OH Snoring - please help me!!

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OH snores REALLY badly (his brother, dad and son do too - not sure if these things are genetic?).

He works away normally but when he is home he is "off" and I am working.

I am a really light sleeper and it's really affecting me - we are very affectionate as a couple and I love having him home and cuddling in bed, going to bed at the same time etc but the lack of sleep is really getting me down.

He has gone and slept on the sofa a few times which has made me feel really bad and I have been taking herbal sleeping pills. He sometimes tries to let me go to sleep first.

He has had two ops on his nose (during first marriage) to quarterise it (?) which clearly haven't worked.

He will be living at home full time in a few years and I just wonder what the hell other people do...?

What kind of moments?!

Oh crowd, I feel your pain! My DH of 24 years although how I haven't killed him yet I don't know is an awful snorer, and he and everyone else thinks it's hilarious! I have recorded him as he sounds like a wild hog in pain and he laughs til he cries! Have seen the GP, who referred him to ENT and they did some kind of op that didn't work. We have tried all kinds of over the counter remedies, including one that offered a money back guarantee, yep we got a refund, and none have worked. My friend tried the gimp mask chin strap and she said it made her DH worse. We have resorted to my elbowing him in the ribs if I hear him and I regularly take sleeping pills, we did try him sleeping in the spare room, but I missed him, so that didn't work for us.
Like you, there are nights that I plot his murder, but apart from the snoring he's a really good man

I am desperately trying to get my DH to go to the doctor. His snoring is absolutely inbelievable. He spends most night on the sofa in his study now, which is not ideal, but I suffer very severe migraines complex and sleep disturbance is a massive trigger, so I'm completely unable to function otherwise. I have an ear/eustachian tube problem as well, and have yet to find earplugs I can use without being woken up by massive earache within a few minutes of trying them. DH knows the doctor will tell him he needs to lose weight, so he's putting off going, but even when he was really skinny he still snored like a mating walrus. His dad's the same and has had two ops - his parents now have completely separate rooms because of it. So fed up.

It is funny until you have to cope with it every night.

We are "lucky" in that he is away a lot but I dunno what will happen when he's home permanently.

Last night I got tough and he was sent downstairs as insisted on going bed early (for possible "relations") then got in a huff when I mentioned the snoring and turned his back and went to sleep snoring while I was watching a film meaning I had no chance of sleep and I am at work today and he is not.

If it is sleep apnoea, it's life threatening.

Record him and play it back to him.

If he won't do anything about it, have a quiet word with a superior officer.

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I don't think I would be thanked for that

I know, but the condition could affect his abilities - it did mine. If you do it right, he doesn't have to know.

Rupert says "Some of the chaps noticed you had some breathing difficulties when you were asleep on the last op, better see the MO..."