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AIBU?

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To think this is disgusting?

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CactusFred · 14/01/2017 08:35

Last night I went to my friend's for dinner. I go every few weeks and we cook 'healthy' together rather than waste money on takeaway etc.

She's single with no kids and I'm married with one DC so I always go to hers for ease.

Anyway. She gets the stuff out of the fridge and puts it in the counter and says you chop and I'll start this.

There's a dog bowl on the chopping board. It has the remnants of dogs' meal in it. So I say I'll just wash the chopping board first.

She looks at me all confused and asks why. There's a dog bowl on it I say. She says it's clean. I say it's used! She then starts in about how her floor is spotless and 'not being funny' but her house is cleaner than mine, I have two cats and they probably go on counter etc.

They don't go on counter but I always use a clean chopping board anyway.

She throws the chopping board in the sink and washes it in a huff and it's really tense all evening. I tried to pretend it didn't happen but was gagging at food as if she preps food by dog bowl and thinks that's fine what else does she do?!

I'm also fuming about her saying her house is cleaner! I mean it is - on the surface at least - as her house is like show home but mine as hardly a pit!

AIBU to think prepping food next to dog bowl is disgusting?

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Kennington · 14/01/2017 09:16

It is a dog person vs non dog person thing.
Houses with animals always smell but you just get used to it.
I was brought up with no carpets, just wood and stone and have to repress my disgust at carpets. I know there isn't anything wrong with them but I just think of the ingrained dirt as this is how I was brought up. It is hard to shake off ones upbringing!!!

GahBuggerit · 14/01/2017 09:17

i hate it when those naughty dog food crumbs jump out of her bowl on their own onto my clean chopping board......i can almost hear them shouting "geronimo!!!!"

LadyGlitterSparklesSeriously · 14/01/2017 09:19

Well the fact you're vegan is rather relevant I think.

And goes some way towards explaining your reaction.

MrsJayy · 14/01/2017 09:21

I have a dog i just wouldn't put his food bowl near food prep areas especially if if was half eaten. If a used human plate was on a chopping board i would give the board a wipe too.

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CactusFred · 14/01/2017 09:22

I wouldn't let this ruin a friendship!
Maybe I was passive aggressive then. In my head I wasn't but I'm more than aware that my face often doesn't reflect what my mouth is saying. It's why I gave up counselling!!

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LaurieMarlow · 14/01/2017 09:23

Wow, people really are anal.

EdmundCleverClogs · 14/01/2017 09:25

Hmm, whilst it's not great I do think you're overreacting. If her home is 'spotless', I highly doubt any bad would have come of it.

This always going to hers for 'ease' - is that a joint agreement or a decision on her end? Perhaps once in a while she'd like to have a takeaway instead of hosting you all the time. If she's not a vegan as well, I can imagine hosting someone like yourself is.... difficult.

MrsJayy · 14/01/2017 09:28

I am a bit of a slob and not anal but my dog licks his arse he also has an eating dirt habit he is a minger, his half eaten dinner and bowl doesn't need to be on a chopping board im going go use.

MamaLyon · 14/01/2017 09:28

I have no pets, I think the dog bowl on the chopping board is disgusting!! Barf.

jimijack · 14/01/2017 09:28

Not a people lover either no. Mil quite a nice lady but she let it jump up on my leaving slather and spit all over me. She thought this was fine, I can't tell you how this disgusted me, I just do not like animals at all in any shape or form.

pipsqueak25 · 14/01/2017 09:29

it's a bit gross, i wouldn't like it, but then i'm veggie

Eolian · 14/01/2017 09:32

The dog bowl thing wouldn't bother me particularly but then I'm a dog owner and not a germphobe or a clean freak. I wouldn't eat dog food but it's not poisonous. It's food. Much of what goes into cheap processed meat products for humans probably isn't much better.

I tend to think that in the light of recent research into gut biomes and the fact that all manner of health problems may be caused by a lack of diverse enough bacteria in our systems, people should unclench about this kind of thing a bit.

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CactusFred · 14/01/2017 09:35

Edmund I invite her to mine but she prefers to stay at hers because her dogs have been home on their own all day when it's a work day and she likes a drink and I don't.

As for the vegan thing we often have chicken in hers and tofu or no extra in mine just add at the end. We also sometimes have takeaway but I follow her lead on that as money is tight.

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Serialweightwatcher · 14/01/2017 09:36

I have a dog and I always wash the bowl without the washing up bowl in the sink - use the scourer and then throw it in the bin ...... the OP isn't referring to crumbs of dog food, she is referring to the fact that the dog bowl has been on the floor and then put on top of a chopping board which wasn't going to be washed - the germs from the floor would be on the chopping board, not dog food!

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CactusFred · 14/01/2017 09:38

In my single days I house shared with a nurse... and caught her cleaning the toilet brush in the kitchen sink next to the clean washing up with the washing up gloves!

So perhaps the dog bowl thing not awful in scheme of things!

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Gooseberryfools · 14/01/2017 09:39

It's rather odd you've both overreacted massively.

Raggydolly3 · 14/01/2017 09:41

The OP has said she wanted the board washed because the bowl had been on the floor. I think 99.9% of us would wash a chopping board after it has been in the floor so washing the board in this case is the same thing

Qwertie · 14/01/2017 09:41

Yanbu. I would find that disgusting too. I grew up with a dog, but he was a dog, not a pfb. People are mental about their dogs these days; giving them people food, constant treats, kissing them, having them in bed. I like dogs, but I don't want to date one.

Wolpertinger · 14/01/2017 09:44

It wouldn't bother me (cat person) but I would realise that non-animal people often have different standards to animal people so I would have just let you get on with it.

AnUtterIdiot · 14/01/2017 09:44

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GraspingAtStrawberries · 14/01/2017 09:57

at MargaretCavendish couldn't have put that better myself!

Gymnopedies · 14/01/2017 09:59

I would have wanted to wash it too and think her remarks about her house being cleaner are OTT.
Pets can have worms, petfood is not human grade food and even if she cleans floors everyday obviously it wouldn't be clean enough to eat on (considering that people and animals then walk on it). No big deal to give the board a wash, surely if her house is that clean she must scrubbing away all the time.

Giddyaunt18 · 14/01/2017 10:00

I think you embarrassed her so she got defensive.

MargaretCavendish · 14/01/2017 10:04

So, we just put the cat's bowl in the dishwasher alongside other dirty things. This thread is making me think for the first time that some people wouldn't like that...?

user1477282676 · 14/01/2017 10:05

I don't think it's THAT gross....it was the bottom of the bowl.

I had to watch my FIL take off his trainers today and then neatly place them ON MY KITCHEN COUNTERTOP!

Wtf?

I immediately removed them and bleached the surface.

I'm not that fussy but why!??

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