to have a night nurse

[doublerainbow31]

so.... a celebrity has told the awful story of her son being dropped on his head by the night nurse. glad everyone is ok but slightly shocked people have day and night nurses. Now I know why celebreties with newborns look so good.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

They used to employ nursery nurses to work on postnatal wards who would show parents how to bath their baby before going home. This was the case when my dd was born. She's 17 now and the nursery nurses are long gone....

Yep,my friend was one.

[YoHoHoandabottleofTequila]

Some of my antenatal group had maternity nurses.

[DeckTheHall]

I had someone to help me. I had a c section which left me in a poor way and no family to help. OP your post is very ignorant and narrow minded. How dare you think that I was hiring someone to be "mum"

[ElphabaTheGreen]

acquiescence and hazeyjane I am in NZ (sorry, should have explained)

No, my baby was not ill, but he was very demanding, woke every hour, so I got help.



Fucking hell, Jerry. I hope you count your blessings on a daily basis. Both of mine were 1-2 hourly wakers for well over a year each. Not only did I not get state help, I didn't have family support either.

[PeppaIsMyHero]

I was just saying to someone this morning how brilliantly sensible it is to get some help when you've just got home from giving birth. I felt like I'd been hit by a truck and hadn't slept for over 2 days when I got home and think that a single good night's sleep would have had a major positive impact on the subsequent weeks.

It used to be that people had many extra pairs of hands around to help with the baby which we don't these days. If people can afford to buy the help they need then why on earth should they not?

[seasidesally]

This is MN with far higher % of family's that will hire help and far higher income than average,so the replys will not be standard,the same with cleaning,gardening help etc

MN is not typical of most outside here

i read what happened and was terrible,that aside the women is a total drama queen in life in general though

[DailyFail1]

Could someone please recommend a company in the UK to hire one? Close relative has severe PND & doesn't trust herself around baby at night.

[hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman]

minifingerz Until recently I was a nursery nurse on a ward in a maternity hospital, the SCBU at the same hospital was staffed mainly by nursery nurses (overseen by nurses from NICU).

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Daily- I know Tinies agency used to have maternity nurses, I dont know if that's still the case.

[Notso]

I wouldn't hire a night nurse for a newborn, if I had the money I'd certainly hire someone to take my four year old back to his own bed for the six or seven times a night he is up.

[Sugarcoma]

Hmmm so just had a Google to see who it was - Susan Sarandon's daughter. She also wrote a blog post that went viral a year or two ago about firing her previous nanny for sending racy texts to her husband... Not doubting what she is saying here (would be bizarre scenario to make up) but that is a bit odd no?

people.com/celebrity/eva-amurri-martinos-husband-fires-nanny-for-racy-text-message/

[justanotherusername0]

Eden is a company in London

[Manumission]

Well TBH sugar I did wonder if anyone else had seen or spoken to the "night nanny".

[sianihedgehog]

jerryferry waking every hour is NORMAL for newborns. You were very lucky to get help. My son didn't sleep for more than an hour for several weeks.

Op people having such a lot of help available makes me so jealous that I could spit, tbh.

Also, falling asleep and dropping the baby on his head is basically why safe co sleeping is so much better than trying not to doze off. Get onto a mattress, lie down, breastfeed and sleep at the same time!

[brasty]

Most people I know do not have lots of help.But then most people I know who have children, when they were babies, also had grandparents who were working full time themselves.
I think a night nurse sounds a wonderful idea. Night nurse and mothers help during the day, would have been my ideal combination.

[Packergator]

I'd have a night nurse in a heartbeat if I could afford one. In fact, the fear of the lack of sleep and what it did to me (PND/thoughts of self & baby harm) is one of the main things preventing me from ever having another child; I never want to go to that dark, dark place again. If I knew that I could be guaranteed a half decent night's kip? Would definitely have another baby.

[Dulra]

Years ago women stayed in hospital weeks after giving birth and often the mum was let sleep and recuperate with the baby only taken to her when the they needed feeding. Back in the olden days rich people even had wet nurses to do all the feeding so the mum could recover (this was pre the invention of baby formula). It is very recent that a mum is sent home from hospital within hours and expected to do it all so those that can afford it absolutely take all the help you can get.

[Dulra]

Packergator I suffered from bad pnd on my first baby too and did go on to have 2 more kids and although I got pnd again it wasn't to the same severity. I had a plan in place before having the subsequent babies for what to do if it happened again. I had family support lined up and knew the warning signs straight away so went on meds early on. If you do want another baby don't assume it will happen again but be prepared in case it does and get all the help you can in place before baby arrives

[TheClacksAreDown]

Dailyfail1 when I had a maternity nurse we looked at candidates from Eden and Imperial.

[Manumission]

Yes that's the way to justify it Dulra; "It's a helpful luxury that, luckily, I can afford".


Not; "I need it because I'm unlucky with support"

[JerryFerry]

siani he wasn't a newborn, was from 3m-7m. Nothing normal about his sleep patterns. They supplied a sleep specialist at first but she was stumped. He has since been diagnosed with a disorder.

elphaba it's not something I think about a lot, no. But then again it was a lifesaver at the time - for him and for me as I might very well have killed us both if I hadn't had help.

[Isadora2007]

I'm shocked a night nurse fell asleep and I'd be suing her arse off of it was my baby. Surely the whole point of having a nn is to avoid injury due to overtiredness.
I did this for my sister a few times when her husband was away abroad and DN was teeny. It was nice getting up with a teeny when mine were that bit older. Maybe I should consider a career cchange and get paid to cuddle wee babies during the night!!!

[YelloDraw]

Why wouldn't you have a night nurse/nanny if you had the money and the space?

What is so great about being on your knees with tiredness?

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

God, you couldn't pay me enough to do that job! I'm surprised it doesn't happen more often than tbh.

I imagine she will sue and the nanny will have insurance.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

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