To think of this as a worrying trend?

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Dh works for a large male dominated company of all ages.
One of the younger lads is a 23 yr old good looking jack the lad type.
He regularly has different girls on the go, booty call girls/fb etc. Which is fine it's what a lot of younger people do. But what worries me is that lots of these girls (who are only young, 17 to early 20's) send this lad naked suggestive photos to him. He then shows them round dh's work place. So these poor girls who will probably naively think they are exclusive to this lad have no idea that they are being letched over by a load of middle aged blokes.
This makes me cringe. These girls are someone's daughters. I have an 8 year old dd myself the thought of this happening to her in 10 years time turns my stomach!

I will never understand why someone would send a nude photo to their partner let alone a stranger. However the boy (i refuse to call him a man) is disgusting for showing them around to his workplace. How would he feel if someone did it to his sister/ daughter etc?

What does your DH think snuggle?

I teach sexting lessons to 15 year olds.

Am I reading this wrong? Teaching 15-year-olds how to sext is a thing?

Quite apart from the privacy violation of the young women he's committing, by showing them around at work then he's making the workplace a hostile environment for the few women that work there. Any one of them could raise this as a matter under the Equalities Act 2010, which forbids sexual harrassment at work. Sexual harrassment could include displaying photos of a sexual nature.

He needs to be told he's a nasty piece of work and should grow up and put the photos away, by HR if necessary.

it's not 'child pornography' it's making and/or distributing indecent images of children - under 18

From what I've read online and heard from DD20, getting 'nudes' as they call them is a 'thing'.

Yes, it's been a thing for some time now.

I don't like the shaming that's going in here.

These are young girls. We did things at that age that we regret. They have no real adult guidance in this as their mother's would never have been in this situation. This just didn't exist for us 40 something's. Its new territory for all of us. Its disturbing.

We don't know what affect this highly sexualized selfie culture will have on these young people because they haven't grown up yet. Porn was not so easily available when I was young and we didn't have so much soft porn in the msm when I was growing up.

Its everywhere, internet, music videos, celeb naked pics. There is no protecting them from it. You just have to hope they trust you enough to listen to your advice. Go put MTV on for an hour. See what I mean.

Jennifer - I agree, but it would have to be a very sheltered and naive 17 year old in this day and age to not be aware that in sending a naked photo to a guy there'd be a risk in it getting shared with other people. I guess we don't have enough info about this guy to know if he is really systenatically taking advantage of naive young women, or part of a social scene where people are informed but free and easy about things like sending naked pics. To be clear, I think he sounds like a dick either way.

I don't see anyone shaming the girls on this thread, Titania. Just the middle-aged men ofgling them.

And 15 year olds need teaching about setting, I'm glad this is a thing.

And the young man sharing them.

What I mean is they are being blamed for not being aware that their pics could end up anywhere, that's what's annoying me. They are young. Maybe they trust their boyfriends.

Just because some of the posters will gave addressed this with their girls in their loving relationship with their daughters (well done ) not every teenage girl comes from a supportive home. And they are young, and in terms of social media most mums my age are past it.

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I thought pictures of the 17 year old wouldn't be against the law as she is over 16. It's icky and sleazy of him to have pictures of someone that age of course, but I didn't think it's actually illegal?

Titania - but they aren't growing up in the same world we did. Growing up with social media and surely being witness to all the bullying and problems it can cause throughout adolescence, they have to know their pics could end up anywhere. I think it must be a measured risk that some women take. Though I do agree in terms of learning lessons about romantic trust, that is different and the same across the generations. And in cases where this guy is really abusing the trust of any woman but especially underage girls, he deserves to be taught a really harsh lesson.

I'd hope that the older men would 'guide' him by telling him not to be such a bell end.

My 15yo knows the kind of trouble he could be in if he either sends an indecent picture of himself or shares obe he happens to receive. They are taught at school with no holds barred

No they are not growing up in the same world we did, which means they have less guidance.

They see us as clueless basically.

I can't imagine why he hasn't been reported and received an official warning or even been sacked for gross misconduct.

Any thoughts on the replies so far, OP?

This is the new normal amongst teens today - even the 'bright' ones, it seems. Some, despite being warned/educated otherwise, still meet strangers online in person and view pornography and feel inclined to reenact it.

If you've seen Ross Kemp's documentary on child sexual exploitation in Britain it's utterly terrifying

worra perhaps op is busy writing an article to be handed in at 9am