To think I'm done, and to stop breastfeeding?

[Kit2015]

My DD will be 2 in March. It's been a hard 2 years with my husband walking out on us at the end of October.

I've breastfed. We had no problems. Other than at around 6months when she decided that only left boob would do.
I had planned to continue till she was 2. However I'm done. I want my body back. I'm sick of her pulling at my top and demanding 'boboo'.
We are lucky that we live with my mother (this is so identifying) who is a retired midwife. So she is going to help.
Despite me knowing that I'm done that I've had enough I feel guilty. Alot of guilt. So I guess what I'm trying to ask in the most roundabout way is, AIBU to stop now? And what should I expect? Everyone helps with establishing BF but not much info on what to do to stop.

Place marking, my dS is ten months and I'm starting to want to wean him off BF, theres loads of info on how to start but not much on how to stop! Some really interesting advice on here, going to have think about how to start dropping feeds down.
Well done for doing it for so long, I'm starting to get fed up with it now and my DS is happy with cuddles and playing so needs it less I think. Aiming to drop it completely by the time he's one and can drink cow's milk.

Why would you feel guilty? About what?

You have got to stop sometime - she will look daft stopping for a slurp before she goes into her GCSEs! Just do it and stop thinking!

Don't feel guilty Kit you've done so well to get this far! I do agree it's hard to know how to stop. DD is 2.3 and she just loves breastfeeding...is a total addiction. I'd planned to stop at 12/15 months but she had other ideas. I then thought she'd self-wean, but has shown zero sign of that. I am now totally fed up with, but over the last three months I've been taking back control! So all day time feeds went first, then I cut out during the night feeds (this involved hours of screaming 😰, but with her co-sleeping with me and DH), then I cut out the first thing in the morning feed. All we have left is the bedtime feed now. I'm just going to have to go cold turkey on it, but bracing myself because I know it's going to be hard!

There have been benefits though, now we're down to this last feed she is sleeping through, which she had never done before. The extra sleep is helping me cope!

I wouldn't change the last year though - it has definitely helped her get through various toddler bugs much quicker than I would have expected - especially vomiting ones! I think people really underestimate the boost to the immune system BF gives to toddlers when they're ill.

I've read though all the responses now.
I felt guilty because she's had so much change on her the last few months with her DF leaving I didn't want to rock the boat again.
I'm hoping that stopping the BF will also help her sleep through.
Thank you all again for your kid words they've really helped me.

Am right there with you OP. Dd2 is 18mo and I am so done with breastfeeding now. In fact I am typing this with a cold compress on my boobs and cabbage leaves ready in the fridge because I went cold turkey at the weekend, just got to the stage where I was hating it and she wasn't eating enough during the day because she knew she'd get milk from me. Her appetite has already increased and she has slept through. Do it OP.