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In regards to my lifestyle changes

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OurMiracle1106 · 04/01/2017 21:44

I really just need to rant. Im fed up of people's snide comments about how I'll end up sick or me changing my diet etc is why I've got the flu and I'm making myself ill!

I decided end of November to get fit, and change my junk food diet to healthy food.

I'm now getting comments as if I'm starving myself (see pic of tonight's dinner which obviously is me starving) and how that's why I've had flu for the last 3 days. I should add I've decided to try to lose weight in the hopes it will ease my endometriosis so there is a medical reason behind it.

Which obviously had nothing to do with said persons leaving me standing in the cold waiting for them for nearly an hour or the fact I work in a children's centre and this is the first illness I've had since I started 4 months ago. 😡

Just feel if people can't accept my lifestyle changes and have nothing positive to say about the weight I've lost they shouldn't say anything at all. I also got fed up with trying to be fed junk food over xmas even after repeatedly saying I don't want it.

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Only1scoop · 04/01/2017 22:04

Stop telling everyone on Social Media then.
You have nothing to prove

SaucyJack · 04/01/2017 22:04

There are more calories gram for gram in tinned sweet corn than in boiled potatoes, and no one would be commenting you were starving yourself if you swapped that corn for pots.

Not all veg is cucumber or celery.

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OurMiracle1106 · 04/01/2017 22:05

I had potatoes last night. Booked but I like a variety of veg and green veg is good for my iron (previous iron deficiency anaemia which I'm now dietary controlling)

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 04/01/2017 22:09

Looks like a ruinous portion of veg.

Do you talk abour your diet a lot, OP?

I'm trying to get my head around anyone who isn't you being sufficiently interested to not just pass comment on it, but make it an actual theme.

I couldn't give a Castlemaine XXXX what anyone else eats. I only care about my tum and what I put in it.

Badgerbird · 04/01/2017 22:12

Sounds like you are doing really well! Great decision to take control of your own health :) Lots of people don't like change and it pushes their buttons, just concentrate on yourself and making sure you are getting a good variety of healthy nutrient dense food. Good luck and ignore negative comments.

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OurMiracle1106 · 04/01/2017 22:13

It's mainly noted when I'm with the people or they invite me out to eat/drinks. I can't drink alcohol, nothing to do with calories but cos I'm on epilepsy Med's.

I also no longer want dessert immediately after dinner. I normally leave i an hour or so

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OurMiracle1106 · 04/01/2017 22:14

Where as before I would have a full meal. And then a heavy dessert straight away possibly grabbing a bar or 2 of chocolate on way home

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QueenMortificado · 04/01/2017 22:19

Btw make sure you're getting enough protein, a lot of very quick weight loss is muscle and water loss rather than fat loss

Hopefully you're working out with weights too which will help build muscle

YelloDraw · 04/01/2017 22:23

Looks alright to me. Personally I don't like peas and sweet corn together but I'll let you off for that one :-)

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam · 04/01/2017 22:23

Well done you.
I agree about not posting pics on SM.
Try to ignore the people putting you down in RL. Probably jealous, what's it to them.
Your dinner looks great. Personally I'd have half the amount of sweetcorn and peas and replace them with a potato with butter. There's no need to have puddings if you don't feel like them. I also think there's nothing wrong with having a takeaway or drink now again either.

Believeitornot · 04/01/2017 22:24

Just don't post it at all. Ever.

I do exercise routines etc and don't post stuff on social media because a) I don't need the validation and b) it's no one's business but mine).

MissVictoria · 04/01/2017 22:29

Fruit juice really isn't healthy btw. It has so much sugar in it, so lots of calories. It is a complete misconception that fruit juice is healthy. Juicing removes the good filling fibre of the actual fruit and plenty of the nutrients are in the flesh not the juice, so you're cutting out the major parts of the fruit that make it good for you. I avoid fruit in favour of veggies when i diet, the cuting out of the sugar helps so much, and natural fruit sugars can be just as bad as added refined sugar,sugar is sugar.

downwardfacingdog · 04/01/2017 22:30

Just don't talk about it. I'm sure no one will think it's worrying to eat less KFC so you must be giving them more info about what you are eating for them to have anything to say.

Bluntness100 · 04/01/2017 22:35

Maybe they are just worried about you? Maybe you're socialising less? I don't know really, all seems a bit of a storm in a tea cup.😖

KatherinaMinola · 04/01/2017 22:41

Yes, just don't tell them, and don't engage if they comment on what you're eating.

It is possible to have a reaction to giving up alcohol/smoking/junk food and to get ill from it (temporarily). I would have thought flu was just bad luck though.

And your plate looks fine to me.

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OurMiracle1106 · 04/01/2017 22:43

I probably am socialising less. I don't feel to go out when I have flu to be honest but who the hell does and didnt want to be clubbing New Year's Eve as I'd felt exhausted having worked 4 months straight and between xmas and new year (woke up in a pool of sweat with flu New Year's Day)

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throwingpebbles · 04/01/2017 22:52

Looks fine to me. If it's just one friend or a few, possibly they may feel threatened by the thought of you losing weight?
I ended up in a house share full of competitive dieters at one point and it was dreadful.
Sounds like you are working really hard on making good changes
I would tend to focus on increasing exercise over very restrictive meals though. But every change towards health is a good one

Also how did you cut out the coke? I am a Diet Coke addict but don't want to be!

BuggersMuddle · 04/01/2017 22:53

People are socialised into eating too much and seeing fat as normal. I say that as someone with a BMI of 25 who has been told I have 'skinny legs' recently.

Also height and exercise levels matter. When I was training 2hrs a day and in my 20s, I ate a shedload (and people commented negatively, but I was slim, just quite muscular).

Now I've not been training as much, I eat small meals and people are perpetually commenting on how little I eat. (I'm 5' tall FGS - of course I eat less than the 'average' person when I'm not training heavily. There is less of me to fuel!). That would be enough for me. For my 6' DP, obviously not.

TBH OP I just wouldn't share. If your weightloss is steady, you're getting a decent mix of nutrients and your energy levels are decent, just crack on.

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OurMiracle1106 · 05/01/2017 08:15

throwingpebbles I was addicted too. It wasn't easy. Had a week or so of headaches but replaced it with fruit juices and water, was prepared for the caffeine and sugar withdrawals and if I fancy something fizzy I add sparkling water to my fruit juice which means it's watered down but fizzy.

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Trifleorbust · 05/01/2017 08:42

I don't think we actually digest sweet corn...

lasttimeround · 05/01/2017 08:50

Just don't engage. Don't talk about it yourself. Order a tonic or soda water when out instead of an alcoholic drink and don't engage in discussion about it.
Most people will leave you to get on with it. People with food issues will get freaked but that's their stuff not yours. Ignore.

saoirse31 · 05/01/2017 08:51

Fair play to u op, looks fine to me, tho I'd add another veg cos think u dont get much calories r protein from sweetcorn. Am doing same , just started, and am having similar big portions of veg, 3 or 4 varieties with dinners. Am finding sugar the hardest, dont drink coke etc but am trying to stop sugar in tea / coffee...cue lots of half full mugs of tea left!!

ChapstickLegends · 05/01/2017 08:55

Your dinner looks yummy.

I'm now really confused about my own eating habits because that looks roughly like the type of portions I eat. I don't see the issue

Fallonjamie · 05/01/2017 09:01

I think they're large portions of veg! The point is, it doesn't matter what other people think or what they eat, as long as you're healthy it's fine.

And don't put pics of your meals on social media.

alltouchedout · 05/01/2017 09:14

I'm trying to get healthy too Op. I've swapped cigarettes for vaping and a see-want-eat approach for a slimming world diet. Work is full of people saying "oh life's too short eat a cake" and "but you love smoking and we all have to die of something just have a fag". Bastards. I don't get why people take such spiteful pleasure in undermining others.

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