To think Daddy Dates aren't so terrible??

[MommaGee]

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So there was a viral Fb Post about a Dad taking his daughter out for cake once a month as a "date" and then this article that claims is sexualizing the relationship and doing men and women down and is basically a system of our terrible society.

Aibu to think the author is being overly dramatic and it's just cute?

Oh so wrong.
I do daydream about when my toddler daughter is older, I am working, and on the odd day off I could pick her up after school and vroom off to a coffee shop (because obviously I can drive and have a fabulous job In The Future) and we can have tea and cake and chat.

But that's what it is called. Meeting my daughter for tea and cake. Not a date.

It's bloody stupid, it's a dad spending time with his child and doesn't need a label of any kind - it's just being a parent ffs

Does anyone remember the thread from last year about the lady who wanted to set up an event for dads and their daughters to go on dates.

She had it all planned, how much she was going to charge, what meal they would be having, flowers to give to the daughters, what music they could slow dance too... I think by page 14 she'd got the hint it hadnt been her best idea and was just very strange.

I have girl dates with my friends but then I probably am the kind of person that makes the whole of mn shudder and cringe haha

We did this with dds a day with each of us to do something it's just having time with your children

The term date is just wrong. It's a parent spending time with their child.
The fact that it's only used for fathers and daughters is worse.
The fact that it's celebrated and made such a massive deal out of is just sad.

OH takes dd out on his own every weekend . They're not fucking dates,they're going to the park/pool/soft play etc.

It's pathetic. It's having a day out with your kid, why not just call it that? This cutesy crap does my head in.

Ok Budda even I think that's weird

Oh do you do out with the girls posts on facebook

Eh MrsJ??

Is it a date when dads take Their boys out for cakes?

Yep, creepy.

I do 'Mum & son' coffee every so often when t'eldest & I make a point of going out for a chat, a drink & a bun, & getting away from his younger sisters.

It's not a date. The terminology & set up of 'daddy dates' is deeply dubious.

Ds also has days out with his dad that are just the two of them - I doubt anyone would suggest calling that a 'date'.

Somehow, this 'date', designation seems to be limited to girls doing ladylike things with their papas. Which is probably very lovely & positive, but doesn't need to be conflated with the language of courtship, Ffs.

I was teasing about your girl dates thats all not intended to be rude or anything.

Calling it a date, marking it in the calendar and having the child dress up for it sexualises it.

Most fathers take their kids out.

You don't teach your daughter how she should be treated via faux dates. You just treat her mother with love and respect every single day. You treat your daughter like a valuable person, not like a pretty doll. That's how she learns.

How many threads have we seen on here where some poor woman is putting up with horrific behaviour from some arsehole because he "treats her like a princess" and occasionally takes her nice places and buys her shiney things.

Nice places and shiney things aren't love.
Holding your hair back while you throw up and doing all the ironing are love. Love is in the mundane.

Oh no MrsJ I just couldn't make sense of it "Oh do you do out with the girls posts on facebook"

DP and I regularly have individual one to one time with our kids. If he started referring to taking DD to softplay or DS Pokemon hunting as 'dates' I would think he'd lost the plot!

Its not a date and shouldn't be called one. Its creepy.

Ok so calling it a date is weird.

So her other objection was moms never get to do fun stuff and if they do no one cares but a Dad does it and its essentially a celebration of his "babysitting" and condescension to care for the child for an hour. Unless she knows them its a bit of a stretch!! Its nice he does something fun (lots of little girls like dressing up nice, I'm sure if she wasn't the kind of little girl who liked dressing up that he wouldn't refuse to leave the house with her) and if DH took DS out on his own somewhere properly I'd probably post it on FB to share a sweet moment with my friends. It wouldn't mean that's all he does or that I'm somehow just the drudge whilst he's the fun. Its a snapshot in time not a comment on his entire attitude to his child

I am a LP..We do occasionally go out have dinner and chat.. I would never call it a date.

Dads and kids spending time together is normal, calling it a date is not.

I don't think it's weird to use the word date (I know someone who says "mummy dates" and "daddy dates" for one on one time with her kids) and I think t's nice to have special time allocated for one on one but it is weird for it to be specific to father-daughter (not mother-daughter, or father-son etc).

When little I used to do lots with my Dad - never called them daddy dates which is a bit creepy, just 'doing stuff with my Dad'.

Hecate YES.

Dad spends time with child and makes the bloody headlines for his magnanimity and heroism.

Mum spends time with child and world tells her all the things she is doing wrong as a mother.

(Plus yes the use of 'date' is creepy.)

Bit MiniEgg I don't think there's any indication he has a son...

Why does a small child need to dress up to be taken out? The post specifically mentions helping the child pick out a handbag - that is putting "adult", date like connotations to something that should be simple and ordinary.

My DH takes the DC out all the time. He's taken them away for weekends away camping or on hotels on his own too - it would never in a million years occur to me that activity needed shared on fb as a special moment. He's just being a parent.