Wedding question - is it bad form to ask what colour the bridesmaids are wearing??

[JoyfulAndTriumphant]

Going to a wedding next month and looking at dresses online.

Quite skint and also pregnant, I have a beautiful (expensive) flattering maxi dress in my wardrobe that I've only worn once before and I would love to wear it again.

However, I always think a maxi dress is a bit of a gamble if you don't know what colour the bridesmaids are wearing. Don't want to look like a wannabe bridesmaid and all...

Is it bad form to text the bride and ask the question?? I don't know her all that well, but she's very easy going and lovely. Just genuinely don't know if it's bad etiquette.

I'd tell her what colour your dress is & that you wouldn't bother her except it's maxi & you don't want to look as though you're trying to crash the wedding party. Be prepared for a frantic hunt if she replies that 'erm, well actually....'!

Just tell her the colour of your dress, and ask if she's OK with it....if she says yes, youre on a winner. If she says no, then it's up to you what you do!

I do remember one that had a coloured ribbon on, but that was in the 90s.

I got married in the early 90s and my invitations had a coloured ribbon on them which matched the bridesmaids' dresses. It must've been a thing back then.

I would ask. BIL got married fairly recently and I got told the bridesmaids were wearing dark blue, after I had already bought myself a dark bluey/purpley dress to wear to the wedding. Personally I didn't give two shits about what people wore to my wedding but I know some brides get really weird about it, so I got DH to ask BIL's wife when he went round to their house and showed her a pic of my dress and to pass on the message that if she thought it was too similar and didn't want me to wear it then I would find something else. She said it was fine and quite different from theirs anyway (which it was as mine had like a pattern on it). But I think it's always best to check. Having said that, I wouldn't have thought to find out if it wasn't for the fact that I had already been told the colour - I wouldn't have actually gone out of my way to ask her otherwise.

I haven't been to many weddings, just right (including my own) in all my 50 years

I thought it was pretty normal for the invitations to reflect the colours of the bridesmaids

I would just ask OP, though I don't understand why people worry about such things, I couldn't have cared less if a guest turned up at my wedding wearing the same colour as me or my bridesmaids, my dress was a pale pink, and my two bridesmaids a kind of candy pink

I would never even thought of telling anyone they couldn't wear pink

Though my now XMIL did annoy me by tying bridal car ribbons onto her car!