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Serious work issues!

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Againagain97 · 17/01/2017 06:36

I was lucky enough to find a job really close to home.....

This is a massive plus point.

I love the type of work.

But, their "management" skills are ZERO.

The managing director is living in the age of the old school "I can literally shout and scream at you, I own you" era.

At interview, I was asked "what is the one thing that turns you "off" in the office"

My response was "aggression", I was assured no aggression was present in the office .........total bollocks!

I've raised my concerns, received apologies, been given a large bonus (bribe) but I feel I'm losing my self respect and dignity.

Two others in the office, desperate to leave but they just can't, the skill sets they have are not sought after and they cannot find new jobs.

I'm In a different position, I could easily obtain further employment, my skills are sought after.

But, been there less than one year, not great on a CV, although I could easily explain away. Although, this has rocked me, supposing my next employer is worse? I left a job I'd been in five years, for something closer to home and more varied work.

An example, I had to drop off some work to the managing director, this work had not been requested but I got an urgent text at 7am from her assistant saying could I drop off as they needed it for the meeting. I went in early, prepped the stuff, took it round to her to take to the meeting.

Her husband opened the door, wished me happy new year. I took the items into the kitchen and was met with an absolute tirade of screaming! Things beyond my control, one thing I had not "followed up" on, fair enough speak to me in a civil manner about that! But honestly, she was eating her cornflakes whilst shouting at me, spitting them everywhere. Her husband left the room.

Now this is about the sixth time (at least) since I've been there. When she calms down I'll get an apology, but I don't want to work under these circumstances. It's not fair and I work REALLY hard.

In my appraisal it was massively positive, they acknowledged that targets would not have been met without me.

But then, it's a hissy fit "whys this not done", because you said this was more important and you wanted this done first! Honestly, the unreasonableness is beyond belief.

Loads of MI data will also be requested and not used, wasting time etc. But it's a control thing, (I think) I say do it, so you do it. Then I won't bloody well look at it.

They acknowledge we are massively understaffed, trying to recruit qualified staff, but that's difficult. I also feel a level of guilt at someone else having to work like this.

I get paid a decent wage, slightly more than the going rate (maybe £3k) but the benefits are shocking. Lots of small companies start with poor benefits, but are massively reasonable once they know you and realise that you are flexible and will reciprocate! It's now clear that even if I did 100 hours extra a week, it would be "oh great" one day and then another mad rant the next day!

I'm a professional, I should just be walking away shouldn't i?

Although (stupidly) I feel a level of guilt as this would really leave them in the shit!

Arghh!!!!!

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Sunshineboo · 25/01/2017 08:18

Please start applying for other jobs. If you stick this for much longer you will become worn down, and this shows in interviews. It's awful, but often people very unhappy in one role struggle to find other work. They don't interview as welll as someone who is confident and happy. Don't let this happen to you.

lavenirestanous · 25/01/2017 08:40

Please leave. I stayed too long with an unreasonable boss and it made me ill. (Finally got the wake up call to leave after 15 missed calls on the day of my father-in-law's funeral - when I did get back to her I was bollocked for not having my phone on in the church. I realised I was dealing with a monster.)

You are worth so much more than being sprayed with cornflakes! And please don't feel guilty - she feels no guilt about the appalling way she treats you.

Truckingalong · 25/01/2017 08:57

Could you pre-empt the review by saying that you would like to go through the agenda but you want to raise her manner with her and say that it's not professional and counterproductive and that you won't tolerate it any longer and if she starts to become aggressive and shout, you will leave the meeting. Say it in a calm way and see how she responds. If you never challenge her, you'll never know if she is capable of change. If she demonstrates that she isn't, you can leave knowing you at least tried.

Againagain97 · 02/02/2017 08:21

Well the meeting still hasn't happened! But lots of shouting in her office to two partners (loyd enough for me to hear what was said!) about "nothing" being done, nobody listens to her. Blah blah.

They had a really good potential employee coming back for second interview. They have now changed their mind (before she and back) because she couldn't make the first date offered.

It went like this, can we see you again? Either the 2nd or 10th?

Yes, I can make the 10th

Sorry, that's no good for us!

I mean what's that all about? They actually said she should cancel whatever was booked for first date and see them! It was short notice and she could be doing anything...like dealing with care for a relative, have theatre tickets blah blah. So why offer two dates?

I mean that alone says we need you to be totally subservient and dominated by our wants. This is not going to be a mutually good working relationship.

On a plus point, the one thing I like about the job is location. I've got my CV being done professionally and I will email all (lots of them) local companies.

Is that a good idea?

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