To not tell my mil that most of the food she buys us goes to local food bank?

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When she visits, once every coupls months she brings lots of treats & snacks for the dc, me & dh. Mainly biscuity/chocolate type stuff. But also stuff we don't like the kids having like fruitshoot.

We obviously don't mind dc having treats but she bring us loads! And if they're in the house they get eaten so I find it best to give most to the local food bank.
I have asked her many a times in the past not to but it falls on deaf ears, so this seems to be the solition I've come up with.
What do you think?

Why is it not good enough for op and family?

Ok
I may have been a bit arsey.

OP has made it clear that they have an EXCESS of treats. Not that it they reject it entirely. If you have an excess of something it makes sense to SHARE it with other people.

If you feel happy consuming one cake a month, and you have ten cakes, then you can give nine other families a cake, while still have them (at least in theory, in practice it's none of your fucking business) complying with your standards.

Could you find a way to get her to bring something your kids are allowed? Tell her that they've just decided they prefer x drink, y food to xyz. Keep mentioning their new favourite foods.

If you can't & you've genuinely done your best to stop her (i.e. If she found out could you look her in the eye & honestly say you'd tried everything to get her to stop doing it, before you resorted to the food bank?) then carry on. It does feel deceitful, but if you really can't stop her then do what you need to do & at least some good is coming from it.

I think we all deserve a treat now and again. There is nothing nicer than dunking biscuits into hot tea - or a lovely cadburys mini roll..
it's about balance isn't it. I'm sure the volunteers at the food bank balance nutritious food with a few treats - if they are there.

Well done gruoch I'm tempted to try this, but don't want to upset.

50bales surely those who use the foodbank to choose whether to take these items or not? Just because I don't like eating them doesn't mean others don't.
You'ce also made a classic case of throw awsy Britain

Think that is very kind of you personally OP and I am sure that those who need to use a Food Bank would appreciate them very much . . Nice one (as we say round here)

Since Christmas I've noticed a few toiletry gift sets in the food bank basket at my local supermarket. It's a good way to regift stuff you don't want.

Good plan! We do this with PIL - they bring all kinds of stuff to the house. We thank them politely, then take them to charity/food banks. Keeps everyone happy!

I'm a feeder and love baking and cooking and bring my colleagues little treats. I get what she's doing. Did you have a chat with her about it?
If she still does it, just keep the status quo. Both sides are happy living in a little white lie.

I have had to sidle a few things off to the FB that Mil gave us - ie extra chocolate calenders - when I had already got some, some pasta stuff like that...

I saw Program on FB and they try and give treats - biscuits etc to people with DC who have bday or know having extra hard time. ( as well as generally)

5OBalesofHay It is good enough for her family but she has too much of it. Even if she was being snobby about it (which she isn't) I still don't see the problem - if you felt your family were too good for baked beans or jaffa cakes or whatever then the sensible thing to do is to donate it to someone who might appreciate it.

My Mum used to do this. I had to tell her not to...it took a while but I asked her to bring fruit instead as it's expensive and the DC love it.

I just kept saying "Oh they'd love some strawberries or blueberries you know...and the dentist has asked me specifically not to let them have sweets"

After a while she did. She seems to take just as much pleasure in it.

OP I think YANBU. You've asked her not to so it's not like you're deliberately wasting her money but she obviously wants to bring it anyway and since you're donating it, it's not going to waste.

Sounds like my MIL when it was my birthday we said please don't bring round a cake as we already have two half finished ones sitting in the fridge (I bought one and a friend baked one), by the end of the visit we had 3 half finished cakes sitting in the fridge.

I once said to FIL I enjoyed the dried mango he brought back from the Philippines and at one point I ended up with a whole kitchen cupboard full of dried mango

Tell her treats you would prefer her to bring eg 'the children don't like Fruit Shoots but they love those mini bottles of water that fit in their pockets' or 'DC really like Naked Bars at the moment, perhaps get those instead of Dairy Milk' etc.

My local foodbank is currently begging people to stop offloading unwanted Christmas food and sweets (I know because I tried to give them two huge boxes of shortbread that we will never eat) and instead donate practical non-food items such as razors, tissues, shampoo, tampons etc.

Sounds fair enough to me, OP...
My M-i-L keeps thrusting homegrown produce at me.... she can't grasp that the children have all left home and O/H and I simply don't need that much food, so I make a note of which friends particularly like specific items and one gets the runner beans (in season - she loves them) and another one gets the eggs or the plums.... and so on. I also regifted to the FB some bath products I received before Christmas.... Much better that than thow stuff away.

I just take extras into work. Plenty of people willing to take it there

Why is it alright for MIL to stress out the op, ignore her requests to stop, cause her extra work, but the OP shouldn't hurt MIL's feelings by telling her? Is the MIL not a grown adult who should be aware her actions have consequences whether she likes it or not? My MIL is a feeder, weight related death, several life changing serious ill health, massively overweight family members, have all plagued her family, yet she still tries too feed up her GC to follow the same path, being proud of massive overeating and massively overweight.

I am sat at work in a Foodbank at the moment and concur that we love the treats that come in. We give them as extras on top of the usual staples so they are a.welcome treat.

However, we do have a surplus of mince pies right now. Anyone need any?!

IMO - YABVU

Regardless whether or not MIL can afford it, she's choosing to give to her family not anyone else. If she wanted to give food to food banks, she would.

If you don't want the food, tell her no thank you and if she still insists, be straight with her and say you'll take it to the food bank, don't do it behind her back.

Scaredycat3000 nowhere does it say OP is stressed out or minds popping to the food bank (probably on her way to do something else anyway). What benefit would there be to hurting MiL feelings? She sounds misguided but well intentioned in her gift I think you're projecting from your own experiences here.

I think it's sad that she is bringing you stuff and you are getting rid of it. Ot would be kinder to tell her you are all on a healthy eating plan or something.