recently) but when he comes home he plays with DS whilst I cook and then does bath time alone after dinner it's his daddy-son time. He goes to the gym 3 times a week and gets up a time 5am to go before work.

His absolute priority should be to you and his family and if he wants to have his fitness as a second priority it should be a compromise of 2-3 nights a week OR he goes in the mornings.

Good luck and stand up for yourself life is too short to be tired all the time and not appreciate things because you're so exhausted.

Sorry the first para should have said 'it is unreasonable to be busy every night'