To think this is too soon?

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Been chatting to a guy I met online for nearly 2 weeks. We've been on two dates and really like one another.

I have a 2 year old dd and he has a 4 year old dd so we're struggling to arrange the next date.

He's suggested coming round to mine tonight after dd goes to bed. AIBU to think this is a bit too much too soon?

It's too soon to invite him into your house, especially when your DD is there.

Listen to the bells. Don't be tempted to ignore them, your instincts are right. Drop him like a hot stone.

Christ, run for the hills man!

Well he got arsey because I said no to tonight. Then acted all apologetic when I said I wasnt happy with how he'd reacted.

OK, he's a twat. 'Insecure' is not an excuse to be a prick. Ditch him, ditch him, ditch him.

Because I'm an idiot

Ok this is an intervention- block him from your phone! Seriously - this is a man you barely know and he's already giving you a head-fuck. You can and will do better!!

You really aren't an idiot! Far from it, you trusted your instincts and were proved right. I'd say you are pretty switched on!

No you're not! Sounds like all your bells and whistles are in great working order.

You're not an idiot, clearly you have good sense. He has 'manipulator' oozing out of every pore.

This is not good. He wants to come to your home and you've only met him twice and he also has a child so would know you should say no. Then he gets arsey when you do, Then he says he's insecure and that's why he behaved that way, even though you've only met twice.

Walk away now, this isn't going any place good. I'm sorry.

Thinking back to my early dating days after EXH and prior to meeting OH....I got chatting to a guy online and we started talking about meeting up, he had a young son which I didn't have a problem with but for some reason (can't remember why now) we couldn't find a good time to meet up so he suggested me going round to his one evening when his son was in bed. I stupidly agreed (maybe because he was so persistent) Luckily it was okay in the sense I wasn't harmed in anyway but it was just fucking weird...we were sat in the lounge with toys strewn about, it turned out it was his ex's house and he was baby sitting and he made me cheese on toast served up on a kiddies plastic plate! I don't think I stayed more than an hour. I don't know what I was thinking agreeing to meet in that situation especially as in all other dating scenarios I tried to keep safe letting somebody know where I was etc!

Sorry, my story wasn't helpful to you in anyway but just wanted to share an odd scenario I put myself in which was very silly in hindsight...said child could not have existed and he might have been a right loon!

This particular one does sound like an arse... However, I met my BF online and from about the 5th date he often came round to mine for dinner when the DC were in bed, and then left about 11pm. Otherwise we would hardly have seen each other! He didn't actually meet the DC until we'd been together for nearly a year.

Blocked and deleted.

I think I need to develop a thicker skin before I continue with this online dating malarkey.

Online dating is a bit of a minefield. I encountered so many idiots before I met my husband. Sounds like you've dodged a bullet though!

Well done op!