Who is BU? WRT sleeping naked.

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One of us doesn't want the other one to sleep naked. Who gets final say?

ah- any chance the pregnancy hormones could be affecting how you are reacting to smell OP? think you might have mentioned this sooner!

Bloody autocorrect!

^^ some people sweat more than others.

Her particular DH smells a bit stale

I sleep naked DP doesn't and if he tried telling that I couldn't in my own home in my own bed, he'd get told to fuck right off!

I think your being unreasonable

amelia jack no I do not need my DP to shower before bed if he is too tired - what kind of bed regime are you running?!!

Does he not have access to deodorant?

amelia jack think OP could have mentioned that she was PG when mentioning smells!!

Portering is physical work - lots of lifting etc. OP does he also smell a bit hospital-y? I think YANBU; it can't be nice to sleep next to a smelly naked person. Ask him to shower.

Portering is physical work - lots of lifting etc. OP does he also smell a bit hospital-y? I think YANBU; it can't be nice to sleep next to a smelly naked person. Ask him to shower.

the OPs objection is smell, not skin.

this is why I don't get the morning only wash. You get sweaty and dirty during the day, not generally overnight. It always makes more sense to me to wash in the evening.

a shower takes two minutes, two more to dry off, job done. He can do that before bed.

reduces washing of bedding too.

No it's true nobody needs to be told what to do in his own bed and it's their right to do as they please. However the other person can choose whether to sleep with them or not. No say.

Yes I reckon the pregnancy has increased your sense of smell

I don't understand why he wouldn't want to wash after being in a hospital for 8-12 hours.

You don't feel clean and are dealing with people who could have communicable/infectious diseases/conditions.

I wouldn't want to shower late at night, waking myself up in the process. If he has hygiene issues that's an issue but as a nude sleeper myself I'd hate to be dictated to about what I wore or didn't to my own bed.

I wouldn't want to shower at 1am either

Showers wake you up

Don't really get the problem with sleeping with a naked man. chance would be a fine thing. After all if you DTD you are exchanging more than sweat, aren't you?

i think youre being weird. If youre married and intimate with someone, you should be able to tolerate them naked

Pregnancy increased my sense of smell and I never lost it. I can see where you are coming from.

I love having a shower before bed.

You can't beat getting into bed when you're squeaky clean.

I don't sleep naked and I don't like it if my husband sleeps naked. He wears boxers as a compromise.

I can't imagine noticing what DH smelled like if he fell into bed at 1am. All being well I would be well asleep by then.

I remember once having a conversation with a colleague who couldn't believe I didn't shower after a 12 hour shift before going to bed. I tended to just eat and go to sleep. I couldn't believe that she showered before going to bed but not after sweating under a warm duvet all night before coming back to work. Guess which of us spent every shift smelling of BO. It wasn't me

GTFO

Has this only just come about in your relationship? Is it something he wants to start doing and hasn't done so before?