To think this is too soon?

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Been chatting to a guy I met online for nearly 2 weeks. We've been on two dates and really like one another.

I have a 2 year old dd and he has a 4 year old dd so we're struggling to arrange the next date.

He's suggested coming round to mine tonight after dd goes to bed. AIBU to think this is a bit too much too soon?

Definitely. He just wants a shag imo.

Well he might just want to see you

Yes go somewhere neutral with the kids for play date and coffee. It's far too early to have him in your house.

I've told him I won't be having sex with him and he says he understands. No chance it will happen tonight if he did come round

You would let a random off the internet into your home where you live with your daughter after two weeks?
Really?
Most kids these days are more online savvy and safe than adults.
Imagine an e-safety lesson in school what do you think they might say to teens and children about meeting people off the inernet.
Then behave like an adult and protect yourself and your daughter.

And yes even after two dates he is still a random off the internet.

There is no way I would be letting someone I had met on a dating site and barely knew into my house. Your instincts are right OP, it is too soon.

No! You meet somewhere neutral, he's a stranger fgs,have you heard of internet safety?

Not in your house!!! If he gets over enthusiastic rapey will you risk waking up your DC by screaming at him? You will be very vulnerable to coercion in your house with your DC present.

No I wouldn't want to hence why I'm posting.

You'd also be setting a precedent very early in letting him come to your house when did asleep which you may regret

Yes you are correct OP, it is far too soon!

Are you worried about telling him he can't come round?

Just be honest with him and say it's too soon for him to come to your house, or say your dd may wake and you don't want to confuse her if he's around.

No I don't mind telling him. I do think he genuinely just wants to spend time with me but this makes me really uncomfortable and I would never put dd or myself in that situation. Just wanted other people's thoughts

You can't let a stranger you only know over the Internet into your house at night when you are alone with a small child! TBH the fact he's even suggested it would completely and utterly put me off him.

Well he got arsey because I said no to tonight. Then acted all apologetic when I said I wasnt happy with how he'd reacted.

Next?

Yup, he's an arse. At least you found out before you let him come round!!

I don't agree with meeting for a play date, either, it is far too soon for him to meet your daughter.

If he's getting snippy before you've even had a second date about not getting his way, what will he be like about something really difficult? Not a good sign.

Erm delete and block would be my next move, what an arse!!

Arsey that you won't do what you are told after two date???

I'd be reconsidering date three tbh

You deserve to be wined and dined not sat dating in the house imo!!

I can't believe I thought things were actually going to progress with this one. Glad he's shown his true colours sooner rather than later though

No . Just because you should not let him know your address. I know someone who met At a hotel for a meal then he followed her taxi home and started send ing texts saying he knew where she lived. Weirdo. If he is a decent guy he will understand .

He says he understands now and is apologising saying he's insecure etc.

The alarm bells have already started though

Seriously why are you even still talking to him?!