In regards to my lifestyle changes

[OurMiracle1106]

I really just need to rant. Im fed up of people's snide comments about how I'll end up sick or me changing my diet etc is why I've got the flu and I'm making myself ill!

I decided end of November to get fit, and change my junk food diet to healthy food.

I'm now getting comments as if I'm starving myself (see pic of tonight's dinner which obviously is me starving) and how that's why I've had flu for the last 3 days. I should add I've decided to try to lose weight in the hopes it will ease my endometriosis so there is a medical reason behind it.

Which obviously had nothing to do with said persons leaving me standing in the cold waiting for them for nearly an hour or the fact I work in a children's centre and this is the first illness I've had since I started 4 months ago. 😡

Just feel if people can't accept my lifestyle changes and have nothing positive to say about the weight I've lost they shouldn't say anything at all. I also got fed up with trying to be fed junk food over xmas even after repeatedly saying I don't want it.

I understand your being fed up. Flu/colds are caught from other people, your diet shouldn't make too much difference but, but ...

I feel that I eat fairly healthy food but I catch almost every cold that's going around which is damned annoying. Maybe a good diet means that you are a bit healthier in the first place and can shake off some illnesses - but I can't say I've noticed.

Your dinner looks all right to me but then WTF do I know.

OP I really feel for you I've had the same thing, people are very set in what they think others should eat

Personally I would consider that meal totally appropriate and like you Ive made some health changes (lost 6 stone last year two to go this year)...but even if I didn't think it was right it's not for me to comment

Ultimately everyone is filled up in different ways and it's not like you're starving yourself ignore the judgey judgeys

I've had people raving about how good I look but then in the same breath commenting I MUST be starving myself or over exercising it's all their own issues

Ultimately hold strong on what works for you , I have PCOS and so have gone very low carb...not for weight issues but because it helps with the condition

Lots of people complain I'm on a fad diet and it's not healthy but actually for my condition it's necessary to manage the condition

Sod em basically keep doing you

a portion of meat/protein should be the same size as the palm of the person who's eating its hand. Carbs similar size to a deck of cards, the rest veg.

I don't think anyone is interested in a plate of freezer veg/bit of chicken so you can prob do without sharing it on soc media.

Stop doing things that invite comment if you don't want the comments?

Many people don't like it when we change, OP. Just keep doing what you're doing if it's working for you, without apology, justification or explanation. And stop posting on social media, because there is always a hidden agenda that we like to keep from ourselves.

I was veggi for 25 years very fit and healthy, desided after marrying a meat eater , to eat fish and chicken, and yes, I will be honest some "junk", I now have quite a few gut problems. Peas and sweetcorn are veg, not carbs, carbs are bread (and related products) rice, pasta cereals, spuds,. If you look at current health guidelines the portion sizes are correct, the protein should be as big as the palm of your hand. If you want to loose weight sensibly, get Michael Moselys blood sugar diet. I lost 2kg in a week, I wont pretend its easy, I did some tweaks to suit myself, lifestyle etc.Dont make a big fuss, as soon as you tell people you re on a diet, they go into silly fuss mode, and try to scupper it.

Onya, OP, for making changes to your diet. India Knight's diet book is wise and helpful, and she does discuss the phenomenon of the 'friend' who, being comfortable with your identity as the chubby mate, is a bit unnerved by the changes you are making, and will try to undermine you. Ignore this kind of friend and keep on your own path. The diet is a low-carb one, so would probably criticise your plateful on the grounds that there should be more lean protein (chicken) and fewer carbs (so replace the peas and sweetcorn with green leafy veg).

One thing though: leave the fruit juice alone, it's basically liquid sugar. Fructose is sugar. It will do the same things to your body chemistry as glucose. If you are eating the fruit, then the fibre helps mitigate the impact of the fructose so it's better than ingesting juice, which has very little fibre. But some fruits will be better than others (grapes are little bags of sugar, pears are better than apples, berries better than pears - you need to look it up). But good luck with your changes, and well done.

Good for you. If you are making positive lifestyle changes and people are criticising you for it then they are not good friends. I only ever had positive feedback from my own fat-to-fitness regime although I only ever spoke about it to people who asked specifically and never on social media unless I was asking for charitable donations for a sporting event. Generally, I try and surround myself with people who are supportive and positive.

Well done you, keep going and ignore your 'friend'. She sounds ignorant and really negative. All in all unhelpful. I would be a bit wary of her actually, is she just plain ignorant or is there more to it?

I think your meal looks like a big one, I have been very surprised at people saying it doesn't look enough, (I am wondering if the people who posted that are a bit on the large side themselves). It is more than I would pile on a plate, and I am 5'8". I would have a pudding though.

There is flu going around. That is it, you caught flu, same as anyone can do, it is nothing to do with you being on a healthy eating kick. I mean, how f'ing ridiculous to suggest that because you are now eating low salt, low sugar, low additive meals with instead lots of fruit and veg you are going to get sick!!! Total Bollocks! A doctor would laugh in her face!

Keep going, you are doing brilliantly.

I also got fed up with trying to be fed junk food over xmas even after repeatedly saying I don't want it

Just say no. Nobody can make you eat anything you don't want to. I ignore anyone who keeps trying to make me eat something.

Nanny Peas and sweetcorn ARE carbs. Not highly processed ones is all.

A few years ago I lost a lot of weight through healthy eating and exercise. Most people were really encouraging, but there were three people who were a bit weird about it. I think some people are subconsciously a bit jealous, and some people are insecure ... basically they like being 'the thin friend' and are threatened when they think that might no longer be the case.

I also think, however, that one person got genuinely concerned that I had developed some kind of obsession or eating disorder - she was completely wrong and she is the sort of person who always thinks the worst and over-thinks everything, putting two and two together and making five, but I know she was well-meaning (albeit annoying). She admitted later that she'd misread things completely.

Just make your food choices and don't discuss them with your friend. The more you make a big deal out of it, the more she'll notice. Inevitably people will see that you are making changes, but if you just get on with it quietly they'll soon get used to it.

Your dinner looks fine to me. That's a sensible portion of chicken and your veg choices include protein and carbs, so it is pretty balanced. You could have had new potatoes or sweet potatoes which might have been a bit more filling but sweetcorn and peas are fine too and really tasty. In fact, it's made me fancy a meal with loads of different vegetables now!

Your dinner looks fine. You dont NEED meats/fish for protein as people have commented, protein is also in veggies/greens, pulses, nuts, chickpeas etc (if you eat those). Veggies are also carbs I'm guessing you also eat rice, potatoes, pastas etc too as part of a varied diet. Your friend will likely eventually accept it and support you. Good for you making better choices.
I would maybe not mention it as much if the comments are becoming wearing, but I can see why you've posted if you are continuously getting told you're not eating enough. Aside from the flu recently, how have you felt within yourself since the changes? (colds/flu are rife at the moment!).

new potatoes or sweet potatoes

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That's a great dinner! As long as you're not feeling hungry afterwards it's fine. Sweet potato (roasted or mashed) goes lovely with chicken. Legumes would be a great change up too - more protein and most importantly calcium, which you can get from leafy greens too.

Yanbu for making lifestyle changes to help your health

Yabvu for posting pictures on social media. I cannot understand why. Your life style changes are for you and your health. You don't need to share photos of food! That goes for anyone to be honest dieting or not.

That dinner looks fine. I have meals like that most days with occasional meals with pasta.
Stop telling other people about your diet and stop listening to what other people are saying.
Once you make a choice to eat a healthier diet then just do it without approval from family or friends and If you want advice get it from someone qualified.